Side effects of mastrubating too often

Masturbating before bed helps me sleep, but not always. It helps me get a little more relaxed.

I second this.

I probably this 2 or 3 times a week and it helps me nod off.

I don't just do it for the sake of it though, there's always a reason behind it.

I know I personally feel WORLDS better the less I masturbate. I mean, on every possible level. I feel healthier, happier, and like I'm just a better all-around person when I can abstain from masturbation for as long as possible.

I feel this way too.

ok, it has been a few years since I last posted here, and so now I have some new things to report.

I have recently learned (ask me and I will refer you to the book) that compulsive masturbation is a symptom of having experienced truma in early life. i have had the tests done and i suffer from EXTERMELY low testerone (and other hormone) levels and i cannot undergo hormone therapy due to health issues.

i have just had a triple hernia repair performed because of masturbation!

i am still recovering from the surgery. most of you will think that is bullsh** because hernias are usually caused by doing something with too much weight or resistance than your body can tolerate. however in my case i was removed from the place i lived when last i posted to this thread to be hospitalized for three weeks and am now in a new Apt having moved in with nothing but the shirt on my back. in the time between 4/2014 when i got out of the hospital and now 1/2017 i have not lifted anything heavier than around 20 pounds. so how would you then account for having gotten three inagual hernias? you guessed it, masturbating on an average of 1 - 14 times a day. using a three day at a time reference.

that being said, no i can not claim to doing this every day. i use the three day time frame of reference because that is the longest i go without masturbating.

on the point of sex with a partner, i also have something new to report. i cannot remember the last time i has sex at my old place of residence but it is around 2009 or 2010. it is now 2017 and i have had sex with a partner 1 time back in 4/2014 the experience left me feeling DEVESTATED because i again lost interest very quickly though i had finished/climaxed within 5 minutes and found i could not "go another round" my partner was too understanding, but i still felt a failure at something i used to be quite good at.

from 2014 thru late 2016 it became harder and harder to achieve an erection so i became quite good at "beating a dead d***" so to speak. however when i had my hernia repair (one on each side of the groin and one behind my bellybutton) imagine my joy at becoming able to achieve erection again.

contributing factors in my case: age, health (20% kidney function, heart deasese, and blocked arteries from the waist down (so blocked the doc could not even get a blood pressure reading in my legs)) as well as mental/emotional health issues.

again these are my own experiences and yours may be different.

There's such a thing as excessive masturbation. I understand that everyone is different, but I find my average is once ever couple to every 3 days. I think that is a healthy amount. Anything more than once or twice a day is considered excessive I think. Working with a therapist will help with this.

thank you for that, but it hasn't so far. in my case I think the originating trauma needs to be dealt with before help can be provided. till then? life goes on.....

Well, then work with a therapist to identify and heal from the underlying trauma. I discussed the concept of possibly being sexually abused as a small child and my ex T said that, "things happen, sometimes painful and emotionally traumatic things, but it does no one any good to hold onto the pain from something that happened so long ago, something you can't really control anymore. What you can control is how you let go of the pain and trauma and live your life the way it was meant to be lived."

She also said you can't change the past, but you can change how you feel and make your future what you want it to be. I know these things are very hard for some folks who've really been hurt and traumatized, so I wouldn't expect it to work easily for everyone. However, they've worked immensely for myself.

Here is a link to an article about letting go of past hurts and moving on. Maybe it'll help, even if it's just a little bit.

Learning to Let Go of Past Hurts: 5 Ways to Move On | World of Psychology

@OP (post#1): I'm a little late in the discussion, but I think the frequent friction with no lubricant could cause some damage. Being bored is probably the reason for doing this all the time. Personally, when I'm bored and depressed, I feel it's the only way to get pleasure, and it could become addictive. The average sex time is about 6 minutes or less. If you can push that to 15-30 minutes that would be awesome. Women need about 18 minutes to orgasm during sex. Four hours edging is way too much in my opinion. It's not just it could be damaging to your physical health (hair loss is something wouldn't worry me too much, I would rather be worry about nerve damaging from friction), it's interfering with your everyday life. Of course you don't enjoy real sex, because no one would be able to do sex for 4 hours. I think you need to take a decision to resist the urge to masturbate. Cutting it gradually. Go from multiple times a day to once a day, then once every two days, .. and so on. I think once (for less than an hour) every 3 days is fine, at least in my dictionary.