now that i told him it is over.. i misss him.

i did not expect this would happen

i thought i'd feel relieved

instead i feel sorry for him

i want to call him. i want to talk with him. i want him back.

isn't some love better than none? After all... who is missing me other than him?

T is with his family. Friends are with theirs. Everyone has someone - either a friend, spouse or family. i am isolated and alone.

how could i NOT want to talk to H?

maybe it was not as bad as i thought, you know? maybe i stretched it because i was upset. He says he is sorry.. he wants to work it out.

[Kiya]

NO!

Yes it was as bad as you thought

Of course he'll tell you that, just to get back in and start it all over again.

it takes the average woman 8-9 times to leave the abusive relationship *and STAY out*.

You are NOT alone - you have us. I often feel I am alone, too. But there are GOOD people out there - we have to find them.

Please stay safe and take car of YOU. You are worth sooo much more than what he can "give" you - or rather, take from you.

((((((((((((((Ms. Fluff!!!)))))))))))))
Kiya

[Kiya]

I'm putting this in here, too:

remember, too, that often when the woman goes back (or lets him back) often things escelate worse than they were. Most physically viloent injuries happen the 2nd, 3rd, 4th time ppl get back together. things can turn very very dangerous.

Forget the honey moon stage - it's not worth your life.

[once]

Im not trying to defend anyone but I ws an emotionally abusive partner. First I never realized it at the time. That is the hard part of changing is realizing u have the problem then finding help. I was trying to keep my partner safe and by doing that I turned into wht i ws trying to protect her from. I want and wanted my partner back. Being a male there is not many program known 2 th public that could help a man change. I found a really good support group in my area and at first i went so i could prove i was changing 2 my partner now i keep going for myself. I would recommend these types of programs to most men. thes programs only offer tools for change, its up to the person if they really want to change.

[I_WMD]

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Im not trying to defend anyone but I ws an emotionally abusive partner. First I never realized it at the time. That is the hard part of changing is realizing u have the problem then finding help. I was trying to keep my partner safe and by doing that I turned into wht i ws trying to protect her from. I want and wanted my partner back. Being a male there is not many program known 2 th public that could help a man change. I found a really good support group in my area and at first i went so i could prove i was changing 2 my partner now i keep going for myself. I would recommend these types of programs to most men. thes programs only offer tools for change, its up to the person if they really want to change.

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,,,once,,,,, I hear Ya ........... The tool that has worked for me best over the last 20 + years has been . Turn away ,,, walk away ,, and take the time to sort it through to see the others mindset and then walk farther till you can find where the two mesh .
Then start a convo from there and be open to interpretations ,,,, PATIENCE ....... Is an easy word to pronounce ,,,, so often harder to find at the moment. But I learned long ago ,, bite my tongue or ooooopsssssss... Words can be painful too.