[Lexicon78]

Over the weekend I found out that one of the clients in my PHP confronted my stepfather, who had molested me as a child. I don't know how to feel about all this. I think I should be happy that someone is finally standing up for me, but I'm not. I'm terrified that the stepfather is gonna come after me for this. I went home crying and just really scared. I like the guy who did this, but he's screwing with my life.

I have so many different emotions about all this and it's like I can't piece them apart to find out how I really feel about this guy doing this.

[NicoleB]

((((((Lexicon78))))))) only if you want them

I am so sorry this happened to you. I don't really have any wisdom, but would love to hear what others have to say as this is my worst fear.

Nicole

[SweetCrusader]

Ok I know your friend was trying to help, but that was not his place to do that! Were you able to express that to him?

I can understand why you are not feeling safe. Even if there is no possibility of your stepfather coming after you, you can still feel unsafe just knowing he's been confronted about it. This probably brings up fear from before, when the molestation was occurring, right?

Does your stepfather know where to find you?

If so, do you live with anyone else that you can warn about your fears?

You are grown-up now and you are stronger. You have the ability to keep yourself safe. Keep telling yourself this. You will survive.

I can imagine you are terrified. I feel for you.
(((((SAFE hugs)))) ONLY if you want them

Angela

[kimmydawn]

(((((((((((((((Lexicon78))))))))))))))) if ok.

I can't imagine what you must be feeling and going thru right now! I know you said that this person had your best interest, but wow! what is PHP please?

I would have felt so re-victimized emotionally. You, against your will, were put back into a situation that you didn't ask for or need right now...even tho they were goon intentions.

T was mandated to report our abuse. I couldn't believe it! Those wounds were opened up in a way that I wasn't ready to deal with and the fear of repercussion was almost more than I could deal with. What got me thru that very difficult time was to write down and keep repeating that I have options now that I didn't then. I'm big, I can call the police, the ppl in my life now won't let anybody hurt me, etc. My fears were such that I had to do that. Things finally calmed down for me. I hope the same for you.

Remember your safety plans and exercise them! You do have options now that you didn't then. I'm sending you thoughts full of peace and safety.

Be safe and take good care,

Kimmydawn

[ktp]

What he did was totally inappropriate. I can understand anger and frustration on your part but it's not his place to decide when there is to be a confrontation. You have some say in that as it was your experience and now your issues.

I want to offer you the safest of (((((((Lexicon)))))))) hugs.

Please take care,
Kimberly.