How do you like your looks?

How do you learn to like your looks? Do you just make yourself? Assuming you really aren't that good looking.

Well, I believe everyone is beautiful in their own way (sorry if that sounds cliché)- I struggle with feeling confident in myself a lot- I always have. Sometimes I put on a bit too much eyeliner, other times not much more than mascara. I think feeling beautiful is more about how you feel on the inside. Honestly, when I wear the least makeup is when I have the more confidence. But I'm learning not be so hard on myself. Beauty is only skin deep after all. And it doesn't last anyway. I think as we get older we learn to let go of needing to be perfect on the outside and start to be more concerned with how we're doing on the inside. Tha t's why we're here, right?

Its about self-acceptance for me. I hate the way I look personally, but I show up well in photographs. I even like the way I look on cam. But, I have a problem with the way I look in real life.

I guess I have to learn to accept myself for the way I am

I do like the way I look but there are some parts of me that are so ugly and wrong.... They might look good on someone else but they are not ME.

The first thing is to stop focusing on your ideal of what 'good looks' are. Take my T. He's not typically good-looking but I think he is the most beautiful person (I don't mean I have romantic feelings for him, I just think he looks lovely, if that makes sense) because of what I know about him.

Secondly, a small change can make a big difference - figuring out my hair with a good cut and a good pair of straighteners has made a world of difference.

Lastly, figure out your style and find a few staple things that work for you. I seem to suit grey eyeshadow, a bit of pink blusher, and I like to wear dresses over jeans, so that's my 'thing'. I wear stuff that I like, that makes me feel good.

Personally I'm kind of into body art as well.

Thanks everyone. That does make me feel better about it <3

I'm not attractive, seriously. That's just the way it is. Buying nice clothes and spending time with moisturizers and eye creams and stuff like that would just be like pouring perfume on a pig. Wasting perfume and pissing off the pig.


You just can't polish a turd. Do I like it? No. Can I do anything about it? No. So I don't worry about it.

I don't like the way I look so much anymore lol. Not really sure I ever did.
I'm not sure that anyone really knows exactly how attractive they are unless they are just exceptional one way or the other. Hard as it is to believe for someone struggling with their perception of looks, there really is this much more important deeper part of you.

What I did in the very beginning was find 1 thing I liked about my body, just one. After much debate (inside my head of course) I decided I would like my legs, they're not bad legs afterall. Once I accepted that I do infact have nice legs and I now honestly do like and actually pride them, I chose another body part, abdomen... I still don't (really) like all of me, but the parts I've come to love make it easier to accept the entire package as a whole.

This wasn't easy and by no means overnight, it took years of faking it but I finally like how I look and accept that I will never be the mental image I had of me growing up. She doesn't exist, but I do, and I'm not so bad ya know

Yes beauty is fleeting and only skin deep, but its my skin I have to feel comfortable in at the end of the day. My skin I have to present myself in to the world on a daily basis, hopefully with some poise and confidence.
So far I think I'm doing MUCH better in it

I don't like the way I look, and I don't know how to shop and pick out the right clothes. I'm fat and have no muscles and yet everyone keeps telling me how good looking I am. I don't believe them and now it's making me develop a paranoia about it. I think they just feel sorry for me.

I don't like the way I look. My boyfriend tells me that I'm beautiful often, but I don't see it. I'm fat, my face is covered in acne, I have dark circles around my eyes, I wish the rest of me was smaller, I have a hunch back because it hurts to sit with my back straight (my boobs are heavy), I have crooked and buck teeth. I like my butt and my boobs, but they are overshadowed by the rest of my disgusting body.

i'm another one of those people who hate their looks

i often joke that if shrek was to meet me, he'd feel quite well off and quite proud of his looks

My only good feature is my eyes. They are green and they change shade depending on what I wear. For example, if I wear light blue, my eyes look more turquoise in color and if I wear dark green, they are moss colored.

I guess my face would be pretty if I wasn't cursed with my mom's side of the family's chronic acne (my maternal grandmother is 65 and still gets zits!). I have a round face and thick light brown hair with natural honey-colored highlights.

I don't like my feet, though. Do you know how hard it is to shop for size 11.5 wide? And I'm much too tall for a girl (5'10").

Have you ever seen that movie that Dove made about women who came in and described themselves to an artist who drew them from their descriptions? Then they had another person come in (whom they had met and talked to previously) describe them and they compared the drawings. It's pretty amazing if you can find it on youtube.
We often think of ourselves as much uglier than we really are. We all have built-in "funhouse mirrors" in our eyes. When your boyfriend tells you you're beautiful, it's because you are!

