Disclosure

God came down from heaven and took my demons straight to hell. Some are still awaiting departure.

God is real and God is good.

I wish you peace. You may need it in this hole of a world.

Hmmmm.

A long time ago I was a member of an e-mail list for "survivors", and at one point a person attacked me verbally out of the blue, saying she knew me and that I was one of her abusers. I had no idea who she was.

I knew that people who have been abused are likely to be highly sensitive and trigger easily, and in an attempt to keep themselves safe can attack other people whom they perceive as being dangerous. But sometimes we can make mistakes, too. And even though I thought I understood where she was "coming from", it still hurt.

MickG,
This post cought us by surprise. But those that have posted have made very good points. But we would like to post our point of veiw. Since this topic has really hit home for us.
1. Is that because my dx was changed , I was abused puplicly by those that truely believed that I had a biologicaly reason not to remember. This came from the local TGC. Not only that when we got no help from them the back up people within the community even falled us. These were the very same people that you are warning so many people againts. Now this happened way before we came here.
2. People can only use that which you do not accept yourself. When you put your stuff on the table people can not use it againts you.
3. If it had not been for this site we would have callapse a long time ago. This place gave us the means to confront the abuse that we had to endure from those within the community. Not from someone online looking for a victum.
4. so when giving the warning it must be put out with real world reality. Those here have given us hope to move on. It was my choice to use this place in an open honest manner for the simple fact my abusers used lies and secreats to keep control over us. Everyone has to learn the skills of how to judge a new person on their real worth. Even from here we have had a couple that we had to put on the ignor list. But we would not have done that had it not been for those that had allowed us to learn to be safe and heard by others.
5. So we hope that those reading this thread do not hide in fear it is by being open and honest that you remove the chains of the abusers from your lifes and learn the skills that help prevent future abusers taken over where the others have left off.
We hope that you have a good T and that you are able to share what you feel comfortable with yet at the same time allow others to deal with the issues that have brought them here. Safe cyber hugs from all of us.

The world is full of monsters, and at the same time full of genuine caring loving people.

I believe it is important to excerice caution, but when we start living our lives always looking over our shoulder and building walls around us, we become a victim of our own fear and anxiety.

I can't stop who reads what here at PC, but I know PC is a very very very safe place, I have visited a few other "survior" sites and never felt safe and shortly cancelled my account after a few weeks, it just didnt' feel right, it is my experience that PC is by far the safest place on the internet for discussing, sharing, healing. I have been here for over two years now and have never ran into a major problem , been threatned, or ever felt unsafe and have made some dear and amazing friends.

Yes, there could very well be one of those monster's reading these posts, but I can't stop that, and in a sense, I don't care, let them read, **** them, I can't let the fear of them control my life like I have for a majority of it. I choose to speak, to share, to use the voice I have found, and if one of them dares to decide and mess with me then I'll be waiting with one hell of a fight.

We can as surviors, continue to choose to live in fear, or break down our walls and speak in whatever way is best for us and our healing journey, and each of those journeys is unique to that indivdual.

I do agree, PC is not a subsitute for one on one therapy with a therapist, and that is important to have in our healing journeys, a guide to help us through the darkness that is a professional and can see from the outside and help us through, but I have found something here I can't get in therapy and that is a community, understanding and a support on a level my therapist can't give me.

I'm sorry you have these concerns MickG and I hope nothing like this has ever happend to you. (((((((MickG))))))))))

Heck, who knows, it might do them some good!

There are some things better kept hidden from the world but that doesn't mean all things should always be kept hidden.

That will only make the feelings we have worse.