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Mar 19, 2006, 09:37 AM
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Had to go buy new bras for ever-growing body.
Decided to try them on. Woman standing in the cubicle, surrounded by mirrors was not me. How could that woman let her body come to that? That woman really looked terrible. That woman should be ashamed of herself. That woman may never look in the mirror again. That woman felt the ugliest she has ever felt. And that woman left without a new bra - coz nothing would fit.
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Mar 19, 2006, 09:50 AM
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I hate those mirrors, and the lighting..... ugh!
You are not ugly!!  
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Mar 19, 2006, 08:25 PM
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{{{{{{{{{Sabrina}}}}}}}}} You are a beautiful person
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Mar 19, 2006, 10:25 PM
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Sabrina, I think all of us women have felt like that at one time or another. Society has this way of shoving what is "supposed" to be beautiful and exceptable down our throats. I rarely ever look at celebrity or fashion magazines, because I don't believe in the standards our society has set as the "ideal". And you know what? I may not know you, but I DO know that you are beautiful, because to me every woman is beautiful in her own right. (and men too) I hate superficiality, and I tend to march to the beat of my own drum. What it comes down to is you feeling good about yourself. If you feel out of control, whether it's gaining weight or some other issue, you ARE in control and you CAN make a difference. I hope you find your peace, and the right bra.
 Also, I agree with Fuzzybear, those dressing room mirrors and lighting really do stink!Hugs to you, Sujin |
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Mar 19, 2006, 11:39 PM
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Thank you so much Fuzzy, oksomaybeimnuts and Sujin, I appreciate your kinds words.
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Mar 20, 2006, 10:58 AM
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For what it's worth, I have a hard time bra shopping too. I have a large rib cage but small cup size. There's only one company that I can find in stores that sells bras in my size.
And what's up with dressing room lighting? You'd think if they wanted us to feel GOOD in their clothes and buy them, they'd use flattering lighting. Argh! ((((((((((((Sabrina)))))))))))
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Mar 20, 2006, 11:13 AM
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Thanks wi_fighter. Going to try again tomorrow. This time I really will convince myself that the person in the mirror is not a mirror image but a temporary situation!
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Mar 21, 2006, 04:54 AM
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hey if worse comes to worse, just remember you regenerate all your cells every like 7 years :P
Seriously, though I feel the large rib cage thing, same here, and I feel the same way here now too. blech. maybe instead of hunting seals for seal blubber they could use ours. |
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Mar 31, 2006, 10:15 PM
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My body is rather short and chubby. I can't find bras because my cup size is too big. I am also relatively large around the middle.
It is what is inside (character, willingness to empathize with others,etc) than makes a person worthwile. I believe that society's image of bueaty is only skin deep. But, inner bueaty that is just wonderful to behold. Now, if I could just convince myself of this more often. |
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Apr 01, 2006, 05:16 PM
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I'm so sorry you are feeling so bad Sabrina.
My body is on the large side and I love it. I think I'm pretty and my husband loves me. We all have SO many qualities that make up a person. Emphasize these. |
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Apr 01, 2006, 05:37 PM
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Apr 14, 2006, 11:38 PM
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just adding my 2 cents, dearheart I'am 56 yrs old , 5 foot 51/2 and very heavy, look in photo forum I'm there
as long as my hubby loves me and I mean all of me that's all that matters, please be kinder to yourself
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#13
May 20, 2006, 03:30 PM
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Boy do i know that feeling. I bought that new bra a couple of weeks ago. I have gained 56 pounds but it may as well be 256 or whateever..... I was always very thin and now wellllllllllllllllllll, even my husband finds me unattractive. He goes for the boyish type figures, like I had. I don't look in a mirror unless I absolutely have to, which is not often, thank goodness. Maybe this doesn't seem like much too some, but I never had this much weight even while pregnant. I can't deal with it and dieting doesn't work, heck i don't even have an appetite. Something really wrong with metabolism and stuff but haven't found and endocronologist yet in my area that takes my SSI this so suxxxxxxxx. My heart understands and crys with you, Hugs Sabrina
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May 20, 2006, 03:35 PM
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I know you understand ... and that alone makes me sad for you ... We will survive this somehow!!!!
That is all I can say right now. ((( Walkswithspiritbear )))
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May 20, 2006, 05:03 PM
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((((((walkswithspiritbear)))))
(((((sabrina))))) C |
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May 20, 2006, 06:18 PM
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Sabrina..... We are loved for who we are and not by what we look like....
Example: I just got our photos back from our 20th anniversary trip and when I looked at one of the pics of me on the beach by the lighthouse in a spaghetti strap summer top all I could see was my fat and ugly arms.... while my husband saw a beautiful lady that he loves and that brings him happiness (every day). He actually said: I don't see that when I look at YOU.... I never notice it. LoVe, Rhapsody - 
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May 21, 2006, 11:31 PM
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Oh dear, please don't be so hard on yourself. Every woman who has had children experiences body changes.
I don't know if you ever saw classic movies, or even old pictures from the early 20th century and the 19th century, but all the woman back in them days were child bearers and bog, bold, and beautiful. Their curves, the chubbiness, their stretch marks, everything about them was beautiful. The world had changed drastically, and with that the idea of the ideal body for a woman has too. Thanks to the advertisements and Hollywood scene we feel we must be pencil thin, tan, smooth, and big breasted to feel beautiful. But those woman are figments of Hollywood and the marketing world, real woman have curves, parts that jiggle, and imperfectness. Don't allow those figments make you feel ugly and unattractive. Sabrina I can tell by your personality that your beautiful.
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May 22, 2006, 09:17 AM
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Self Esteem would be better chosen if we (the females) did away with all and any TV, Beauty Magazines, Fake Breasted Models and over doing People Watching.
LoVe, Rhapsody - 
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May 22, 2006, 09:53 AM
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Thanks for all your kind words.
You know, I don't aspire to, nor do I really wish to look like all the so called perfect bodies and faces out there. I am me and I have to live with that. I can accept certain sagging and aging bits even though it is very grudgingly. For example, I have never been bothered by my stretch marks. They are there from weight loss, weight gain, severe weight loss and then having a baby and somehow, years ago, I came to terms with them. But I want to look good for my husband. And I don't look good right now. And this whole thing has sparked a spate of self-defeating behaviour and thoughts. But I am working on it, I am trying. That is all I can do.
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May 22, 2006, 10:56 AM
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((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))
I hear YOU and totally UNDERSTAND what you are feeling.... for it is true that we are not super models, but we should and can be the best that we are. I am up to losing weight with YOU if you are - we can set up a schedule and help out with eating over line. What do you say? - are you up to it.... we can set a goal of 10 pounds per month.... I have the weight watchers points program and we can use it as a starting point. LoVe, Rhapsody -   .................................... 
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May 22, 2006, 11:21 AM
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Hi Rhap
I am already on a high protein eating plan made up for me by my gym. It is restrictive in terms of my family though (and leaves me famished half the time). I'm supposed to be making this eating plan a way of life but I am not enjoying it. My weight isn't budging despite the gym and eating plan because of a stubborn under-active thyroid and for which I have recently started taking medication. I would like to read some more on the weight watchers point system though.
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May 22, 2006, 11:29 AM
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Hmm - let me see what I can do about finding some more INFO on weight watchers....
I believe in eating in a way that does not restrict ones taste, for if we do we will only desire the forbidden foods even more (and) Weight Watchers allow that - I can loose 10 pounds a month and still have one Pepsi a day and a junk food here and there. LoVe, Rhapsody - 
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