Letter

Right, I want to tell my friend about my SI. So i've written a letter but I wanted to run it past you guys first. It goes something like this;

I need to tell you this but i can't at the same time - it's so hard. It sounds so pathetic out of my head but i hope you'll understand and respect me still. You can't tell anyone, plase. God - this is so hard to say but i self-harm[i think <<that sounds really dumb but i don't know how else to say it.] The only reason i'm telling you is because well you seem concerned about 'what was wrong' the other week and i was going to tell you then but it's so hard. It's one of the reasons that i don't want to be in a relationship. Anyway i've written this because i wouldn't physically be able to get the words out if i was speaking to you. This isn't a *nameless person* by the way - she did it as a phase thing and just left it behind. It's probably my fault she did it in the first place i think. But i got stuck with it and it's f****** hard - even after 3 1/2 years.
Whether or not i actually ever have the guts to give you this or not is another story but anyway i hope you can accept it.
Love Claire.

I don't want to give to much away but i want it to sound like he can ask me about it if he doesn't understand or whatever. Any constructive critism/suggestions to make it better would be greatly appreciated. This is a big thing for me.

Thanks.

Hi Jet, I read your letter to your friend and wish that you would not start it in such a self negative way. You feel a need to share this information and I would like it to be safe for you. Hi---I have wanted to speak with you about something that is too hard to say face to face. I sometimes have such great emotional pain that I self injure my body as a way of dealing with it. When I do this my body releases endorphins which help with the emotional pain temporarily.... What do you think?

I agree with WW. I know its hard not to have shaming emotions with this, but giving yourself compassion will help you and help your conversation with your friend.

Good luck *hugs*

Thanks WW that is such a better way of putting it, see i'm not very good with words. Thanks again. ((((esther))))

I just realised that half of my original post is missing lol, so it probably didnt make any sense at all.

You should post the rest of it.

I was ging to but it's not really relevant anymore because now I've told him about it.

He was ok with it. He said that he still respects me but he thinks it's wrong and he wants me to stop.lol. Also he said i can speak to him about it anytime, so that's cool. Ohyeah and he said he was glad i told him.

I can't decide if i'm glad i told him or not yet.

JBA:

It might be awhile before you know for sure. It's hard to let go of something so personal, especially when you're not really sure how the other person is going to treat you or deal with the information.

For me, that's how it is, anyway. I wish you luck. And ((hugs)) I'm glad you told him since it's what you wanted to do.

Take care of you,
Kimberly.

Thanks for your kind word (((kimberly)))

I'm glad he was so understanding, jet! I think it'll help you a lot since he accepts that you do it.

Claire, I'm so amazed by your strength. It is so difficult to tell someone about this. Hell, the only people that I was able to tell were the girls that I ended up in relationships with because they would see the scars at some point. Pat yourself on the back. That's a wonderful thing.

Ry

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Thanks, well the only other person that knows is my ex boyfriend, well and my ex-best friend but she knew like 3 years ago so i think it's safe to say she doesn't anymore.

Thanks everyone for the support and kind worrds. You're all wonderful