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Feb 12, 2013, 09:57 PM
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My dad physically abuses me when he is angry. And my mum emotional abuses me. But I'm mostly concerned about my dad.
When he is mad, i get hurt. When he isn't mad, he creeps me out. He is always touching me. Not inappropriately. But unnecessarily. It ranges from "accidentally" touching my knee or thigh. To standing super close behind me. He grabbed the back of my neck and kept touching my back. We have a four wheeler (atv) and he makes me sit behind or in front of him. When I could just drive a different one. He just gets too close to me. It doesn't feel like he does it on accident. Am I just paranoid? Last edited by GirlOfManyFaces; Feb 12, 2013 at 11:17 PM. |
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#2
Feb 13, 2013, 10:06 AM
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If you are uncomfortable with this, you are uncomfortable with this. Our gut feelings are usually correct.
I guess you haven't told your T about all of this abuse?
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#3
Feb 14, 2013, 12:58 AM
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No. She only wants to talk about how I got myself raped and my cutting (which I'm not concerned as much about) and how my mom and I don't get along, which is normal for any teen and their parent... She never asks about anything else. And the one time I told her something... She didn't care and just acted like she didn't hear me... |
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Feb 14, 2013, 09:44 AM
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What was the something that you told her if you don't mind me asking?
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Feb 14, 2013, 03:32 PM
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My other personalities. I only told her because they were getting violent. But she just said it was satan and forgot about it... I REALL REALLY don't want to see her again. I go today 
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Feb 14, 2013, 03:51 PM
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what your father is doing is wrong in every sense of the word, I don't know where you are in the world, but here it ios classed as abuse and is illegal! Please let your T know about his behaviour, and that of your mum, they are probably the root of your needing to see a T in the first place!
T's should not be blaminbg things on Satan, because that is a personal belief of theior own, not a proven reality. is there any way you can change T for one who does not bring their own beliefs into the session? |
| BrokenNBeautiful, NoCake, Silent_Tears_17
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Feb 14, 2013, 04:00 PM
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I live in the USA. (South) and I'm quite certain it is illegal here as well. But I can't speak up for many reasons. I only have to suffer two and a half more years. Then I will be in college. I can't tell her. She just makes things worse. I can't switch Ts because my mother drives me there and refuses to let me switch. It is a Christian therapist place. But I don't necessarily believe what she does. |
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Feb 15, 2013, 10:43 AM
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Now I understand your issues with this T. Your mom said that you can't switch?
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Feb 15, 2013, 04:36 PM
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Yes. She won't let me move or stop going. Grrrr just thinking about it pisses me off!
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Feb 15, 2013, 09:33 PM
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I have had similar "therapy" for years. It made me worse and did not help me. Carol
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Feb 16, 2013, 12:45 AM
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It was my fault though. I had many, MANY chances to run away from him. But I didn't. I lead him on. Even after the first time he raped me, I still stayed. I was literally blinded by love. He is my soul mate. And he used me. And I let him. It IS my fault. |
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Feb 16, 2013, 11:15 PM
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you don't have to answer that. But I still disagree. Rape is not our fault! Many survivors can physically run, but they are paralyzed with fear or they are so attached to their abusers that they feel compelled to stay and allow their abusers to hurt them. I know you are in a difficult situation where you cannot switch therapists. You have to hear what she says, I know. Do you agree with her? I don't agree with her. I hope someday you can leave this situation and realize that abuse is NEVER our fault. I allowed many people to abuse me and do whatever they wanted to do to me until I had to realize deep down inside that I was okay and did NOT deserve it. Now I am trying to get away from situations and ppl that hurt me. It is trial and error. But it can be done. It can. I have to believe that all the time, even when I don't want to. Carol
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#13
Feb 17, 2013, 01:38 PM
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Here is an off the wall suggestion. Do you know someone (an adult, like a school counselor) who can be your advocate? Someone who can meet you at your therapist's and talk to her on your behalf because she doesn't or won't listen to you? Maybe you do have the voice to stand up for yourself, I don't know, but she obviously is not really listening to you.
I wonder what her credentials are? Something to keep in the back of your mind as you get older, I am seeing a Clinical Psychologist, a Doctor with a Psy.D. after his name, like Dr. Jones, Psy.D. I say this because I'm now 49 and have been in and out of therapy since I was 21. I went to therapy at that time because I HATED my Mom. My male therapist (Masters in Social Work) convinced me I really had issues with my Dad. Perhaps I did have some issues with my Dad but it was my Mom who really really was the abusive one. Emotionally abusive. And now, after almost one year with my Psy.D. I am really making some progress. Until you find a good therpaist, these issues will haunt you all your life and you can either deal with them and have a chance at a happy life or avoid them and have a miserable life. I feel for you so much. What all the other posters said is so true so I won't reiterate anything here. Please try to keep yourself safe. With peace and love, EagleNebula.
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Feb 17, 2013, 02:23 PM
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I too had a woman abuser. And credentials, too. Yeah. I even saw t's with impressive credentials and they used them on me the wrong way. Or they were so burned out and overworked (god bless them; many t's who accept gov. insurance are!) that they can't address my issues properly. I cannot reiterate enough how effective therapy depends on how they use their knowledge or how they deal with the clients. Carol
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Feb 17, 2013, 07:01 PM
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In a way, yes. She is always telling me the mistake I made with him. How I could have said no. And I shouldn't have talked to him in the first place because he is older... ECT ECT Quote:
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Feb 17, 2013, 08:52 PM
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So where was your parent's supervision and protection? Why do you need to rely on an abusive person? Adequate parents don't allow this stuff to happen.
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Feb 18, 2013, 01:09 AM
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Just my thoughts. Carol
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Feb 18, 2013, 01:12 AM
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 ? Um... What? I'm confusedI'm practically raising myself. My dad is abusive, is that who you are referencing? My mom is very emotionally abusive. I relied on my ex boyfriend abuser because even though he hurt me, he still acted like he cared for me. I don't know if he did. But I felt cared for. I know my parents are not adequate. I don't think it needs to be repeated over and over. |
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Feb 18, 2013, 09:39 AM
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Feb 18, 2013, 09:40 AM
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My whole point Girl is that your parents are to blame and NOT YOU.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Feb 19, 2013, 03:15 PM
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