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#1
May 22, 2011, 08:25 PM
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bullied through school, name calling and around five who hits and keep hitting after i was down
forced to stay out by my moms boyfriend a few hour to face the same thing i faced in school as they where al "tough guys" at my neigborhood when i got home i got name calls and threats i have it comfirmed and confessed that my moms boyfriend didn't love, understand, liked or accepted me or even tried |
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May 22, 2011, 08:57 PM
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I am very sorry itsuno, so hard for you. Have you ever gone to see the school guidance councelor? They can help and give you guidance, someone to talk to and get support from.
You must stay strong and use whatever resources you can get. Starting with the councelor at school is a beginning. You know its wrong, don't accept it. You can grow thru this, even though it is hard. You will eventually be on your own and may remember how this feels. It is people like you that knows what it means to need help so you may find ways to help others like you in the future. The only way to stop this not only for you but others is have the courage to speak up and keep speaking up. This has to change itsuno, for you and all the others like you. No, it is not fair, you don't deserve this and you have every right to ask for a proper upbringing, to be treated fairly. Dont let these people cast you out and frighten you. Go and talk to that coucelor, don't be embarrassed think of not only you but all the others like you. Speak up, defend your right itsuno. Your mother deserves to be held accountable, she had you, it is her job to raise you. If she needs help than your standing up will make that happen. You have to take charge, others clearly are not. Open Eyes |
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#3
May 22, 2011, 09:36 PM
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my mom has left him and thinks poorly of him, lives close to me and both of us far away from him please do not bash on my mom, i love her and i tried to keep her oblivious i appreciate your post and im ashamed to say it but i cried my tears out reading your comment (the ashamed pert comed from my uppbringing, in his house, if you wondered) |
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#4
May 22, 2011, 10:47 PM
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You have no reason to feel shame any longer. istuno, what we learn from our past is something that we will not only remember in the future, but it will teach us how others feel, even in secret. You never know that maybe someday your pain may help another person know that they are not alone. As you grow older you will remember to listen and even know the signs of a quiet pain. istno, I am sorry that you cried reading my answer. But I want you to know that I answered you because I too know quiet pain. Because I do know it, I do answer you and others like you. I try hard to tell them that, yes you do have rights. I was afraid to stand up sometimes and perhaps I should have. But I have learned that it is me that needs to stand up for myself. We all learn in life iston, and many times we learn by experiencing pain. Many people suffer private abuse of some kind. And not all those people stay kind hearted like you. Some of those people actually become bullies. Some of those bullies that you came across, needed to control someone, they needed to feel important and gain attention, most of them do this because they have no power or attention at home or gain no respect. Many times people who bully are in pain, their only way to express themselves is by bullying others. People like you, and me, and many others are stronger in a way, because we have all chosen to remain good people, caring people. Embrace the goodness in your heart and learn from your past. Dont ever be ashamed of yourself for being a good person. It is the good people that make a difference in the lives of others. It is the good person who listens when someone is in pain and asks for help. There are so many good people, but they are very busy, many of them are working in jobs that revolve around helping others in some way. No, just because you could not fight the bullies doesn't mean you were ever weak. It meant that you were even stronger, did not join into their cruelty. No, maybe you had to hide sometimes or sit alone. But you will always remember what that means and that will make you a compassionate person. Compassionate people are stronger people they gain strength in reaching out instead of pushing others into sadness. Open Eyes 
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May 23, 2011, 12:17 AM
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thanx for another of your post, i really aprechiate (or however it is spelled)
i didn't get angry or anything when i cried, it is just that your words tutched mei hear what you are saying: "what doesn't kill us harden us" (so gonna quote this) i lowered myself to their level and fought back, well untill i pased out, luckily (or mybe not so) taking hits adopted my body i think because i can take alot now... i am a nice guy to nice people and stand up for myself/friends/family in a fight or against a "bad" guy many probably wont like this but i am not compassionate and i do not seem to care for others not in my circle. i would be classified as a bad guy if you were to meet me... even if i am a bad guy, i hope that you can see beyond that as i am here to be honest and to see if i can find advice in no way have i been offended by your posts and i hope that you do not see mine as such, i am just trying to speak from the heart |
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#6
May 23, 2011, 10:49 AM
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Itsuno, welcome to PC. I'm sorry that you had to struggle with this while growing up........
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#7
May 23, 2011, 05:40 PM
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thank you, both for the welcoming and reply
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 Sannah
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May 23, 2011, 06:41 PM
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Itsuno, welcome to the forum.
I was also severely bullied at school, and like you I lowered myself to their level and fought back. I've had quite a few broken bones in my time, mainly ribs, feet and fingers, and I suspect I inflicted a few broken bones myself. My parents never really got how horrific school was for me, and as a result I've been very involved in watching my son's education. School can be a horrible thing. I'm glad that you love your Mum... the knowledge that you have a parent who loves you is a precious thing, and it is such a blessing to love your mother, or father. I always feel so sad for people who have been abused who hold it against their parents... because that basic human need to love has been frustrated. It sounds like your Mom is a brave woman, who recognised abuse when she saw it, and moved away from it. I'm glad she lives near you. My Mum has been dead twenty years, and I miss her every day. You are so lucky to have a loving mother living near you. You must be some son to have inspired her to have the courage to save herself. Anyway... welcome again to the forums. I'm glad to make your acquaintance, and hope that you find the boards as helpful and friendly as I have done.
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#9
May 25, 2011, 05:20 AM
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i didnŽt reply because i didnšt know what to say
i am sorry for your loss, if she had you she must have been a good parent and person, watch out for foolish or wierd reasons as to why your son have wounds as i once said to my mom and her boyfriend "I got into a one on one fight, and he mooved when i hit, resulting in my hand hitted the meral behind him", i have wondered why (but didnšt care as worse thing existed) no one noticed, first of all, i never got the chance for a one on one fight they where always more and if i had used my elbow then i couldnšt reach the metal... why wouldnšt anyone notice. what i had lied for was to cover up that i had hitted something to let my emotion out and the lie worked for me. if i had told, my moms boyfriend would tell me "sane people dont do that" following that line would be a lection, which i didnt listen to but pretended to, so i could be left alone sorry it became a mess when i tried to post my point anyway thanxs for sharing and replying |
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