wanting to cut

googley · May 16, 2011, 11:28 AM

Last session my T and I discussed scary stuff for me to talk about. When I think about it, it makes me want to cut. I have all these mixed up feelings about the topic. I've mentioned before to my T how the whole thing makes me want to cut. I wish I could just get over it. But I know I can't. I know I have to talk about it. It would just be so much easier if it didn't make me want to cut. There are way too many feelings coming up about it. I can't control them. I feel like a failure.

granite1 · May 16, 2011, 12:43 PM

googly

i'm sorry you are feeling so bad.sometimes dealing with these things just hurt so bad

**Angel** · May 16, 2011, 12:52 PM

Hey Googly, I am sorry to here your session didn't go to well, before going to your sessions, do you know what you want to talk about? Maybe you could ask your T that you want to talk about something else, or you are not ready to talk about these specific subjects yet??

I hope you feel better soon for now, why not look at some coping strategies? Here you go...

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The A-Z of distractions
Often the best thing is to find out what has worked for other people who understand where you're coming from. TheSite.org asked young people from young people's mental health service, 42nd Street in Manchester, to come up with some of the alternatives that help them.
Alternative therapies: massage, reiki, meditation, acupuncture, aromatherapy.
Bake or cook something tasty.
Clean (and won't your folks/housemates be pleased!).
Craftwork: make things, draw or paint.
Dance your socks off.
Eat sweets or chocolate for an instant sugar rush (but be careful of the dip in your mood once it's over).
Exercise for a release of endorphins and that feel-good factor.
Forward planning - concentrate on something in the future, like a holiday.
Go for a walk (preferably further than the local pub).
Go online and look at websites that offer you advice and information.
Hang out with friends and family.
Have a bubble bath with lots of bath bombs fizzing around you.
Have a good cry.
Hug a soft toy.
Invite a friend round.
Join a gym or a club.
Knit (it's not just for old people you know).
Listen to music.
Moisturise.
Music: singing, playing instruments, listening to (basically making as much noise as you can).
Open up to a friend or family member about how you are feeling.
Pop bubble wrap.
Phone a helpline or a friend.
Play computer games.
Play with a stress ball or make one yourself.
Read a book.
Rip up a phone directory (does anyone actually use them these days?).
Scream into an empty room.
Shop 'til you drop.
Smoke - smokers find that having a fag can help.
Spend time with babies (when they're in a good mood).
Tell or listen to jokes.
Use the internet.
Visit a zoo or a farm (animals do the best things).
Volunteer for an organisation (will make you feel all warm inside).
Watch TV or films - particularly comedies.
Write: diary, poems, a book.
Write negative feelings on paper, then rip them up.
Yoga: meditation, deep breathing - this might help you relax and control your urges.
Zzz - get a good night's sleep.
Updated: 13/09/2010
Written by Julia Pearlman

Take care ((((((Googly))))))))

Sannah · May 16, 2011, 02:07 PM

Googley, this is what all of this is about. This is the struggle. You can't control your feelings. They need to come out. You are not a failure. This stuff IS hard.

Xeneon · May 16, 2011, 02:12 PM

(((((GOOGLY))))) Please don't cut!!! Your not a failure, it just what you know, when dealing with your emotions. Its your coping skill. Stick in there, I'm cheer you on.

googley · May 16, 2011, 04:33 PM

Granite- Thank you for the hugs. It means so much to have your support.

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Originally Posted by **Angel**

Hey Googly, I am sorry to here your session didn't go to well, before going to your sessions, do you know what you want to talk about? Maybe you could ask your T that you want to talk about something else, or you are not ready to talk about these specific subjects yet??

I hope you feel better soon for now, why not look at some coping strategies? Here you go...

It wasn't that the session didn't go well, it was that it was intense and brought up all these hard to deal with feelings. I can't avoid the topic any more. Thanks for the hugs.

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Originally Posted by Sannah

Googley, this is what all of this is about. This is the struggle. You can't control your feelings. They need to come out. You are not a failure. This stuff IS hard.

Why not? Why can't I control them?

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Originally Posted by BgChef53

(((((GOOGLY))))) Please don't cut!!! Your not a failure, it just what you know, when dealing with your emotions. Its your coping skill. Stick in there, I'm cheer you on.

Thanks Chef.

Sannah · May 16, 2011, 06:58 PM

Because feelings aren't meant to be controlled, they are meant to be expressed.

Nemo39122 · May 16, 2011, 10:12 PM

((((((((((googley))))))))))

You're not a failure! Don't make me tacklehug you

Seriously though, you said you know you need to talk about it. You know I'm almost always in chat if you ever want to talk

littlebitlost · May 18, 2011, 11:41 PM

They're called FEELING because we have to FEEL them. Not helpful hey? Lovin that distraction list. Got a pet? Cuddle it. Unless it's a fish, then stare at it, and maybe stick your finger in the water.... I cuddled a fish once. Didn't work out so good.

I find reading jokes is good. And doing something like tetris, where my mind is used and can't wander off. It's too little to go off alone anyway!

Take it easy!! Hang in there. You'll be ok!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Fuzzybear · May 21, 2011, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Sannah

Googley, this is what all of this is about. This is the struggle. You can't control your feelings. They need to come out. You are not a failure. This stuff IS hard.

Thanks for this Sannah

After being told a truck load of **** recently (nowhere on pc) your words are like fresh water... after drinking poison

((((((((((((( googley )))))))))))))

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