[Lexicon78]

I just woke up from a "nap". Couldn't stay asleep. I only slept an hour and woke to an empty bed. I forgot how horrible that feels. Once again my bf fell asleep on the couch, which really bothers me to the point where I want to cut. A bit extreme, I know, but that's what I am triggered to do. Probably because I think he doesn't want to sleep with me. Yes, I know he falls asleep on the couch because he's tired, but I can't help but think there's something wrong with me that he can't come to bed when he's tired enough to fall asleep.

I really don't get it. When I'm tired I go to be, why can't he? I really don't understand it.

[bipolar_bear]

Coming from a "couch sleeper" myself I can say that it has nothing to do with me not wanting to sleep with my husband but once I fall asleep on the couch it seems like so much effort to get up and go to bed. I know that sounds silly but then that is what my mind tells me at the time. It also seems so cold to get up and move. It sounds stuupid as I write this but this is what happens to me. Believe me it has nothing to do with the relationship but rather that I get lulled to sleep prior to going to bed and just find it too hard to move.

Please don't take it personally. Some of us just have couchatosis I guess. Talk to him about it if it bothers you this much. I am sure he will be understanding to your feelings too. PM me if I can give you any more reassurance.

i being a man think nothing of falling asleep on the sofa/couch, it is easier than going upstairs to bed, i know this doesnt help in the feelings of rejection you awake too, to find him not there next to you, it is just a bloke thing, we do it without thinking. it is not that we dont want to wake up next to our wife or girlfriend it is just down to plain lazyness, and of course how comfy the couch/sofa is.

[JustBen]

Yep, gotta agree with mellors on this. Sometimes I just sit down on the couch with no intention of falling asleep, and then BAM! I'm sawing logs.

[SilkySpeed7]

If I fall asleep on the couch and get woken up I get down right orny because then I cant go back to sleep.......I used to fight with my ex on this one.....unless you are getting other signs from your BF like decreased intimacy and other telltale signs of distance, know that you are okay..........

[JustBen]

I wonder what it is about guys and couches?

(((((((((Lexicon)))))))))
Listen, next time he falls asleep on the couch, grab a blanket and plop yourself right on top of him and sleep there with him. Let him know that if he IS sleeping on the couch to avoid you-it's not going to work.

[Liquid]

I dont really dont know, ive never been able to sleep anywhere but in bed, MY bed. I even find it hard to sleep in comfy beds in hotels or in guest rooms let alone the couch or on a plane!

If im just as partial to my bed its very easy for him to be partial to staying on the sofa if hes falling asleep there.

[tamzinrose]

That's a good point.