[puzzclar]

The main question is How do I tell those that I have worked with for 4.5 years about the self injury thing??? I'm not like most of you, I have not cut at all. But I've done other things, and even here, I can't say what those things are. I know that I need to let the Professionals know but, I'm not comfortable telling anyone about it, any suggestions. (besides just telling them, something more concret)

Can you show them?

[puzzclar]

No, its not for anyone to see.

[tryingtobeme]

First you need to be open and honest to them about what is going on. I know this is very scare but they can help you come up with other coping stratagies or other ways to help you other thanthis thing you do.

Could you write it out? That has worked for me and I even had to have my T read it. I cried the whole time while he was reading but it all turn out okay. Shareing this with my T, made things are for a few sessions, but then, he was able to help me. So, write or list what you want to say to them. Take the paper with you. Try and read but if you can't, ask them to read it.

Would it help to maybe PM me or someone else on here and tell them what it is you are doing? I know for me, when I can let my secret out, I feel so much better, just by telling someone.

If you choose to do that, I will not judge, as I know I have done some things that I can't really show either but they are harmful to me. I do understand where you are coming from. Take care and keep me posted.

[3velniai]

I told about it in the email to T. I just wrote that sometimes I cut. And then I continued with "I don't want to talk about it" for quite some time. If you don't feel comfortable sharing the whole thing, how about saying that you SI for a start, and then you can leave it for some time until you are more comfortable about it. You choose how much to say and when.

[puzzclar]

I have told them that I SI, but that is the only thing that I have said, I just can't quite handle it. I did write a letter to myself, that I now write on when I do SI, but I'm not sure if that will help or not. I just feel as if I can't find the words to tell anyone on the how issue. It's something that I am attempting to stop, just, it's not quite working, yet. Still any other thoughts about to tell them, would be much appreicated.

Write what you can about the SI. Mail it to your therapist. You might also ask the therapist to send you some questions he/she may have after reading what you wrote. You can work on those. It may be a good idea to mention you are having a hard time disclosing what you want to say.

The idea is to start getting this stuff out so your therapist can help you. Do what you can and go from there.

Good luck, puzzclar. You deserve to feel better.