nasty insincere stuff in others

When you think someone is talking about you.... in a shop maybe. You think you are being paranoid. But as you draw closer, you find they are indeed talking about you. I wonder if its the old old story..... maybe they are "jealous". Of what? It doesn't matter. And, their jobs are very boring.

Life just stinks sometimes. My father did not like people, and I am starting to understand what he meant, so many disappointments, betrayals, and just plain nastiness. It really does get sickening after a while

Fuzzy alot of it could be insecurity in them, when some ppl are insecure they have to make others that way too

<font color="blue">I expect ppl to talk about me. I work hard at not being just like everyone else...being talked about comes with the result I guess. My mother always said she would rather be overdressed than overlooked I like that.

I like being a mystery at times. It's ok that ppl use me as a subject for their social gathering, at least they are talking to ppl. It can be hurtful if they are saying mean things...especially if they aren't true! I have a big problem with untruths. I would rather they tell me all manner of horrible things to my face than one small untruth. I can do something about bad truthful things... can't do anything with a negative (non existent anything.)

People that don't make impressions, that have no purpose in life, that add nothing to living... aren't talked about much imo

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Thank you for replying, I am in a bad spot and I appreciate your caring, as always,

Love
Fuzzy

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Life just stinks sometimes. My father did not like people, and I am starting to understand what he meant, so many disappointments, betrayals, and just plain nastiness. It really does get sickening after a while

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Oh Fuzzy how I do understand that statement...... for after living in this world and being exposed to the evil and some times just down right rude people it is hard to continue to like some people.... I think maybe that is why so many of us choose to stay at home any more.

Some times I find myself wishing that I was born back in the old days where people actually cared more about others and where they only had a problem when someone when that person really did some times wrong, and not just because they had different opinions or views of life. - To the Good Old Days!!


LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

What's the quip, "Just because you're paranoid does not mean they aren't out to get you."

Do you know these people talking about you? If it's a shop, and you don't know them, it follows they don't know you either. Let them talk about whatever they want, it's not really about "you" because they don't know you!

(((Fuzzybear)))

Thanks so much (((((((((((( Rhapsody )))))))))))) and ((((((((((( Perna )))))))))))))

Take care,
Fuzzy

Hi Fuzzybear,
I get that paranoid feeling sometimes, too. We tend to believe people are saying something bad about us when we think or know they're talking about us. Do you know how many times I've whispered to a friend or coworker how I liked that person over there or how I liked something that she/he was wearing, or she looks like someone I know or even-just a comment on something in relations to the person at the time. For instance, in a shop, if they're looking at a certain dress, I would say something like-I tried that dress on and I looked sooo goofy in it-
So, they may have been talking about you but it doesn't have to be that they are saying something bad about you.
I try to see it that way and try to keep a positive outlook.
((((((((((FuzzyBear))))))))))))
If they were saying something negative about you then it's only an opinion and its more then likely has got nothing to do with who you are but who you remind them of or what you may be wearing-really petty crap not to waste your time worrying about.

Thanks Jax, I know you are right ((((((((((((((( Jax )))))))))))))))))

I must confess that I feel this often enough. Somehow though, and I have no idea how, I have learnt to isolate myself and distance myself from situations such as these. I create a safe "bubble" around myself. And I remind myself over and over that they don't KNOW me. They don't know who I am, what I have been through, or what I am capable of. I remind myself of that over and over.

Having said that, yes - it hurts anyway.

(((Fuzzy)))

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Maybe my bubble is my fur! Thanks for your understanding hon

Fuzzy,
Try to remember that whatever other people do or say reflects on them, not on you. They might be nasty or insincere (or acting that way), and sometimes they might direct some of their bad behavior towards you or try to draw you into it somehow. But whatever they do or say is all on them. I know you wouldn't stoop to their level, so try not to let it get to you.
(((((hugs))))))
Rap

you know me being a christrian and someone is being nasty or rude or insincere to me i usually reply
"don't worry Jesus loves you" just to see the expression on their faces makes me smile and go on with my day

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Thanks hon...... that isn't really my style, I would be more likely to growl at them But yep it is their problem, and not mine

Fuzzy,I also feel like that when im out and about exposed to other people whether it be at the gym or going to the shoping centre. I always remind myself that these people dont know me, they probabley don't even know Im there!But it is hard to convince yourself that it is just their opinion and it is nothing personally against you.