How important is orgasm for women?

Hi,
this Q is mainly directed to women, but men knowledge is also welcome.
Also I wonder, how oft would be 'perfect' for a female to have an orgasm? Can it be really as frequent as for men?

I'm in a relationship for more than 8 months and I really care about my partner. She relaxes more and more during time, but of course, to me is way easier to achieve it.

Thanks for the answers

For me, orgasms aren't that important. As long as I have fun while masterbating or having sex, that's what matters. I've never had an orgasm, so maybe that's why I feel this way. And while I would like to have one eventually, it's not my priority. Things can still be fun and feel good without having to orgasm.

Just my 2 cents....orgasms are VERY important!

Very important. When my wife and I did still have a sexual relationship (years ago...) I always felt something was missing, as she had never had an orgasm with anyone. The sexual side of our relationship felt, consequently, very one sided. To me, having an orgasm with someone is -at least potentially - an incredibly vulnerable moment of deep sharing.

"To me, having an orgasm with someone is -at least potentially - an incredibly vulnerable moment of deep sharing." Wow that is a perfect way to describe it"

Orgasms are very important to me when I masturbate, but not as important when I'm making love. I enjoy the emotional intimacy as much or more than the actual orgasm, so if I don't have an orgasm it's not the end of the world.

Two things for the men reading this:

1. If a woman doesn't have an orgasm when you're making love it doesn't mean that she's cheating on your or doesn't love you or isn't attracted to you. It could just mean that she's tired or nervous or just not in the mood.

2. Please don't ever pressure women to have an orgasm. It was so important to my last BF and he would get mad and disappointed if I didn't have an orgasm. I felt so much pressure that I just couldn't get there and ended up having to fake it to prevent fights! It was a vicious circle.

SOME Men seem to care more about womens' orgasms than the women actually do!

I did not have a lot of orgasms with my most recent ex.

I am on psych drugs, so I rarely have orgasms, even masturbating.

I am one of many who does not have orgasm through intercourse...orgasm is important in that it relaxes me and makes me very hot for my partner...my current partner hasn't been consistently successful in getting me to that point although what he does feels good...I am confident now in own sexuality to do that myself while we are having intercourse, which actually feels pretty good. I was more shy to do that when I was married but during the last years of my marriage I would ask if I could give myself one as sex with him was very much one sided and I often felt frustrated if I didn't. Prior to that I was afraid to hurt his feelings so I didn't do that. My sex life now is much more liberated and I do what makes me feel good without feeling like I have to ask.

It isn't important to me. I have never orgasmed during penetrative sex, and I never will. Some men like to hear you enjoying yourself and take it personally if you don't. It is silly in my case as it just won't happen. The last guy I was involved with didn't like my lack of noise. I can only achieve orgasm through masturbation, and I think I am too used to that now. I do prefer clitoral stimulation to intercourse, I imagine because that's what I do to masturbate. Men prefer penetration. But there's no way I could ever really enjoy that. I have vaginismus so the whole thing can be an ordeal. I have enjoyed sex but certainly would never orgasm through it. Maybe I'm not the best person to ask as I suffer from vaginismus, but I know it isn't important to me. I like kissing and touching, and being emotionally intimate, not physically intimate. If I can talk to a guy for hours that is a good thing. I like being cuddled in bed and falling asleep in a man's arms. I like feeling protected. Orgasms are something I can't achieve during sex and there are other ways of being intimate so it isn't important to me. But as I say I am not the best person to ask.

Super important!

Thanks for the answers!!!
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Do You Know Which Organ This Is? | IFLScience

WHile orgasms are important for me they are not everything. The very act of having sex with my husband is incredibly intimate and that is what matters most to me. I love to make him feel wanted and to please him, and in the process he always makes me feel wanted too. I love the journey not just the destination

When I do orgasm it is incredible but it does not happen every time and that is completely OK. I always tell him that I enjoy every part of love making and treasure him
He is not a failure if I do not orgasm. It is just where my body is that day

I have committed myself to being available for him whenever he wants it and He does the same for me and knowing that each of us is always there for the other makes all the difference

I've used this with my own kids to explain sex especially with my DDs Bec it's never really covered in sex Ed classes.
Most diagrams show the clitoris as a little button which is a real false. There's much to it which can lead to many different types of orgasms.
Thanks!

I love sex. It feels amazing. I rarely have an orgasm with only penetration though. I can if he uses his fingers. It's amazing. Now that I've quit Zoloft I can orgasm again. It was a fruitless task on Zoloft. So disappointing.

I can still enjoy sex very much and get pleasure without orgasms, but then again, I can have one (or more) quite easily from sex, although not every time. I really enjoy feeling my partner climax and that gives me a lot of pleasure. I don't look at sex as only a means to reach orgasm, and I'm not only focused on the "finish line." I love every part of the act.