Who's the oldest virgin on PC?

I've had sex with a few women, I'm not spiritually bound to them. I don't regret it. It's life lived as I want to, not how some people believe a fictional character has told me to. I'm in a 4 year relationship with a woman who I love, who I am not married to and have a 2 year old daughter with. Waiting for marriage is as outdated as the beliefs from which it comes.

I was a virgin until last year (I'm 27). I only did it that time and never spoke to the guy again. I don't regret it at all, but it sucked and wasn't anything like it was supposed to be. Maybe I should try women? *shrug*

I like girls more but having avoidant personality disorder keeps me from being with ANYONE no matter what their gender.

Without being reincarnated? You don't...

I know it is considered shameful to admit that youare a virgin nowadays-but I think, it is very good.

Please. I'm 36 and still a virgin. And not because I want to be.

I think it's mostly because I'm a disabled transsexual man who is gay and gets so worked up about relationships that I can't function when I'm in one. I don't have casual sex. I've met absolutely no one in the gay community who wants to actually LOVE a transsexual.

Basically, I'm giving up, too. I hate my life. I hate being gay. I hate relationships. And I've even been seriously considering suicide because of all this. Oh well, just one more leech on society dead... just another loser gone. No one will miss him.

I don't get why this question would be considered unimpertinent on a psychology forum. On Ebay's miscellaneous forum, yes, but here?

I disqualified for this in college, but I'm older and have never been married and have had a life of solitude with much less sex than desired , and it's embarassing when people, such as nosy coworkers, inquire then make rude comments. Family who know about my lack of sex seem to gloat about getting their fill, but it's not really anything to brag about considering all of the miserable ugly people out there who have sex on a daily basis. It's kind of like bragging about having four wheels on your car.

I'm 26. hmm, I don't really hold any shame about sharing. It doesn't really matter to me (when I finally lose it), but it does seem to bother other people. I've had people ask me if I am 'saving myself', lol. I'm not. I'm just not particularly interested...have no real urging to do anything. I consider myself to be an asexual.

19. No rush for me. I've plenty of time, despite what the twilight of puberty and my raging hormones want to tell me about it.

I.Toilet, Sorry but you're not a virgin. How can you be ? You've had sex. So what, it was boring, it still happened. Why delude yourself ?

do you want to have any childeren?

Im 17, virgin and proud!

I am 27 and asexual. I just can't even comprehend doing it. I also don't want kids because my illnesses can be passed along more easily plus all the stress that comes from taking care of a child.

I know the question wasn't directed at me, but if this is where this topic's going, I'll throw in my two cents. I don't want children and I'm glad I haven't had children. I like kids (to a point, and as long as they're behaving, or if they do something funny that the parents have to clean up and I don't!), but raising them is hard. I also couldn't afford them. I feel freer not having children and have no regrets. However, when I was in the 5th grade, I told my friends that someday I'd have "8-10 kids, maybe as many as 14." No foolin'!

^^^ I dont want any kids. Like Maven said, they are hard work!

I went without sex and without masturbation for three and a half years and my new partner said about me with all that "Wow, this is like taking a virgin".

So I am not a virgin, and although I was a virgin until fairly late, statistically speaking (20), it was not very very very late. By 30 I definitely was not a virgin - in fact, I had three children.

But I take the prize, still. For BEING with the oldest virgin - a guy who was 40. It was my birthday present to him. I was 26, in-between marriages, with one son. He took it very seriously and thought/hoped that I would marry him. He is still hurt and offended that I did not marry him. To me back then it was just a humorous event - who would not have wanted to give oneself as a birthday present to a 40 year old virgin guy? I mean, how frequently do you see 40 year old virgin guys? I was very amused.

This was 10 years after he first fell in love with me.

So, a highly unusual story. More unusual than my having akathisia on Seroquel and anorgasmia on a bunch of other psych drugs. Those were also rare events, but less rare.

In hindsight, I regret that I did not treat him with more passion and more seriously back then. But I cannot go back and remedy anything.

