[hamster-bamster]

It was an impromptu idea of my male friend from Maine. He is the son of my ex 2nd H's former gf and they lived together and developed a r/s which outlived the romance between ex and gf, so the guy visited us. It turned out that he and I went to the same preschool, except that I was 7 years older. Because of the age diff, because I was married to someone who was a father figure, because the guy is infinitely boyish and because I helped him find jobs, because of all that I feel maternal towards him. So... I was taken by suprise when he suggested "masturbation therapy" (a lovely coinage, I think) over Skype. I know everything about his sex life and he knows everything about mine, in RL. But doing it together was a novel idea for me. And, I was a bit embarrassed. But, I tried my best while being a bit embarrassed. He liked everything.

Then I had to call it a day because I am bipolar and thus in need of a strict bedtime.

But eventually we will do it again and I am looking for ideas: what can you over Skype? I have seen posts in the R/S forum referencing Skype sex in LD r/s so it does happen. Here there is no r/s, just pure therapy.

What does masturbation therapy treat?

[hamster-bamster]

Loneliness.

[hamster-bamster]

So... I much recommend it. Safety is unmatched. Quality of orgasms is better for me than from solo masturbation, probably because humans are social animals. Lastly, the satisfaction from the win-win situation: you do something that you would have been doing anyway, but, there is someone else who likes to see and hear it. Pure gain. And, to repeat, record safety. He is a low-tech person, like me - no vibrators in his 35 years. Just human touch. That is sort of unusual these days.

[pimmy55]

im a 60 yr old man with diadetes and hi blood pressure.i had a hernia op over a year ago and since then i;ve had ramdon erections that can last for up to four hrs i have tried just about everything under the sun but the only real thing that works is masterubation but it takes longer and longer i saw this post so i hope i can get some help

[adam_k]

I've used skype, not for this, but to talk to my wife when she was visiting her mom in Florida. It works really well and I don't see a reason you couldn't use it.

[pimmy55]

Can I ask hamster bamster or anyone how I approach the subject of Skype I have only told one person in the real world about my problem I would hate to upset her she has been very kind to me and more than understanding I could not bare to loose her friend ship any help would be welcomed

[LiteraryLark]

Try dressing up, using toys, role-playing, playing truth or dares...I've never done it but that's what I'd recommend.

[pimmy55]

Bamster tell me how you approached the subject I am so sick of being alone

[hamster-bamster]

I am sorry that I am not following yet, since it is my thread and I should be following, having started it, but I have just been very busy with some other things lately.

[pimmy55]

ok sorry new to this i'll look elsewhere thanks, hope everything goes ok for you

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by pimmy55

im a 60 yr old man with diadetes and hi blood pressure.i had a hernia op over a year ago and since then i;ve had ramdon erections that can last for up to four hrs i have tried just about everything under the sun but the only real thing that works is masterubation but it takes longer and longer i saw this post so i hope i can get some help

Well... diabetes can lead to erectile dysfunction and so can high blood pressure. Apparently, not for you. So that part actually seems good...

Who has performed the operation on the hernia?

[archipelago]

I'm interested in this idea and have been afraid to try it. I recently got in trouble for something I wrote with sexual content while I was asleep on Ambien so I've felt traumatized by sexuality since then.

I do have toys and have just started to try, but they don't seem to be working which is not typical of me. I simply want the physical release of tension at this point, but I think that it is hard for me right now because of the still fresh problem concerning sexuality. Perhaps finding a "sex buddy" even on the internet might help me overcome this problem?

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by iota

I'm interested in this idea and have been afraid to try it. I recently got in trouble for something I wrote with sexual content while I was asleep on Ambien so I've felt traumatized by sexuality since then.

I do have toys and have just started to try, but they don't seem to be working which is not typical of me. I simply want the physical release of tension at this point, but I think that it is hard for me right now because of the still fresh problem concerning sexuality. Perhaps finding a "sex buddy" even on the internet might help me overcome this problem?

I do not have any experience with either sex toys or with anonymous sex buddies, but just theoretically it seems to me that even anonymous sex buddies over the internet are still, to a certain extent, human, while toys are not. So theoretically, I do see a benefit in trying a "sex buddy" on the internet provided that you take extreme care to protect your privacy and security.

[hamster-bamster]

and, they are not mutually exclusive - you can combine Skype and toys.

[archipelago]

Thanks, it's just reassuring to know that I can continue to feel my sexuality, which I've always felt comfortable with, and not treat it as a problem, which my unfortunate incident made me feel bad about.

Toys are just an aid to relaxation and the body naturally responds. It's nothing kinky. I think that finding someone on the internet is probably not a good idea at this point. I feel far too vulnerable and do not really like various things that might be expected.

I'll work it out on my own and figure out what might be something to try.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by iota

Thanks, it's just reassuring to know that I can continue to feel my sexuality, which I've always felt comfortable with, and not treat it as a problem, which my unfortunate incident made me feel bad about.

Toys are just an aid to relaxation and the body naturally responds. It's nothing kinky. I think that finding someone on the internet is probably not a good idea at this point. I feel far too vulnerable and do not really like various things that might be expected.

I'll work it out on my own and figure out what might be something to try.

Yes. The flip side of dealing with humans is that they can have expectations while the toys do not.

[pimmy55]

Well went to see doctor another op can be done but would be bigger than the first plus up to three months recovery time don't know when I can find all that time.also said blood pressure meds may be having Viagra effect so some has been changed,no change as yet.(I know doctors have seen everything but having an erection inspection is as embarrassing as it gets) but thanks for your posts.

OMG.

-Fleeing Bellocq

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by pimmy55

(I know doctors have seen everything but having an erection inspection is as embarrassing as it gets) but thanks for your posts.

People with severe constipation do not have fun being examined by doctors. I think an erection is better is a bit better, but I cannot quite compare since I have never had either erections or constipation...