Never Talking about It

Hi all,
I just started with a new therapist and I keep having the same bad habits of not talking about things. I'm afraid that if i tell her I have thoughts of suicide that she will freak and think I really am going to do it (WHICH I am not). I totally talk around the abuse instead of about it. Making myself talk about it seems so..... wrong.

Do any of you have techniques for helping yourself talk about issues?

I had a terrible time talking about things. The thing that worked for me was writing it down, and giving him the letter. Then we could talk about it. And it's important to talk about the suicidal ideation. If you aren't going to do it, they won't lock you up.

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Thanks! I guess it boils down to there being certain things I am ready to talk about and certain things I'm not. Maybe I'll just take it slowly.

I had the exact same problem as you are having right now. It took me a good year to come out with it.

Try this, write it down, everything that is triggering, whether it be a flashback or a movie. Write down what you are afraid of, what you are having trouble facing and bring it into your therapist, let them start the talking, that is what I did and it helped.

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Thanks!

I am trying that this week. I made a list of things that worried me, or things that I thought she should know. (and one thing I didn't want her to know lol)

Hopefully it will go well.

Good for you, that is a postive step, and i'm sure it will go well. Writing stuff down that I Wasn't able to talk about or bring up myself helped alot. It got the ball moving, even though it was hard, it was better for me in the end.

Good luck, and let me know how it goes

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<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>

Hello,
I just wanted to say Be honest..... As much as you are comfortable , and work on the rest when you are ready...... take care and my thoughts are with you....troubled1

Therapists are really quite used to patients talking about suicide, even though they are not actually feeling suicidal. You can just start the conversation off by saying, you don't have to worry, I am definately NOT going to hurt myself, but I want to talk about the feelings. Talking about it will release some of that built up tension. It's OK and safe to talk about suicide. Your T will know that and understand that.

She'll probably ask some questions to be sure you are definately OK...but if you truely are not feeling suicidal, no one is going to lock you up! People need to be able to talk about all their feelings safely. Therapists know this.

Take care. Emmy

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