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Nov 02, 2006, 09:44 AM
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my father's in hospital... he might not live...
I'm so confused... this is th eman who destroyed my life, convinced me that I am evil... almost killed me on several occations, put me through hell... but... he's still my father... |
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Nov 02, 2006, 10:54 AM
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((((((((Orion))))))) You have a big heart.
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Nov 02, 2006, 12:10 PM
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(((((Orion))))) What can I say, just hang in there. You seem like a really good person for caring like this; you should be proud of yourself, Caring so much for somebody that hurt you so much just prove how worth it of all the good you are.
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Nov 02, 2006, 03:14 PM
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Hello sorry to hear that you are going through this at this time. It is okay that you have emotions for your father, you are human and are going to have many emotions in life. your father is very fortunate to have a son like you. Take care Soidhonia
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Nov 02, 2006, 03:15 PM
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Often a part of us still loves our parent(s) regardless of what we've been through. I believe that we may always hold on to a tiny bit of hope that we might someday have a normal loving relationship with our parent(s). The first time I realized that I am never, ever going to have a loving relationship with my parents, I grieved for a long time... Once a parent dies, though, that hope is gone completely and that's a very difficult thing.
I wish you all the best. It sounds like you have been a good child to your father and I hope you can take comfort in that fact. |
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Nov 02, 2006, 03:18 PM
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orion....thinking of you during this difficult time.......
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Nov 02, 2006, 04:06 PM
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My thoughts are with you hon ((((((((((( Orion ))))))))))
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Nov 02, 2006, 04:09 PM
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Orion your very brave. We are all with you.
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"to be or not to be" that is the question  Domino 
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Nov 02, 2006, 05:07 PM
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thankyou all for your replies...
really confused at the moment... not sure what's going on, not even sure how I feel... I've promiced my brother that I'll go with him to visit him in the hospital tomorrow... absolutly terrified... I don't know why, I mean he's in a bloody coma, not like he can do anything... going to have a panic attack or flashback or something in the hospital I can just see it... but I have to go... no matter what he's done in the past he's still my father... and it's one of those things that I know I'll regret forever if I don't do... I haven't spoken to him for months... and that was only a phonecall... and a negitive one at that... guess nothing will ever be resolved now... bit stupid to ever even think it might have been really... thankyou for your replies though |
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#10
Nov 02, 2006, 07:43 PM
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Dear Orion,
I've read that many people in comas CAN hear people in the room as they talk to them...I would pour your heart out to him, both good and bad, and express everything to him...they say that people that are in comas who are talked to recover faster..and don't beat yourself up or call yourself stupid for procrastinating relating to your Dad..we all do it..hey a phone call 4 months ago is something even if it was negative..I can relate with my own father..write again & let us know how it goes.......
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Nov 02, 2006, 07:51 PM
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i guess... you may have a point there...
oh god, I wish my mind would just sort out what it thinks... confusion, fear and tiredness is getting annoying and just... well confusing... too many things going round in my mind... i'm not going to get any sleep tonight I can tell... keep "seeing" him in a hospital bed suddenly coming round and coming at me, totally stupid... obviously not going to happen... |
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#12
Nov 02, 2006, 08:07 PM
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yes orion......go and speak your peace......it will be good for both of you.....
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Nov 02, 2006, 09:38 PM
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((((((Orion))))))
You are a compassionate Survivor... Eva
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Evangelista We dance round in a ring and suppose.. But the secret sits in the middle and knows.. Robert Frost |
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Nov 03, 2006, 11:14 PM
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He is your father, you have a big heart to care about him.
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Nov 06, 2006, 02:32 PM
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he died this morning... never even reganed conciousness since the accident...
don't really know how i feel about it... when he walked out in january I didn't really care, I had no feelings towards him at all, other than fear... but it's not like that now, mixed and confused... I guess it will take a while to fully work out... I still can't believe he's really gone...never to come back... it's an odd thorght that I don't think I'll ever get used to... anyway, thankyou for your replies here, they are apretiated. |
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Nov 06, 2006, 05:09 PM
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Im sorry for your loss Orion. I hope you can find some peace for yourself out of this and that you remember to be gentle with yourself and everything you are feeling at the moment. stay strong. my thoughts are with you.
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#17
Nov 06, 2006, 05:41 PM
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((((((((((((Orion)))))))))))))
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Nov 06, 2006, 09:58 PM
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OMG... I've just realised...
he died because of me... he always said it would happen, and now it has... he died because of the car crash, and he crashed because he was drunk, and something must have driven him to drink right? well surely he was driven to drinking by something in life, anger/disatisfaction/or whatever, and I caused much of the negitive things in the apst... so I caused him to drink... so I caused the crash... so I caused his death 
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Nov 07, 2006, 06:18 AM
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Dont think things like that Orion please,omg i have a drink problem that developed since the breakup of my long term relationship,but i would never dream of blaming her for it.People who drink,choose to drink and nobody can make them do it , just as nobody can make them not drink,we have to make these descisions for ourselves.I understand however the feelings of guilt you have,but believe me and everyone will agree that this was in no way your fault and you are not to blame.Take care of yourself Orion,Ill be thinking of you.
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#20
Nov 07, 2006, 07:11 AM
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((((((((( Orion )))))))))))
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#21
Nov 08, 2006, 03:35 PM
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hope you know that he made his choices, just like we all do.
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#22
Nov 10, 2006, 09:15 AM
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I'm sorry...
why much everything happen at once? Wish everything would just stop... i'm sorry for posting like this |
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Nov 10, 2006, 05:55 PM
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(((((((( Orion ))))))))
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