It was a good gift that kept on giving - he did go on to have more intimate r/s with women, according to his reports, and even got married, but never had children and never cohabited with his wife - they maintain separate households and apparently only meet several times a year and it is unclear what those meetings entail. But still, some semblance of sexual life is present, so to those who start off late - you can still do it.

here here illegaltoilet that's what the sites for is in it? if you can't feel safe and comfatable chatting about what's on your mind on here than really what can and can't you say.

It IS an interesting question, but why should it matter? I detest movies like "The 40-Year-Old Virgin." As if virginity is a disease or something terrible, anyway. Let's just say I waited until marriage and am proud of it. I was in my mid-thirties.....One of my therapists was amazed that I had waited so long. But it was a gift for the special man I married. And I never had to worry about accidental pregnancy and having to consider abortion or raising a child as a single woman or getting a social disease or a man like Barney on "How I Met My Mother" who just uses a woman as a sex object.

I heard of a woman who was in her seventies who was marrying for the first time--and was asking a friend about how this sex thing was done. Yea for her!

is it about a man or a woman?

I still find it odd when the word "virgin" is used to described a man.

Well I agree with some people in this thread.. asking this kind of question on a site full of strangers may not be the right place...

my reasons are because

1. there are many religions / cultures that believe a person should not have sex before a certain age or marriage and so disclosing ones own "status" could possibly lead to members thinking or speaking ill of those who are not virgins.

2 there are many members who are not virgins due to their surviving child sexual abuse, that fact alone can cause a survivor to fall into depression or feel ashamed when reading this kind of question...

that said

this site is about free will where we dont have to answer any questions in which feels triggering, uncomfortable...

I will answer the question...

I am a sexual abuse survivor with a history of having DID, alters that were sexually active and other dissociative issues due to the abuse I went through.. I was sexually abused before the age of 5, therefore I have not been a virgin since before the age of 5.

I chose to answer the question so that others can see that its ok. theres nothing to be ashamed of. the abuse is something that happened to us not us seeking it out, and when we did seek it out after being abused again theres nothing to be ashamed of. those of us that sought out sex after the abuse well it was just a case of either imitating the abuse that we went through, or sex was used as a coping mechanism, or we sought out what we thought was love because we were not getting the kind of love from those who should have given us safe, nurturing, love.

Just a bit of info about "virginity" around here where I live and work that term doesnt only mean whether you have had sex or not. it also means in the medical sense of the hymen has been broken. this can happen in non sexual ways too. I know many many children of all ages who's medical reports say they are not a virgin because they fell riding their bike or landed too hard across the jungle gym bar, ran with a toy in their hands, stumbled and the toy landed underneath them...

theres all kinds of reasons why a person would not be a virgin, its not only about sex. I give this info just as another way of letting those who know they are not virgins, know that there is nothing wrong or shameful in it.

"The 40-Year-Old Virgin" was about a man. I guess that's why it was particularly considered a big deal that he had not had intercourse yet.

32 and a sex and relationship virgin, sucks don't it?

SadSamuel, if you want to have a relationship and be involved sexually with a woman, then it could be an issue. But I just don't think men or women should feel upset about it, especially if it's because their society seems to think it's bad to be a virgin after a certain age.

If you do feel like it "sucks," then I would suggest seeing a counselor and working through your barriers. There's something to be said about the enjoyment of just kissing, especially if one's partner is just not good in bed!

And, yes, on the other side, folks who have been sexually abused need not feel guilty about that. It wasn't their choice.

I will watch it.

this is an interesting question which i am not sure i can answer, i was abused when very young, so i guess that counts as losing my virginity, that said my GP does not think i need the manditory smear test given to women of reproductive age here because she says i was so young that the hymen will have sealed over again as i was still growing . so i guess she sees me as still being a virgin. so i am pretty confused as to whether i am still a virgin at 42 or not! all i know is my childhood experiences turned me off the idea of ever having sex as i see the whole thing as creepy and disgusting.