So I've been a sex addict since I split from my husband in 2008. I have seriously slept with 70 or so people. None of whose names i remember. I don't even know that I asked. I went from hating sex one day to loving it the next (I had an orgasm for the first time and that is what changed me). Since then I've been chasing that high and it's nowhere to be found. It's so hard for me to orgasm because of my medication so it's doubly frustrating. I go to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous and that is helping so that is good. I haven't acted out in over thirty days. Thank God for that. I hate craigslist. It makes it so easy to get sex I can't stand it. I put an ad up and ten minutes later am walking out the door. Or stacking them up to come to my place every two hours. Sigh what a terrible addiction to have. Any advice?

[ariesmars]

wish i could find someone to have sex with. but i could not just do it with anyone, im still a 32 yr old virgin! sigh..just once..thats all i ask.

[Malachite]

Dear Tara,

My thoughts are the sex you are having is less than satisfying. May I ask your age, and what medication you are currently taking?

Larry

Hi Larry,

I'm 30, and am taking abilify, wellbutrin xl, celexa, inderoll, and visteril.

Tara

[sugahorse1]

I agree that you need to try and stop what is going on. You are enjoying the physical aspect of sex, but ignoring the fact that it has an emotional effect on you too. I hope going to the support group will help you work through this.

Is it possible that the Wellbutrin has increased your sex drive? I think the Celexa will make orgasm hard.

But if you had never experienced an orgasm while married, sex would never have seemed as enjoyable, and I'm sure it would have impacted your relationship too - I'm sorry.

Thanks for telling us your story, and i hope you manage to find some support here

[einundzwanzig]

I am only a sex addict if Im drunk... you are doing right by getting help. so yes thank God for that. i have heard sex is a way to deal with problems like drugs. im glad you no you need help, good luck, hope you get over it.


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[Malachite]

Dear Tara,

I think, it would be helpful if you posted a chronology of your life, i.e., a time line of sexual, social and psychological events. I'm curious to know, when you started taking medication and why you took it. Also, what was your sexual experience before your first orgasm, and what were the circumstances of your first orgasm, e.g., was it with someone other than your husband.

Larry

[whisperfades]

I m sorry it is hard for you to orgasm tara.For me it is wayto easy.I donno whats worse.Both sound frustrating.i dont sleep with lotsa peopol but i am addicted to feeling it.But its not even something im trying to do half the time.whats worse?did you ask your doctor if the medisins is wats causing the problem?I dont take meds I just have avpd but maybe its the medisins.yah einun,alcohol makes it to easy huh.sugar is right about the emoshunal part.i gues that why i have the problem is because the emoshuns are connected to the body.sorry speling need spell check.I hope you ask the docter about the meds.whisper oh aries im so sorry.heres a hug for you (((aries)))

Originally Posted by Malachite

Dear Tara,

I think, it would be helpful if you posted a chronology of your life, i.e., a time line of sexual, social and psychological events. I'm curious to know, when you started taking medication and why you took it. Also, what was your sexual experience before your first orgasm, and what were the circumstances of your first orgasm, e.g., was it with someone other than your husband.

Larry

Hi Larry,

Well, I was abused as a child and raped as an eighteen year old at college. I married my husband to get away from my rapist. My husband lived in England and I lived in northern california. Understandably I hated sex. I was with my husband for seven and a half years and never had an orgasm. I hated sex and only had sex once a month at the most. Sometimes I would feel so guilty about being a horrible wife I would initiate sex. There were times that he would start to touch me during my sleep which would totally freak me out. Other times he'd wear his metal watch to bed and that would start a flashback. It was horrible. Well, we separated at seven and a half years and I moved away and met somebody. He was very patient and kind with me and my issues. It was strange, he could touch me anywhere he wanted to unlike my husband. The first night we had sex was weird, I wanted it and was massaging him then in one fell swoop it started and I had my first orgasm. From there on I have been chasing that "high". We broke up after a few months as I went back to my husband to try and make it work, it didn't. From there it seemed like I couldn't help but sleep with guy after guy after guy. I couldn't believe what I was doing because i think it is wrong but I simply couldn't stop. I use craigslist to find men to sleep with and it is so easy. I put an ad up and ten minutes later Im walking out the door to some guys house. It's ridiculous how easy it is. What scares me is that I'm not safe about it. In the moment I want sex and that's my only goal. It's a true addiction. It's like going to any length to get my drug. Some days I sleep with six people. I try to use condoms but some times (because of my sexual preferences being bdsm) I'm not in a position to insist.

Tara

[Malachite]

Dear Tara,

I have three more questions for you:

1) Under what circumstances did the medication become part of your life?
2) When did you first become aware of your bdsm preference?
3) What role has masturbation played in you life, i.e., if any?

I hope, I am not being too probing,

Larry

[quote=Malachite;1694516]Dear Tara,

I have three more questions for you:

1) Under what circumstances did the medication become part of your life?
2) When did you first become aware of your bdsm preference?
3) What role has masturbation played in you life, i.e., if any?

Medication became part of my life when I attempted suicide in 2001. I first became aware of my bdsm preference when it was introduced to me in 2009. As a child I was forced to masturbate. It became a shame thing that after my first orgasm I got over it. Now it's compulsive. I'm trying to stop it but am having difficulty.

Tara

[BoldMeister]

[QUOTE=tara_922;1727088]

Originally Posted by Malachite

Dear Tara,

I have three more questions for you:

1) Under what circumstances did the medication become part of your life?
2) When did you first become aware of your bdsm preference?
3) What role has masturbation played in you life, i.e., if any?

Medication became part of my life when I attempted suicide in 2001. I first became aware of my bdsm preference when it was introduced to me in 2009. As a child I was forced to masturbate. It became a shame thing that after my first orgasm I got over it. Now it's compulsive. I'm trying to stop it but am having difficulty.

Tara

I don't think you being extremely active sexually has to be a problem.

Can I ask - are those many partner even satisfying your sexually? I mean, REALLY satisfying you? I bet most men aren't. They scratch the surface, but none of them DEEP DOWN satisfy your needs, and that's part of the reason you keep searching.

Can I suggest something here. You need something which will 100% satisfy the craving and not have you back for more. Have you heard of the Sybian? It will allow you to get IMMENSE pleasure beyond your wildest dreams, all in the comfort of your own home, without all the risks of engaging strangers. This device will satisfy any urge, no matter how intense, and should you keep you in check. After using the machine for a period of time and the cravings start diminishing, you should be able to concentrate on other things.

Hope this helps