Please give me some advices

hi, am writing this thread coz I knw I will get some sincere advices, here's my problem.. I have been in a serious relationship with my gf for nearly 3 yrs now.. at z start of our relationship, everything was fine.. we were in two diff countries but she used to stay wiz me a lot and want me a lot too.. nw am bak in my country but she has changed.. I am always wantng her but I rialy hav to get lucky for her to want me..maybe once in two months.. I feel like an immature sex freak bf.. I mean, is it bad to want ur gf every day? I feel really dejected, she nearly doesnt hav timw for me bcoz she has to study, help her mother,father.. she always has something to do.. is it bad to want ur gf to want u? I feel the need of being appreciated.. my body yearns for someone to touch me.. to make love to me n to make me hers.. is it too much to ask? I also hav a v.high sexual desire and I hav to watch porn n masturbate nearly everyday. which makes me feel really bad n pathetic... am so fed up.. am at a point where am thinking zat I lack something n am really really pathetic.. please giv me some advices...
thanks.

I'll bet you are young, which means sex is more of a body function to you right now than an intimacy function. Sounds like your girlfriend is ready for the next step of intimacy in being seen as a person with heart and soul instead of an "object of your lustful affection."

The object of masturbation is ejaculation; however, the object of a love relationship is intimacy in addition to climax. When you learn how to make love with your heart, not just your organ, you will have truly "arrived" at what most women want for a long haul relationship. SQ

hi. it appears that you need to have a talk with your girlfriend. have her feelings for you changed? is there someone else? or, has she matured while you have not? it is very difficult to maintain a relationship when both people are in different countries.

what else are you doing with your time other than porn? do you work? do you go out with friends? go to school? it sounds like you might live an isolated life. to be a well-rounded person, you need interests other than sex. sports? reading? career? travel? it sounds like your life revolves around your girlfriend and nothing else, and that does not sound healthy and could be why she is keeping you at a distance.

Hi, I am half a century old, or aged. i am fine with sex, i don't have any abnormal
desires, only just need it three times and I am okay and good to go. Any more
than three times a day and it is over doing it.
I hope you work your issues out though.
Sex drives do 'ebb' and flow' (go up and down) through life. but you need to
work this out in talk or therapy with her, you can't be this frustrated.

Sandee.

Talk to her man. It sounds like for her the issue isn't about sex at all. Maybe the distance has been affecting the way she sees you? Go into the conversation trying to fix things, but don't be surprised if the conversation throws you some things you don't want to hear. Take it in stride and again, try and fix things and bring your relationship to a place you're both comphortable working in.

As for wanting to be wanted, and touched, these are very human things. It's not a relationship if only one side wants the other, and it's not very fufiling if only one side touches the other.

Although I know all of the evil sides of the porn industry, it's not bad to look at porn. I do! Most people do. It's really not bad to masterbate every day either. Again, you're human. Once a day is really not that bad. Don't feel ashaimed and pathetic for any of that.

If you're worried about getting a bad rep for the kind of porn you're watching you could always check out feminist porn idk if you'd be into it, but it's pretty good, completely consenting and 'real', though not geared for men I'm sure you can still enjoy it!

Good luck, and remember that you're worth something, and deserve to have your needs met too.

KLove