[Britbritt89]

That I'm a 18 year old virgin. Every guy that I've told that to has been shocked. My friend that I told you about in the other post said that I was too pretty to be a virgin. What's that supposed to mean? That pretty girls give it up earlier? I just haven't found that person to make me feel relaxed yet,and I don't know when I'll find that person maybe when I get married,but until then I'm going to stay a virgin,as frustrating as it is, I have no choice.

[Cyran0]

Don't give in to peer pressure, have sex when you're ready.

Cyran0

[salukigirl]

im not trying to talk you into it cause lord knows i wish i would have waited til i at least had my drivers license lol

but im curious as to why you say you have no choice? and what do you have no choice about?

[salukigirl]

also i forgot to mention that the "youre too pretty to be a virgin" is just mysoginistic bull. thats a guys way of saying "if a guy wants it, he gets it. so if youre a virgin that must be because no man wants you, not because of choice". if someone ever says that to you then tell them that you dont need a man (or a womans) seduction to lose your virginity. its your body and your choice. dont buy into that crap.

sorry. i forgot that part lol

[Britbritt89]

I have no choice because I'm not going to be able to do it until I find someone I am very comfortable with, that may end up being my husband. I get so scared when I try to do it that I almost pass out most times....

[hangtough]

Trust me, no matter what wait for that special person. Wait until you are married.

I started pretty early and I had wish i hadn't.

Vance

[salukigirl]

im sorry but i really despise abstinence only education. over half the population is divorced. actually its closer to about 60%. over a quarter of women after they get divorced end up in poverty. why would you want to buy into an institution thats based on that? just my opinion. you dont have to get married to love someone. my cousin and her s.o. have been together about 5 years and have 2 kids but will never get married. my aunt and her boyfriend have been together about 15 years and will never get married. there is absolutely nothing that says marriage will fix things. if you feel comfortable before then do it before then. if you never feel comfortable, then never do it. but dont set a point. cause thats when girls get so worried about getting married but not who theyre getting married to. they want the wedding and the wedding night but never think about who its with.

and think about how likely it is that the guy you meet will also be a virgin. not very. how would that make you feel to wait for 20 some odd years for this man and he didnt do the same? it puts everything on an unlevel playing field.

the best you can do is be safe. dont do it til youre emotionally ready, nothing else matters. and when you do it use a condom at least. if the guy actually cares about you then it shouldnt be a big deal for him to go get tested for stds.

[Raynaadi]

Brit, wait as long as you need and don't comprimise your morals. To your own self be true. I admire you. I was a virgin until I was 21. I don't regret when or with whom I lost it to, but I went kinda nuts for awhile after him. So......be true to yourself. Only you know whats right for you.

Please wait till you are married. It will mean so much more. I was a virgin until I was 23 so don't feel bad. I regret that I slept with my husband before we were married. The wedding night just seemed like it was missing something since we had already did it ahead of time.

[youOme]

I lost my virginity when I was 14 to some kid I grew up with in the neighborhood. We weren't even boyfriend and girlfriend, I just wanted him to like me. Afterwards he started dating my best friend...lovely eh. Anyway, I always regretted not waiting for the right time or right person. I felt if I did I would be cooler and more people would like me, I was obligated. When I look back on it, I was so naive.

Don't necessarily wait till you're married, I mean if you can good good...but just most definitely wait for love. I imagine if I would have lost my virginity to somebody I loved the experience would have been much better despite my age and situation.

[scott88keys]

Hang tough babe. I admire you and you should be so proud of yourself not to bow to peer pressure. I'm married 10 years and waited to have sex until I met my wife. I have Christian values, but even if I was another faith, I'd want to wait for the one who felt right. She wasn't a virgin, but I got past that. THese days it's unlikely to find many people who wait.

You can't make the decision to have sex the first time in the heat of the moment during passionate kissing. It has to be a logical decision you make with your head and discuss with the guy. Both of you have to be on the same page regarding birth control.

Look at you. You never have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy, whether or not to have an abortion, or STD's, not to mention dying from AIDS.

Wait until you feel ready. Feel proud. You go girl!

[salukigirl]

please remember that marriage isnt for everyone. dont feel like you have to get married to have sex. no one on here can give you the answer you want. dont wait til marriage because marriage is a personal choice which you might choose not to do. do it when youre ready.

[Rhapsody]

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Good for YOU.......... and please do not let what other people have to say about you in a negative way decide when you will become sexual - as it is up to you and your heart when you are ready.

And IF it helps And Shhhhhhhh (don't tell my son I told you) - but he waited until he was 19 years old to have sex / sexual relations.
"I was so PROUD of HIM" for waiting as long as He did.

[Irine]

eh, What a stupid big %#@&#! deal people make of it, and how rude they are interfaring in some els`s life!

if some1 would ask ME if i were a virgin i would give him a finger and say "none of your business" because it`s really not.

you seem to be pretty convinced about waiting for the time when you meet some one who`s worth it.

i feel for you getting mad at stupid falks who just push their noses into other`s perosn life.

It's good that you realize the signs of "being ready" and you recognize that you aren't. Just keep trusting that.

However, I am a bit concerned when you write "every guy I've told...." You'd probably save yourself a lot of trouble from annoying guys if you didn't tell them. Not being rude, just my opinion. It's one thing to get mad if a guy asks you about your sexual history. It's a whole other thing to get mad at his reaction if you actually went ahead and told him. Just be careful what you tell people. It's really none of their business.

[salukigirl]

not saying that this is the absolute truth but it almost sounds like an attention thing. you think maybe you just like the attention you get from being a virgin?

[sidony]

I was 20 when I lost my virginity. I remember being shy of telling the guy involved, afraid it would freak him out that I'd stayed a virgin. He was a little freaked by it, and so he did his best to make it a special experience for me. It is a very sweet memory that I will never forget. I hope it will be the same for you.

Sidony

[hangtough]

That is great. Don't be one the girls who give's it up to everyone.

If you wait until you are married it will mean even more.

Vance

[I_WMD]

hehe sidony ,,,,, When I was 20 My sisters ( have to say ) drop dead gorgeous friend ,,, 18 yrs old ... Had been getting drunk with my sis and they had a sleep over..

I came home sometime later ,, Showered and put on a T-shirt and shorts ,,,, entered my bedroom to find a naked Babe in my bed .

I woke her and realized ,, I was someone she trusted ,

After putting on protection and really being happy land ,,,I realized ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

She was a virgin .

I got her dressed and talked about stuff they did that day and then told her to sleep . [ 20 year old guy . Me. ]

Next Day she asked me what happened ,,, and I told her she was so beautiful ,, but I figured out that this was a trust thing not a Love thing.

And from then on ,,,>>> ,,,I was her adopted Big Brother .

And I was very Protective of Cindy .