serious triggers here **** domestic violence

Thanks hon

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Oh my gosh! You are such a brave brave lady!

I am so sorry that someone is being mean.

I'm so glad you can write it out. Take good care of yourself.

I wish I knew how to better support you. But, please know I care.

Thank you wanttoheal. You are pretty brave yourself!

I am starting to settle down now and feel less upset

I'm glad you are settling down and feeling less upset Angela.

I am not brave at all but thank you.

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You are loved by us.
Leslie

Wow, what a story. I can hardly imagine how frightening that must have been. And I think I would be angry, too at having been placed in that position. It was very brave of you to share this here. I hope writing it out helped some.

I know understanding why parents include children in their own issues is very hard. I read a book recently that helped me to deal with my own parents' narcissism. It's "The Drama of the Gifted Child" by Alice Miller. It's all about how parents use their children to try to repair or find what they themselves did not get from their own parents when growing up. I found it very valuable, but it's not an easy read. If you are interested in it, please take it slowly (it took me ages to finish it), and make sure you have some support. I'd be glad to talk about it with you if you decide to read it.

In the meantime, take extra gentle care of you. You are so very special. Sending you cyber hugs and pure energy to heal and give hope.

(((Angela)))

gg

im so sorry there were so many people in your life that you couldn't trust. *HUGS* I'm so sorry for the pain.

((((((((((((zh)))))))))) I've said it before and I'll say it again: you are wonderful! I am SOOOO glad you are my friend.

(((((((((((((wanttoheal)))))))))))) you know, i think you are a gem. I really do. Thanks so much for your kinds words.

((((((((((((((Pat)))))))))))))))) Thank you, my friend. You're pretty durn special, too! And I can't forget Fayeroe either!

((((((((((((((ww))))))))))))))))) Your words are beautiful, as are you. Thank you

((((((((((((((Leslie))))))))))))))) Thank you, sweetheart! Where have you been hiding? I haven't seen any posts by you for a while. Have I just missed them?

(((((((((((((((gg))))))))))))))))) I can't say enough how cool I think you are. You're great and I adore you. Thanks for the support, hon!

(((((((((((((EV)))))))))))))))))) my dear, dear friend. Thank you so much

Angela

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I waited to respond to this hoping I could find the words, but they just won't come. I won't steal your thunder here but I will say that I understand fully what you're going through because of events that have happened in my life. I will say that the bravery you have shown here is the stuff heros are made of. And make no mistake my dear friend, you are a hero. You're a hero for letting this story out, for knowing when to ask for help and comfort, for being an inspiration to others to let out their stories, and for just being you. I am horrified that this kind of thing happens to people as often as it does. It should never happen. You must remember that nothing you could have ever done would have caused this. I want you to take a good look in the mirror. If you see what we all see, you will see an amazing soul, so full of love, compassion, caring, support, and inner beauty. Take your time with mending the relationship with your mother. These things take time. I've been working on mine with my dad for 8 years now (after a 2 year period of absolute silence) and it's still not perfect. Try not to rush it. Just let it go at it's own pace. Set boundaries if you have to. But let her know all the way that you love her. You never should have had to endure this. My prayers are with you and your family. I hope things get better for you. Please take good care of yourself and know that I am always here if you need me.

Ry

Wow! Thank you so much Ryan! What a thoughtful and caring reply!

I am very, very touched

Angela

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I hope you're feeling at least a little better by now.

Silver

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Yes, much better. Thank you

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((((((((((Angela))))))))) just wnated you to know I was thinking about you.

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Just thought I'd throw another hug in the mix and let you know that I'm still thinking of you.

Ry

Sweet Angela,

This had to take every bit of courage you could muster to post and I am so proud of you for sharing this with us.

First, have you shared this with your T? If you haven't please print it out and take it to him/her. You needn't even say a word, just hand it over. It takes a lot of courage, but I know you can take it.

My life was filled with guns, shootings, beatings, screaming, denegration and all the torments of hell itself. Although I haven't been in your exact position, I do know the chaos and pain living in madness can bring.

At any rate, due to other reasons, I went for three years without speaking to my mother. Even now "I love you." sticks in my throat threatening to gag me.

The bad relationship took time to create. It will not heal over night, but you will heal, whether you need to walk off forever, or try to patch the relationship. Which ever you do, is ok, and you must take care of yourself first. Do it always.

Children of abuse so often try to take care of everyone and anything else hoping to keep down discord. We forget to take care of ourselves.

Please take very good care of you.

January

((((((Angela)))))))

I don't know you well, but what I do know is you're going through an awful lot and I hope that you are doing better. Take care please.

I am so sorry. This post really broke my heart and I feel for you. It reminded me of what I just went through with my dad. I loved him so much and looked up to him through the years and the other day he betrayed that trust and now I feel like I have totally lost him. It's as if I don't even have a father anymore and that hurts so bad!.

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