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Old Sep 03, 2008, 07:04 AM
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I dunno where to start. it's not really a big issue for me - if something happens something happens with whoever.

Not that anything has happened, or probably ever will.

Anyway, I just want to clear things up, whether it's a big issue to me or not, I like to be as clear and honest with myself as possible.

I don't think I'm Homosexual or Bisexual, but breasts can turn me on. I think it's just because I imagine someone doing it to me, though for some reasom i sometimes imagine doing it to other girls. That is, playing with them. I don't really tend to watch this, but I see it sometimes flicking through TV channels and sometimes surfing the net, in pop-ups and links sayign they're something else. I like to think that when I see myself doing it to other girls it's because I want someone to do it to me - knowing how to get a girl going and doing it. I suppose it's because I want people to act how I want them to act. In real life, if a potential love interest doesnt act the way he does in my head he loses 'points'. (Not that I have a pointing score, but you know what I mean XD). So, I suppose I firgure that only I can really know what I want, and that might be where it stems from.

I can look at a woman and think: Wow, she's gorgeous! but that's in a totally none sexual way, and I find men less attractive. Then again, I haven't been attracted to anyone in so long,that might just be my depression and me looking at girls is because that's how /I/ want to look - whereas i don't want to look like a man.

But whenever I dream about sex it's with a man, and I've only ever been interested in dating men. I wanna fall in love with a great guy, get married when i've finished uni and when i get my career in line, then have kids at some point. I mostly don't fantasis about women, so I get confused when I sometimes have dreams about them. I try and reason it out, but I'm still a little confused XD.

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Old Sep 03, 2008, 11:52 AM
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Dear Melpomene,

Your dreams and fantasies, are not, unusual by any means. Almost, every woman I have ever known, reasonably well, has related such thoughts and dreams to me. Many of them acted on their fantasies, many of them didn't. In most cases, their same sex activity was ancillary, i.e., they were primary heterosexual. They were, as you describe yourself. Who you engage sexually, is a choice, nothing more, a manifestation of your preference, at the moment.

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Old Sep 03, 2008, 03:11 PM
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Thankyou!

It's nice to know I'm not the only one.
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Old Sep 03, 2008, 08:55 PM
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Yeah, those feelings are confusing! But, just a note to say, you're definitely not alone. You will figure it out in due time.
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Old Sep 05, 2008, 05:53 PM
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That's reassuring to know .
Thankyou!
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Old Sep 08, 2008, 01:28 AM
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While your thoughts and feelings may be confusing they are still with out a doubt normal and felt by many other females in this world that are not bi or gay, therefore, you may consider your self a regular normal red blooded woman.
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Old Sep 30, 2008, 04:04 AM
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through yours words you obvious not a bi
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Old Nov 29, 2008, 02:13 PM
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I felt the same way! Whenever I'd see girls kissing or touching on TV I would get a bit excited. Breasts and legs would also totally turn me on too... not sure what to tell you but I'll share my experience at University with you. I think I was always somewhat attracted to woman and men in my teens. When I went to University I made friends with this really cute girl (Olivia) on my hall who was bisexual. At first it was friendship and I didnt know she liked girls. One night we got super drunk together and we made out. It felt really great but I was really intimidated to let my feelings out so I kind of avoided her for a while till she cornered me a week later. We talked about it and I confessed to her how I felt about woman and that I liked kissing her. So we decided to be friends and see what happened. We got really close over time and decided to date. I dated her for about two years and then we broke up and I met my ex-husband. I guess I just wanted to experiment and she made me feel safe and I liked her more then a friend. I really liked her but I wanted kids and a family and I also liked guys. I met a nice guy and ended up getting married then divorced. I say experiment and see how you feel. If your attracted to woman express your feeling and see where it takes you? I met a girl I really liked and we had many great times together. She was sweet, sensitive, and a great girl friend. I think you've got nothing to lose! Good Luck

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I dunno where to start. it's not really a big issue for me - if something happens something happens with whoever.

Not that anything has happened, or probably ever will.

Anyway, I just want to clear things up, whether it's a big issue to me or not, I like to be as clear and honest with myself as possible.

I don't think I'm Homosexual or Bisexual, but breasts can turn me on. I think it's just because I imagine someone doing it to me, though for some reasom i sometimes imagine doing it to other girls. That is, playing with them. I don't really tend to watch this, but I see it sometimes flicking through TV channels and sometimes surfing the net, in pop-ups and links sayign they're something else. I like to think that when I see myself doing it to other girls it's because I want someone to do it to me - knowing how to get a girl going and doing it. I suppose it's because I want people to act how I want them to act. In real life, if a potential love interest doesnt act the way he does in my head he loses 'points'. (Not that I have a pointing score, but you know what I mean XD). So, I suppose I firgure that only I can really know what I want, and that might be where it stems from.

I can look at a woman and think: Wow, she's gorgeous! but that's in a totally none sexual way, and I find men less attractive. Then again, I haven't been attracted to anyone in so long,that might just be my depression and me looking at girls is because that's how /I/ want to look - whereas i don't want to look like a man.

But whenever I dream about sex it's with a man, and I've only ever been interested in dating men. I wanna fall in love with a great guy, get married when i've finished uni and when i get my career in line, then have kids at some point. I mostly don't fantasis about women, so I get confused when I sometimes have dreams about them. I try and reason it out, but I'm still a little confused XD.

Any comments?
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Old Dec 11, 2008, 02:16 PM
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This is definitely very normal ive felt the same way and im not gay but as they say maybe a little bi curious!
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