Here's the link to the vid:

I despise the way I look but I fight it all the way.

My face is half paralyzed, mirrors make me suicidal.

Naturally, I haven't liked my looks and I don't think I will. But when I put the effort in it, like doing my hair, losing a few lbs., I feel good temporarily. Now, I'm tired and I don't want to spend money on makeup and $20 on foundation.

I used to try to do makeup inspired by celebrities on video (they're all over Youtube). Looking back I think to myself did I really just waste my time.

I can't explain, but now that I've got more responsibilities, trying to look pretty isn't on the top of my list. I don't care what other people look like either, so I think to myself, they must not care about what I look like.

I don't know, I like my appearance in my own way. I try to look decent, not wearing ripped up shirt with holes and if my hair is frizzy and tangled, I tie it up. I have my good days and my bad days...

I agree with all that you have said could not have put any better.

I don't feel attractive, sometimes, at the right angle I can make my face look skinny, but I feel like a fat blob of ugly

When I was in middle school, I used to cry myself to sleep because of how ugly I felt I was.

My looks have improved a bit since then, but I always tend to revert back to the "Nope, I'm just not good enough" attitude. Good enough for what? I ask myself that every day.

There is something I heard and realized that it must be true:

Think of all the models and acctresses who practically change the way they look with all their make up. Do you think they believe that they are beautiful? No. If they did, they would not try to change the way they look all the time.

So it's kind of ironic, one would think that all these models think they are beautiful. But actually, they don't. They only think they are beautiful if they put so much make up on to cover up their natural state and if they stop eating so much, to make sure they have a perfect shape. So all this hard work, just to look acceptable to themselves.

It's hard to like our looks (in some cases). But maybe we should focus on the fact that we see people around us and we consider how we would like them even in spite of their not so perfect looks. Looks are not everything. Personality matters a lot more. I think that some people didn't realize it just how much personality matters and makes a person more acceptable. Try to notice: when you don't like how someone looks and you dislike them, is it really because of their looks only? Or do you dislike their personality?

Beauty is skin deep. And it can make someone be attracted to you momentarily. But once they get to know your personality, they may become displeased with you as a person. That's why many guys marry plain looking girls and only have sex with the "pretty" ones. Why? Because you can't live on looks. What counts more is the right personality.

Different people would be gravitated towards different kinds of personality. So just because people you know were not attracted to yours, it doesn't mean that it's not attractive to someone. That someone just did not come across your path yet.

I'm 61 and having some problems with what age is doing to me. Never really liked the way i looked and now I'm feeling worse. I always hoped I would be one of those cute little old ladies.

Hello Friends!

I saw this post and was intrigued!!

I see mostly ladies posted here...so I wanted to lend a guy's perspective:

To the comments about personality........YES! It is true! I once dated this girl, other guys would have thought she was a model!! BUT...her attitude just turned me away quickly!!!!! This was a VERY short relationship! (Try one date! and that was one too many for me!) She wa so conceited and arrogant and self-centered!

Now....and I am talking about myself here:
Try being a male....
who never could become "buff" enough (despite hard work, supplements, all the right stuff) bad genetics...
And...battles hair loss too! (more bad genetics)

I like NOTHING about me! I hate it all! I even tried "ending it" twice due to these 2 things!
You know why?...partly because others (mainly females) pointed out the things which I disliked...AND because "I" will never be happy with me!

Yes, I said personality counts..and it does...BUT..I would trade bodies with Any other male whom i have ever seen?? Anyone but me! I have seen wheelchair bound males with better physiques and hair than me!

Sooooooooo...yes, I try and have a nice personality...but...what happens when another guy comes along...with a nice personality AND muscles AND hair????

Don't answer please I already know.....

I have had females lust and salivate and talk about guys with these qualities...all while supposedly being "on a date" with me???

Try that on for size!

Now...you all should feel very good about who you are

I can almost bet that you are wearing a wrong bra. When did you last get professionally fitted for a bra?

Honestly, thinning hair on a man should not be a problem. On a woman, yes, it is really tough and I have known women whose hair is so sparse that their scalp shines through. I can only imagine how tough getting through being in public with visible scalp must be for them, day in and day out. But for a man... I know several bald men in their 40s, with careers, families with children, etc.