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Nov 02, 2009, 04:28 PM
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why I would be having thoughts of cutting after all that I learned in the hospital, the growth I had and the hard work I did on stopping the SI!!! It's like the thoughts just come unsolicited...
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Nov 02, 2009, 06:05 PM
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it's hard to break a thought pattern, but remember, it is just a thought, not an action. Hang in there.
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Nov 02, 2009, 06:46 PM
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Phoenix is right... a thought is not an action. Allow the thought to come and go like the wind. Do not try to stop a thought. Just do not pay any attention to it. The more we give it attention, the stronger it becomes. Just allow it to be what it is - a simple shadow on the walls of the mind. When your mind sees that you no longer give attention (fuel) to the thought, it will drop it.
You have a new found power over your actions. Claim and own that power and that new found freedom. |
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Nov 02, 2009, 07:05 PM
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Thank you for that, I needed that perspective. I've pretty much been able to let it just be a thought that passed as quickly as it comes. I've spent the afternoon going over some of my work from the hospital and looking over my relapse prevention page about SI. It did help to read over the negative consequences as well as positive coping responses. I did some journaling and am starting some dialogue journaling with an inside part to try to increase communication and I did remember that today is my brother's birthday; my good, nice brother who was taken away too young (age 29, he'd be 46 today) he was murdered. . .We miss him, a lot.
 thanks again for your support and caring. dream |
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Nov 02, 2009, 08:16 PM
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[quote=dreamland;1185690]Thank you for that, I needed that perspective. I've pretty much been able to let it just be a thought that passed as quickly as it comes. I've spent the afternoon going over some of my work from the hospital and looking over my relapse prevention page about SI. It did help to read over the negative consequences as well as positive coping responses. I did some journaling and am starting some dialogue journaling with an inside part to try to increase communication and I did remember that today is my brother's birthday; my good, nice brother who was taken away too young (age 29, he'd be 46 today) he was murdered. . .We miss him, a lot.
thanks again for your support and caring. dream[/quo Thank you for sharing we have bad times to but when we sit down and write what is hurting diffrent alts we can put it away more easy. it hard to change thoughts until you understand why you hurt. the hardest thing for us to understand is why we feel diffrent with diffrent alts but it is true most of us have similar but diffrent issues good luck May you find shelter from the strom 
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Nov 03, 2009, 09:53 AM
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Feelings cause the urges and feelings are seperate from our rational thoughts which do the learning. Working on the feelings is a seperate track.........
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Nov 05, 2009, 12:07 PM
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 ((((((((((((((((( dreamland ))))))))))))))))
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Nov 08, 2009, 11:16 PM
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Hi Dreamland,
Have been looking for you since you gave me this site in "that" hospital. I want to encourage you of the growth I saw in you, even in the beginning when it was so difficult. Don't be disappointed that you are having thoughts, that is totally normal ( I know, that's not the normal we wanted) but think of the tools you received. Pull out your relapse prevention plans. Just admitting you had the thoughts tells me you DID learn, and you can get through this. I'm hoping you get what I mean and who I am. You made me work so hard when I was there, and this site is helping me too. tunesinger, aka beverly 
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