I've been in/out therapy for 20 years - childhood sexual/physical abuse. Current therapist is quiting on me because I don't want to be holistic - call upon the animal spirits to help me.... I'm soooooo mad.... I've been with her 3 years and she just blew me off because I want to do talk therapy...... Everyone in this city wants to do short term therapy - 6 months and out.... How can you resolve a childhood of abuse with 6 months???

So is there life without a therapist?

I'm about to find out and I'm scared!!!!!

I'm sorry your therapist is not working for you. I can understand feeling angry. And changing is hard.

What kinds of therapists have you had previously? What kinds of therapy?

When you look for a new therapist, I suggest you look for a psychologist who specializes in childhood abuse. You may have to call a few until you find what you want. And let the new therapist know that you are not looking for short term therapy.

There is a lot of information out there you can find on Google about psychotherapy and types or models of psychotherapy as well as types of therapists and what their degree designation means. Also, look at the link under the Psychotherapy forum and the Dr's welcome message.

I'm sorry that your therapist is going a different direction than you want to go. I hope you will look and find someone who can work with you the way you want to. I think there is someone out there just for you.

Thank you.. It just hurts so bad to rejected, I can't stop crying. She sent me an E-mail tonight and said she was terminating me because I don't "fit" her therapy. Things for me kinda go in really bad streaks. I have a binge disorder before that bulemia. Therapist here don't want to do long term therapy they just don't.
I've decided to stay in my house and never ever come out. I don't fit in anywhere -

Yes there is life after therapy. I have been in and out of therapy many times and Im still here. The last time I was out of therapy forI think seven years.

And Just because the therapist is quitting doesn't nessesarily mean you HAVE to quite doing the work on yourself. There are many self help workbooks out there that I have found that helped me and sped up my healing process at the same time. There are many support groups out there in the world you can also attend when you are between therapists or at the same time as being in therapy that can also help you to help yourself take care of your problems. Theres also many crisis centers that do talk therapy a majority of them for free too. many times when I had no insurance and no therapist I went to a crisis center and saw their therapists and peer counselors.

Hang in there.

[hillbunnyb]

wowzer, I felt the blow from here!!! talk about cold piece of work, dang, your just x therapist rates a 10 on ny bummer list., deal with dumping you by email what, she doesn't have a phone, or couldn't do it in person>>>>>>>?, whew, I am reeling....... geeeeee whiiiiiiiiz already. You didn't deserve that.

i really recommend calling rape. battered women or child abuse organizations for reccommendations for therapists about these issues. I had a wonerful incest survivors group througg a battered women's project.

Talk about feeling at home....... we could talk and we could hear and empathize and just be comforted in not being alone with our stuff. It was incredibly validating for me.

I hope you can find renewed courage to check it out.

[Rhapsody]

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I've been in/out therapy for 20 years - childhood sexual/physical abuse. Current therapist is quiting on me because I don't want to be holistic - call upon the animal spirits to help me.... I'm soooooo mad.... I've been with her 3 years and she just blew me off because I want to do talk therapy...... Everyone in this city wants to do short term therapy - 6 months and out.... How can you resolve a childhood of abuse with 6 months???

So is there life without a therapist?

I'm about to find out and I'm scared!!!!!

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YES................. there is defiantly life after the Therapist, but it is usually when the patient is ready to spread her wings and fly solo.

I would let this T go and look into finding a new T - for YOU do not need this particular T any more if she is ready to leave just because you do not believe in one of her treatment ways..... but then again why would you want to stay if you and her are on different levels right now?

I personally spent eight straight years in therapy and I had 3 different T until I found the one that worked for ME.... do not give up and keep the candle burning for your recovery, no matter how hard it may seem at times.

Goo Luck.....................

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

Thank you to all. I've stopped feeling that I am a failure because I couldn't meet my T standards.

I've been going thru all these tests to see why and what kind of damage has been done to my lungs due to infections - I've had a binge/ bulemia disorder for last 5 years. The tests are frightening for me - they ended up doing a heart cat. So she picked a really strange time to drop me. I just question how another caring person can do that...

[Rhapsody]

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Thank you to all. I've stopped feeling that I am a failure because I couldn't meet my T standards.

I've been going thru all these tests to see why and what kind of damage has been done to my lungs due to infections - I've had a binge/ bulemia disorder for last 5 years. The tests are frightening for me - they ended up doing a heart cat. So she picked a really strange time to drop me. I just question how another caring person can do that...

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I guess therapy can be a lot like some religions.... if YOU do not conform to their ways & beleif system then they do not want to have any thing to do with you. ((((((( hugs )))))))


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[prosecarousel]

I often wonder if my therapist is going to quit on me, I know it must be frustrating for her but she says that she wouldn't and it would not be ethical of her to do so. Did this therapist give you any referrals or any direction other than see ya?

[Rhapsody]

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I often wonder if my therapist is going to quit on me, I know it must be frustrating for her but she says that she wouldn't and it would not be ethical of her to do so. Did this therapist give you any referrals or any direction other than see ya?

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YES..... she referred me to another T and she even told me that she would be glad to have me return if and when I got back on some medicine - I was feeling very suicidal back then so I do not blame her for what she did... I think it was her way of trying to keep me safe.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Perna]

I'd be mad too. They're not really supposed to push their agendas on your therapy! I was in therapy for 20+ years with psychodynamic theapist (talk :-) and life did get much better with all the childhood stuff resolved. Hang in there and keep looking for a "talk" therapist.

[prosecarousel]

That is very frightening. I'm sorry.

[JustAPixie]

(((((((( freewill ))))))

It's tough to learn to stand on your own, but it's definately possible...

[LILITH]

It is unfair for her to leave you like this.... I was without a therapist for about 6 months... It was a hard time. I felt all alone. I have had childhood sexual abuse..... it takes a long time. Find a good trauma therapist.... Take good care...Lilith