I am in DBT therapy. DBT is great for those of you who are not in it.

As part of our group - we have homework each week. And then in the first 1/2 hour we all check-in with what we did with our homework.

Well I didn't really get the assignment. And my anxiety prevented me from asking then or calling in for help. Now I am freaking out over being unprepared for check in. Feeling like I will be "yelled at" (even though I know they do not yell at anymore - more of the 'i am disappointed in you' stuff)...........

point is i am freaking out and feeling urges that the admins here do not want me to mention..................

[Frankbtl]

Hi UM, you're there for help, now if it's not working very well for you it's time for THEM to "step up a gear".
It's not that you just couldn't be bothered with the assignment, it's that you had REAL difficulties with it. Now it's good that the areas you're having difficulties with are being highlighted so as you can get more "appropriate" support.
Now the old story just like with school or college, there are always going to be people better at things than us, it happens! So yes there will probably be people who easily pass the assignment but you know that doesn't say everything about them.
And given a different assignment, or the support you need to do it as yourself, you might have passed a different assignment even better than them, or put much more effort in than them (which passes you better than them in my book! ).
So hey, maybe they haven't had the difficulties you're having, so big deal if they do pass easily (not much of a challenge for them!).
So hold your head up!! You're giving this a go!! You're there, you're letting them know where they could do better in making the DBT work for you!!
Really you're all part of the process in helping them realize how they can improve the support they're giving both to you and maybe to others!! You're a driving force!!!
Just make sure you get any additional help you need to complete your assignment.
Best wishes
Alison

Alison,
Thank you so much for your nice words. I really do appreciate all the support I get here........... (I wish I could repay everyone for my endless 'needs').

and as a follow up - there are nine people in my group DBT therapy - four of us didn't really understand what we were supposed to do. So, I guess it was not just me who was a moron................ (but I do the moron thing better than most).

[SeekerOfLife]

Originally Posted by Useless Me

Alison,
Thank you so much for your nice words. I really do appreciate all the support I get here........... (I wish I could repay everyone for my endless 'needs').

and as a follow up - there are nine people in my group DBT therapy - four of us didn't really understand what we were supposed to do. So, I guess it was not just me who was a moron................ (but I do the moron thing better than most).

Nice to see you have a sense of humor. I too have anxiety problems. I used to take DBT, but the therapist who teaches it lets the class take over, so there is not much of a class. Perhaps five minutes is spent on instruction, 20-30 minutes on break in the middle, so that leaves about one hour to chat (i.e. waste my time).
When several people did not "get" the assignment, I guess it said something needed reviewing. Hope the next session goes better. Hugs to you.

[Frankbtl]

Hi UN, sounds like it's the people/person running the group who's struggling a lot more than you are taking it then!
Good thing you're challenging them if they need to look at reviewing their techniques a bit more!!
Doesn't necessarily mean that it won't help though, if you can clearly explain your difficulties to them and they can make it a bit more person-centered for you (and the others!).
But I'd always say don't at all feel uncomfortable, or that there's anything wrong with you, in raising that you don't "get something" in a group, there may well be two or three (four in your case! ) others who are thinking exactly the same thing but just too afraid to say what you're saying!! So speak up, and get that group to be the best it can be!!
Alison