[brokenwingswings]

i kinda need a bit of advice an i probably sound stupid but when an abuser as abused you i mean like physical abuse do they say that the victim provoked them to do it or like they had to do it for some reason taht will be the vicitims fault.i just wanted to know as the person who is hurting me blames me for what they do to me saying it's all my fault and they had to do it to keep me quiet sorry if this sounds odd but my head is all mashed up please someone help me?

[wi_fighter]

Hi Broken. Yes, they do put the blame on the victim. I wasn't physically abused, but my ex has hit my daughter and when I confronted him with it he laughed and said she deserved it. She was mad at her brother and was slamming her bedroom door, so he hit her on the back with a belt. He's also told her not to tell anyone that he's hit her, or he'll go to jail.

You don't deserve to be hit. I hope you can get the courage to seek help through an abuse shelter.

[mel020377]

YES!!!!!! I was told the whole time I was growing up that it was my fault. If you werent so beautiful I wouldnt have to do this to you. Its you fault for wearing that shirt. You know things like that. They are sick and they dont want to take the responsibilty for their own actions. They blame everyone else!!!!

It is not your fault!!!!

[Butterfly_Faerie]

Yes brokenwingswings, that is almost always the case with abusers...