[InACorner]

i didnt know where to post this question...self injury or here...but since i feel it might not be as seen by younger individuals ..or others who might become embarressed or insulted i decided to post here...i am sorry if i made a mistake...so be careful....
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I self injure alot...absurd amounts...on my stomach...well when i was not in a relationship....it worked
but now it doesnt....i cant hide my cuts from the one im intimate with ...so what am i to do? I want to be intimate with my bf but now i have to go to extreme lengths to hide the elephant in the room....one time ill go nake but it will be in the dark so dark you cant see a hand in your face...to a just wearing a tee shirt...and it makes my boyfriend want to cringe...he hates my SI with a passion..i guess thats a good thing...but i have to do everything in my power for him not to see it...even though he knows its there...i dont know exactly what question im asking...i guess im just posting the problems...if you have any suggestions...id appreciate it...and by the way...i cant cover them up with make up...or band aids....like i said i dont know what im looking for here...but if someone could just say something...or hug me....or have an idea...i dont know..im lost

[tranquility]

((((((inacorner))))))

Unfortunately your only solution to this problem is to continue to work on getting your SI under control. Looking for a way to continue but hide it is like picking a scab off a wound - it will always be a problem.

The only way to get rid of the problem is not to do it. I know it is very hard to do and I'm not making light of it, but that really is the only answer to your question. Also, if someone gave you suggestions on how to hide it, that would be irresponsible because it woud condone that you hurt yourself and no one here wants to see you hurt yourself.

[Raynaadi]

I agree. I don't think anyone's going to give ideas for how to hide an addiction. I'm agreeing that the only solution is to get help to stop it.

[Direction]

Agreed...

(((((((((((((((gentle hugs)))))))))))))))

i wish i could help you. but i agree with just keep on getting help on how to stop.

love you, e.mom xoxoxoxoxoxox

[InACorner]

thanks...yea i guess i should have known that answer..im just outta options to the point where that is my only option....thanks for your support.
love, inny

[Raynaadi]

They have treatment centers for SI. There are still options.

((((((((((((inny)))))))))))))

be honest and open with it to ur bf
he knows u do it
u know u do it
u know he knows
dont let it be that elephant
be proud of who u are
so u cut to cope
its not like ur the first to do that
stand tall head held high
ur brave and strong
let no one tear u down
if ur bf is ashamed or upset let it be his issue
its not urs
he should be proud of u
and accept u for u
with the scars
ur a wonderful person
the scars are not u
they are a part of u yes
but they do not make u u
((((((((inny my sweet sweet twing dont ever forget our theme song dont ever forget where u are now that u are soooo brave and soooooooo strong))))))))))

[ally88]

awww... ((((((inacorner))))))
im sorry. i'll give you a hug. i guess i agree with ray and direction, thats all i know to do. im here for you.

[asylumgardens]

Hi Inny, I know the only thing to really do is stop, but even then the scars you have now will still be visible. The best thing I can suggest is along the lines of what esqueelio said. Your boyfriend obviously cares about you and he does not want you to hurt yourself. If he cares about you like that, I'm sure he'd love to be able to see you while you two are intimate. If he knows it's there, I'm sure he understands and won't think it's gross or weird or anything. You should, while trying to stop cutting, try to accept that it's okay and like esqueelio said, it's just part of you, not all of you, and surely your boyfriend can see past them.

[Christine329]

It is so hard to face SI when you r not one who engages. I have been with my husband for 8 years, married for 4, he only just recently has seen the extent of my SI. I had him read about it and learn why I do it. He is understanding yet at the same time sad for me. We try to work on other coping skills but nothing, to me, beat SI. My hubby is wonderful and it is sad to be intimate with him and try my hardest to hide my cuts but I know he loves me no mater what and he sees my cuts as "I need to be there for her more" he is trying his hardest to get me to stop but 8 years in and Im still doing it, he has accepted it and is willing to not say anything about it or to be there for me in my times of needing to SI. Your bf shou8ld read up on it, become interested in it and try to understand your triggers and help u to find other ways to cope. I know, easier said then done, but knowing the one u love is there and understanding, not passing judgement can keep u from SI, not all the time but sometimes and that is a lot, it is a huge step and he needs to learn about it, get into your soul and become u to understand what is going through your mind when u do SI. If he can do that then he can understand and be there and not be judgemental and then hopefully he can deal with the fact his gf SI and he can help u work on not doing it aqnymore or at least decreasing it. Many many hugs to you.... hang in there and the very very best of luck to you.

[silentlyscreaming]

Although I agree with what others have posted about stopping being the way to get rid of your scars, I know how embarrassing they can be and the lengths you sometimes have to go to conceal them.
On saying that, I have found a great product that is available that drastically reduces a scars visibility. Its called Bio Oil. U can pick it up from a chemist for about $15 for 50ml. Its also great to use on stretch marks.