triggered by a friend....si triggers and abuse triggers

So a friend of mine sent out an email to the group of friends of ours.....and i quote "charlie was arrested this weekend on indecent solicitation of a child" hey what do you think colleen did to him to have him change over to THIS??" (he was a very long gone ex of mine)

So needless to say i emailed back and thanked her for making a joke at my expense. Now I want to go slice the %#@&#! out of myself. Thanks for listening.

Obviously not a friend.

Colleen

That's a horribly mean thing to say...and obviously said without thinking of anyone but herself...and getting a cheap laugh...BUT...just know that it was probably just a thoughtless joke, not meant to cut you so deep...and it probably wasn't done with malicious intent either. It's not really what was said that is the biggest problem, but more so how it made you feel..so maybe talk to this SO called friend...let her know how you feel..and what it did...maybe talking it through will help with not wanting to slice yourself up...

but i can understand how you think that is going to help...and it most probably will for the short term but that memory is going to stay with you until you deal with it...

just a thought... :-)...

hope you will be ok...

colleen i am sorry that she said that... what a crul thing to say... there is nothing funny about soliciting a child... and definitely not funny to joke about it at your expense... you have worked so hard to get to where you are... don't let her pull you down... she isn't worth it ...lyn

Thanks for replying. Turns out for as long as ive known her she didnt know about my past. however that does NOT excuse her behavior. that being said i didnt deck her like i wanted to.

i think she got the message. another person x'd out of my life.

Colleen

Lyn, i couldnt agree more. I was so enraged for most of yesterday that I couldnt take it anymore.

Thanks so much for replying to me. your friendship means a lot.....

I will be posting more this weekend. I hope you are happy and safe today

Colleen

Colleen - sounds like you didn't 'cut yourself up' , yes? This just occured to me, with everyone's posts - that cutting when we are enraged over a particular issue is like branding *that* issue on to ourselves... and we don't want to have to look at ourselves and say "That (point to body part) is where that ex-friend did _________".
I'd never thought of it that way before.
Hope you are doing alright and that that issue has been washed away with the spring rains.
Hugs, Kiya

Yuck, I'm sorry (((((((((((( Colleen ))))))))))))

You're so much better than "friends" like that....

i am thinking about you tonight and hope your ok...lyn

Kiya, somebody, fuzz, lyn....

doing better still having wierd urges for NO APPARENT reason...dont get it.

still "sensitive lately" but getting better

Hope you all are well. more later.
c