[kimmydawn]

They say we're never given more than we can take.

Excuse me for a minute while I angrily beg to differ...

Sorry for the rant, but I know there's those out there who relate and I'm sorry y'all can.

((((((((((many hugs))))))))))))

kd

[lenjan]

KD, I decided years ago that saying was BS! I have regularly been given much more than I can reasonably stand!

I hope you're able to find a little speck of light in the darkness. I'm here rooting for you and ready for you any time you want to rant in my direction, or just need hugs.



Candy

They say we're never given more than we can take

I'm sorry to say that I always thought this was not true. In my opinion the person who wrote this maybe never had more then he/she could take. But some people have more then they can take.

I'm sorry that you have more then you can take. (((((((Kimmy)))))))

I know that feeling very well too.

" We're never given more than we can take "----
I "angrily beg to differ" also!!

No need to apologize-- ranting can be very healthy--IMO.

*****many hugs***** back to you Kimmy.

mandy

((((((((KD)))))))))

(((((((((((Everyone))))))))

[Evangelista]

(((KD)))

Sorry....hope things get better for you soon....

I'm sorry Kimmydawn, I hope things get better for you as soon as possible.

Sujin

I understand, I agree, and sucks. Just know that you are never alone. We are standing together in a circle of women, arms around one another's shoulders. We can feel strong, or helpless, but we sure are better together.

I can feel you from here.

Big hugs, emmy

[mtd]

For me ... "more than I can take" -- sure been there. At the least, what I have been through is more than someone should have to handle. I can't accept that my God gave me the abuse and the aftermath that brought me to my knees and nearly destroyed me. That would make it sound like my God wanted those who abused me to do what they did. That just doesn't make sense to me. What was done to me as a small child was evil and they intended to destroy the essence of who I am -- they intended it to be more than I could handle. And the abuse was just one of several major childhood traumas that left me a numbed out, hollow, petrified adult. All I look for now is the strength to carry on myself, and the strength to use my experience to help others. I hope that my God gives me more strength than I can handle, the determination to survive the inhuman bastards who gave me too much, and the capacity to give my children as much love as they need. That's pretty much all I can do to make sense of a truly devastating past, and find peace and meaning today.

Thanks for the rant -- it's a good one.

Be well,

mtd

I agree so much kimmy - hey if we could handle what we were given why did and do we dissociate?

Proof that saying of "we're never given more than we can handle" is BS and then some.

[brianm101]

What Myself said. (lol not what I said......Myself, up above)

gotcha Brian.

[brianm101]

[Peanuts]

I agree. I think people say that because they don't know what else to say. Its kind of invalidating in my opinion "why are you upset.. you shouldn't be upset.. God wouldn't do this to you if he thought you couldn't handle it and so you must be able to handle it. So stop being a baby and handle it ". blah blah

[Fuzzybear]

agreed....it's invalidating ( )

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[Sabrina]

I thought I was the only one that felt and thought this. I am so relieved to know that I am not alone!!!!!!

(((((((((((((kd))))))))))))))) - hope it eases up for you.

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

I agree I am so sick of hearing that....and don't buy into it at all

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They say we're never given more than we can take.

Excuse me for a minute while I angrily beg to differ...

Sorry for the rant, but I know there's those out there who relate and I'm sorry y'all can.

((((((((((many hugs))))))))))))

kd

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[kimmydawn]

Thank you so much everyone. That was a good gripe session, wasn't it? I was just so mad...still am a bit.

I'm glad to know that I'm not alone, but sad about it at the same time.

I've learned that it may FEEL alot like I can't make it, but when I look back I always have. I guess that's the bottom line.

We're going to make it, friends. It's great to know we don't have to make it alone.

Love,

KD

[Rapunzel]

(((((((((Kimmy)))))))))) ((((((((All))))))))))

That's a pretty powerful realization you have made there that when you look back, you always have made it. That saying about not being given more than you can take can feel invalidating, but I feel it can be understood in different ways. I don't think it means that you won't be hurt or damaged by the terrible things that you endure. We're all here because we were hurt, and it isn't okay that those things happened or were done. But we do have tools that help us to get through it. Dissociation is one of those tools.

The way I understand that saying is that we are strong enough to come through those experiences, even if it kills us, and we are still who we are. We are not utterly destroyed. We don't lose our agency. We still have the power to be good people and to work towards improving our lives. The pain may seem more than we can bear, but when we look back, we must have made it through because we are still here and we are still ourselves and we can still make good choices.

Rap

[SongBirdandDaisy]

I agree that that quip and many others are just a bunch of hoohah made up by people who have nothing else to do. Empty sayings with no meaning, no sustinance.

Sorry, I'm new to this forum and proboblly giving a bad impression. But did any of those people have to live through what I did? Life is not fair and sometimes we are given more than we can take. Sorry, bad place. I'll be quiet now because now I'm angry at everything that he stole from me. 41yo and I'm just learning how to live - what living is. Sorry again.