Are breasts really that important?

I totally agree with BrittneyNicole and Perna.
He will love you no matter what.
And also congrats on the weight loss.
=]

I have to say that i am in exactly the same boat as you. I lost nearly half my body weight and practically all my breasts.
My fiance used to say that the thing he loved most about me was my breasts so im sure you can imagine how devastated I was when I actually came to the realisation that they were no longer as "perky" and big as they had been before the weight loss.
I also went through the fears of him taking an interest in a women who had bigger breasts then i did, but at the end of the day if something as simple as breasts could make a man stray then he wasnt yours to begin with.

If YOU accept and love your body, trust me honey....he will too.

Breast size is not important, being with someone who loves you is.
If they love you, you could look like a rock and it wouldnt matter, you have to learn to love the body you are in, its yours, love it, wether its large small or non existant.

As someone who has undergone surgery and received breast implants three times... I am now a D cup. I started off as a AA... I can tell you it's not going to save your relationship or make your partner love you anymore.
I was with the same man throughout all of my procedures and he hit me when i was a AA and he hit me when I was a D...
If anything, do it for YOURSELF and your own self esteem. No one elses.
I don't regret having it done now because I can find bras and I fit into clothes better!

My wife tells me that she's gained 70 pounds since we met. I'm going to take her word for it but honestly, I haven't noticed... I didn't fall in love with a number on a scale - or a cup size, I fell in love with her and everything else is superfluous.

As a man...I like 'em on women..no matter what size they are.

When i'm losing pounds i might do chest presses with the weight machine...keeps them a little bouncier. I have struggled with the issue of breasts for years. Keep thinking of getting plastic surgery on them when i'm feeling really really low. but I haven't gotten it yet, and H doesn't complain. They are too small for my tastes, but he says they are fine. I wouldn't worry about it--there are probably little things HE could be obsessing about his own appearance too, but you love him like he is
Im trying to figure out how intimacy works and being like present during physical moments, and I think that during intimate physical moments, it's supposed to be more about the intensity between two people, and the feelings and all that. If the couple can focus on loving each other (and get out of their own heads/insecurities), supposedly it's blissful and neither cares how they look, according to societal standards.
I haven't mastered this concept yet though. good luck with your struggles.

Here's a question.
If your fiance would leave you because of that, is that really the kind of guy you would want to spend the rest of your life with? He loves you because of who you are. If he didn't like it I'm sure he would've said something when you started losing weight. Congratulations on that by the way

As for the question of if breasts are important, I personally think they're useless (I don't particularly like and never want to have children, so to me they are). People think I'm much younger than I am, and not just because of my younger looking face lol
But I don't mind, I'd prefer guys look at my face when I'm talking to them and when I date people I'll know that the person likes me for who I am. Plus I'm a pretty athletic person (martial arts mostly) and I don't really know but I would think having large breasts could eh, get in the way a bit lol

Wow! I wish I could lose 70 pounds! I congratulate you on the weight loss! I wouldn't mind being down to an A cup!

One thing I've observed over the last year is the fashion trend toward showing too much cleavage (my opinion) in everyday wear. I see it at the middle school where I teach, with many students (young girls!) as well as a few teachers. I'm not a prude by any stretch of the imagination, but I think it's inappropriate. I think this trend also puts unnecessary pressure on those who lack the cleavage.

Try not to dwell on this thing with yoru breast size. You should be proud of your weight loss. I hope your fiance appreciates it too!

Patty

I dont really care is they are or not..... because they are mine and no one else needs to like them, but me.... enough said.

Wow, I just read this entire thread over again. Thank you THANK YOU for your kind and thought out, detailed opinions and responses.

Update - I am now newly married (to a different man - not my ex fiance) and my new husband seems to LOVE my breasts (even though they are little). I believe him for 2 reasons - 1) his actions match his words as he seems to always touch them and 2) I know 2 of his ex girlfriends and they are "flat" and very thin all over so this is conforting to me. I guess this is a good thing that he adores my breasts and I but of course Im still depressed and self conscious about them. I haven't made any efforts to get plastic surgery (mainly because of lack of funds) but I still dream, wish and obsess over having larger breasts (like I used to have before I lost all of this weight).

I have a new question that I'd like to ask. Do you think I will ever accept my smaller breasts and be happy with them? Is it even possible? I've been struggling over this for a long time and Im trying so hard to convince myself to just accept and love my body (esp. my breasts).

Some guys like 'em small....I like 'em all

From a guys point of view - boobs are important but the size doesn't matter.

I think that might be the best thing about them, that there all different kinds!

My Husband wishes I had BIG boobs, but he still loves me anyways...

