For about a year I've really wanted to be a female, some say its my age (18) but as my therapist and I have discussed my sexual needs I find myself wanting to be with women as a woman, my T doesn't know (but she will next session) that I want to be the opposing gender, but I do and I've come to conclude that, I cry about it, and it hurts, It all came about when I discovered porn and discovered transvestites or in porn "shemale" are they real like in porn or in real life are they different? I'm so scared I brought this up I may offend someone please don't take it that way....questions, concerns, ? I dont know what to do....help....

[cybermember]

Originally Posted by Moonkin

For about a year I've really wanted to be a female, some say its my age (18) but as my therapist and I have discussed my sexual needs I find myself wanting to be with women as a woman, my T doesn't know (but she will next session) that I want to be the opposing gender, but I do and I've come to conclude that, I cry about it, and it hurts, It all came about when I discovered porn and discovered transvestites or in porn "shemale" are they real like in porn or in real life are they different? I'm so scared I brought this up I may offend someone please don't take it that way....questions, concerns, ? I dont know what to do....help....

Transvestite is no longer the appropriate term to describe someone who enjoys dressing in the opposite gender. The appropriate term used today is crossdresser. Crossdressers enjoy dressing in the opposite gender, but do not desire to change their gender. They are comfortable in their born gender. Transsexuals are people who desire to be the opposite gender in all aspects (mentally and physically) and accomplish the means through hormones and/or surgery.

Hope this helps.

anyone? anyone at all?

[deliquesce]

i have no real advice to offer, moonkin, but i am sending you my support.

you mentioned you would tell your therapist next time you saw her. when will that be?

[iamtwilight]

Hello Moonkin,

I'm sorry I have no advice, but maybe you would want to read about Amanda Lepore. Another article that might be interesting to you is about Jeffree Star.

Shemales I'm not so sure about, I think that is just a term used in the porn industry where the individuals do not go through a sex change, but dress as female. I'm not sure if that is the same as transvestite.

I'm sorry I can't offer anything else. I wish I could. I hope you can explore this further with your therapist and s/he is understanding of your feelings.

Hugs if you want them.

[cybermember]

Moonkin,

Get a copy of the book "True Selves; Understanding Transsexualism" by Mildred L. Brown & Chloe Ann Rounsley. I highly recommend it to persons who are exploring transgenderism.

[Brian37]

She-males are males who have had female enhancements such as breast implants, lip implants, hair implants, and so on...some are very convincing as women

[cybermember]

The term she-male is a porn derived term and not to be deemed for use with people who are truly transgendered as this term will be seen as offensive.

Originally Posted by cybermember

The term she-male is a porn derived term and not to be deemed for use with people who are truly transgendered as this term will be seen as offensive.

I would certainly think it'd be offensive.....

[cybermember]

Originally Posted by Moonkin

I would certainly think it'd be offensive.....

I should have quoted my reply to Brian37 as that's who by response was geared toward. I'm still getting the hang of how this site works.

So, Moonkin, how are you doing with your exploration?

Originally Posted by cybermember

I should have quoted my reply to Brian37 as that's who by response was geared toward. I'm still getting the hang of how this site works.

So, Moonkin, how are you doing with your exploration?

Dont worrie

Well, I'm unsure my focus is pulled in another direction the past few days. Thanks for caring though.

[Luce]

My understanding is that true transgendered people have a strong desire to be the opposite sex throughout their entire lives: ie, from very early childhood onwards. I recall seeing a documentary following the daily lives of a couple of transgendered children, and their lives were truly dominated by desire to be the opposite sex. It was humbling to watch - I don't know how anyone could see that documentary and not feel incredible empathy for these young children who emotionally, mentally and consistently viewed themselves as being in the wrong body. I remember one child who would pray every night for God to take his penis away in the night, and would cry upon wakening every morning when he found it was still there.

Back to you, Moonkin... you say you have had these feelings for about a year, so my uneducated guess is that wouldn't fit the definition of transgender. Nevertheless, the feelings are there and therefore deserve your further exploration of them.

I found myself and its in a mans body..I guess I was just confused when I posted this.

[cybermember]

Originally Posted by Moonkin

I found myself and its in a mans body..I guess I was just confused when I posted this.

Glad to hear you did some soul searching and acknowledged for yourself where you desire to be.

Also, thanks for trusting enough to put words to your confusion and expressing them here.

Best to you.

[teejai]

http://www.tsroadmap.com/
http://www.gendertalk.com/
http://www.susans.org/reference/index.html
http://www.geocities.com/transboi80/resources.html (F to M)
http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conw...yn/Evelyn.html

http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/print...ender-children
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/7689007.stm
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/7774840.stm

[Maik]

Learn to love yourself first and take your time about deciding waht you do (in that order). Life is good!