[SelfHarmLove]

So i told my therapist about being molested when i was 11, she had to report it, i wouldn't have told her if i knew that, the cops showed up yesterday, i had to tell my parents, the guy lives down the street from me, now i'm in constant fear that he's in my house or he'll be able to get in and kill me, he was never violent or anything but i'm so scared of him, i don't know how to deal with this, it seems pretty irrational to be scared like this, but i keep thinking everytime i look somewhere he'll be there, ready to shoot me, i don't know what to do, i never want to leave my house for fear he'll attack me or his family will harass me, can somebody help?

[Kiya]

Wow hun - I am so sorry; sorry it happened, and that you didn't know t would have to report it (!!!) and that now you're in fear. Do you still fee l close to t? You know why she had to report it, right? I wish i had more things to tell you to help you feel safe. Is it legal in your state/school to carry Mace or pepper spray on you just incase? Can you get a restraining order against him so he can't come near you?
Keep posting!!
Kiya

[Christina86]

(((((((((((((((((SHL))))))))))))))))))

Omigosh. That's horrifying! I'm so sorry.

I'm sorry your T had to report it and that your family knows now. It must be really scary to have to deal with all of this right now

Does your T know how you feel now about all of this happening? Is there any sort of legal action going to be taken or any way you can ensure that the guy isn't legally allowed to come near you (like a protection order)?

I would advise being careful and cautious, but please don't let the fear run your life. You just got over a *big* hurdle.

Can you talk to your T, or perhaps phone the police officers that came over your house and see how they can help you out in all of this? It isn't fair that you feel like this, and trying to do it all by yourself at the same time.

[mtd]

I can relate to your fear, though my abusers were particulary violent and threatening, so I stayed quiet. I wish I had not. I wish I had spoken up sooner.

What you have been through is frightening enough, even without the problems you face now of being forced into a confrontation of sorts with an abuser before you felt ready. I am sorry you are going through this too. But I really encourage you to work to find as much safety and security as you can right now. Don't dismiss your fears as "irrational." You deserve to feel safe, even if no one thinks you're in "real" danger. Find family and friends you can stay with or can stay with you if that helps. Things like that. Ask the police to pass by and check on you. Just knowing people are looking out for you may help.

For what it is worth, I've done a lot of research into this and the abuser is not likely to commit an act of violence against you when they were not violent before. But still do what you need to do to feel safer. You deserve to create that for yourself.

Hope this helps.

mtd

[Kiya]

SHL, how are things???

[SelfHarmLove]

I've still been scared, i have to make sure the doors are locked at all times especially night and make sure the alarm is set, but so far nothing more has happened well except for my stupid sister brought the guys sister over and i freaked and ran in the other room so my parents asked her to leave and my sister was being the spoiled selfish little brat she is and started saying "no it's not my problem, it's her(referring to me) fault all this is happening", it just adds to the guilt and %#@&#!, so that sucked but i guess the police are investigating it and maybe we'll hear what's going on soon, i'm not even sure, they might just not even tell us when it closes. Anyway, i'm holding up alright.