I have always had big boobs. I used to be a DD. They just sort of "popped" out when I was 11 and 12. I have stretchmarks to prove it. LOL. I'm a petite and find that they are just too much. I cannot wear a regular bra because it's too uncomfortable does not fit all that well. I'm always trying to mash them down with sports bras in attempt to make them smaller. The minimizers do not do the trick.

I am not bothered by the fact that I am slightly assymetrical because I had heart surgery when I was 6 months old.

My breasts extend all way to the sides that when I lie down my boobs fall into my sides in the armpit area. I know I would never get my breasts reduced because I just cannot afford to have it done. I wish for them to be reduced. I want to be free from wearing bras of any kind. Every time I go without a bra, I'm more aware of my boobs bouncing around. It feels so ridiculous and my hubby always could tell if I'm not wearing any bra. Does anyone else notice that? LOL! I'd keep it if it wasn't too much for me to deal with the inconveniences.

Who likes to look at boobs that look like the crack of your butt???????????? That's why I don't wear low cuts, although I would LOVE to.

Bluntly speaking as a male, not at all.

Now know this for a stone cold hard fact. There is a percentage of men that clearly this would be an issue but you can easily avoid that by not being attracted to that shallow of a person who is in to big boobs just because they are big.

I myself think that breasts are beautiful and are part of that woman. And when you are being intimate the pleasure is not lacking based on the size of the bra that came off! It's all good!

There are many shallow men who are attracted to large boobs, and then there are some men who are deep who just still love large boobs. Both of these groups combined are still the minority of men. Studies show men are attracted to nice butts first, boobs second, and legs third. Of course thats just the immediate physical attraction, not the deeper attraction that keeps people in love.
I have worked with many women with this longing, and I can tell you that for about half it fades with time, and for the other half nothing will do but a boob job. I'm sorry if this is politically incorrect, just what I have seen. And for those who were otherwise psychologically normal, the boob job solved the problem. For those who had many other self esteem issues, it really was a waste of money. Hope some tough truth helps...

Forgive my relative ignorance, but are those not called "moobs"?

Back to the topic at hand, breasts don't make a woman. Take it from a decent guy, that if your fiance truly loves YOU, he will love your breasts just as much now as he did before, if not more because you've gotten rid of some unhealthy weight. You are who you are, and if he's worth marrying, your cup size is the last thing on his mind. That's how I am.

If I can be totally honest I would say it doesn't matter . . . up to a point.

I was always somewhat ok with my breast size...would have felt much better in clothing if there wasnt a void...but wasn't that attached until I met my current husband. Prior to our marriage, he never really put me down for being a B cup, but much later I found out he was addicted to Porn. Believe me, there are no small breasted women in porn...of course this is just a very small piece of my story. Was and have been willing to go buy some (boobs)...but then that's a 2-edged sword there..and he swears he doesnt want that...
I never really was concerned....until I was made to feel that way and owned it. This whole culture can certainly make any woman feel less...which we know has led to major concerns with anorexia and bulimia...etc etc...it can be very sad and infectious.
Happy for your weight lose..no matter where it came off..the goal is maximum health..

Babies love them, men admire them and we have to wear them - I imagine they are important but, yours are yours and mine are mine and that's what is exciting; guys and babies never quite know what to expect do they. If he loves you, he loves all of you not just the headlights, I'm sure the hood and tailgate are in good shape now. - Well done with the weight loss too, he should be proud of you.

Love and best wishes Jasmine

Sorry you are feeling this way.

I'm a guy with a fetish for big aureolas, but what really matters, with regards to looks, is how it all fits together as a package. There's lots of sexy women with small breasts and/or small tits. For me, the biggest turn-on is a nice smile.

Well, I am a male answering this question just to let you know ahead of time, but I have a reason.

First of all, congratulations on all that weight loss! It feels great to take off some weight. I remember when I took off 40 pounds in a summer and I felt really good, I wasn't huge to begin with but I really slimmed down after that. That's great that you were able to lose so much I am happy for you .

Secondly, as a male, breast size does not matter to me. In fact, I prefer them smaller rather than too large, but that's just me. Most guy friends I have disagree with me completely but breast size is definitely not the first thing I look at and in fact doesn't factor into my decision at all. I don't think it's that important. I have been with women of all shapes and sizes and the least thing on my mind was what their cup size was.

So, my point is you definitely shouldn't feel ashamed of your size now that you've lost weight. Breasts aren't really what make a woman, and if any guy thinks that then trust me they aren't the one for you and you need to find someone else.

Hope this makes you feel a bit better .

If you're worried about what the guys are thinking, you can forget that and get on with the sex. You've done a lot in losing weight and you'll be healthier and more robust in the sex you are having. Congratulations to you!