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I am honestly trying not to give up and seek professional help. I have seen 4 therapist:
#1 Therapist family life conflicted with the times I was available to see them #2 Therapist was very nice, but only a cheerleader. I spent hours venting only for them to cheer me on, give positive praise, but no clear guidance on how to manage my emotions, etc. #3 Therapist would call me every week to inquire if I wanted to make an appointment with them.....until I ran out my eight EAP visits (Employee Assistance Program) then they stopped calling. Never called me again. The therapy sessions were not that helpful either, so I took that as a sign I was being used to be able to bill EAP, so I did not bother to call them. #4 Therapist....well I think they need to see a therapist. This therapist should not have a license to practice and has been the worst experience I have had so far. I would go into my sessions and pour my heart out and express my feelings and state some facts. She would be argumentative with me and say some questionable things that I am pretty sure a therapist should not be saying. It started out good, but after a few sessions I realized this therapist is a complete jerk. Our last conversation was about an incorrect bill they sent and that conversation confirmed it. They were rude, condescending, and brash. I really should report the therapist, but I only have enough emotionally energy to focus on me right now. Bottom line, I am trying to hang in there. But I do not want to keep going through a revolving door of therapist to get the help I need. These experiences have made me question the profession to honest. Anyone have any ideas? I am definitely not going through another 4 therapist or two for that matter. At that point I will result to self managing my issues myself the best I can. Finding a good therapist is emotionally exhausting. Sorry for the long post....I had to vent and reach out for ideas. |
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Hi there,
I was betrayed, then severely damaged, by my last Therapist and Psychologist - both in 2013. My personal faith in the Profession has been totally destroyed and I currently rely on meds and the support I get here. That doesn't mean I do not see value in GOOD Therapists for others. As you have discovered, finding a competent one you 'click' with can be difficult. However, if you feel you have issues which can be resolved in Therapy it is imperative you continue your search for the right one. Better to be frustrated a few times than to suffer the rest of your life. As for reporting the inappropriate/incompetent one - draw strength from knowing you are protecting others who may come after you and go ahead and make the call. Dave.
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I've seen at least 12. Please keep looking. It's not easy to find someone compatible that you respect (& who respects you) and can work with. I eventually lucked out and found a wonderful therapist who is a great match for me and has similar goals for therapy.
You mentioned: "#4 Therapist....well I think they need to see a therapist. " Wow, I hear you. I have met several like that and it is really unfortunate. Who needs to have to deal with that nonsense? |
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Look up neurofeedback. For some of us it is our last hope. That is what I do and it is helping. It is not affordable, but neither is a life time of T and medications that do not work. It is life, and to live it to the fullest is priceless. Good luck.
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![]() exactly what big mama said since starting NFB i am actually making progress in T and experiencing many positive changes in my life |
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I can relate to your upset with these people. I have gone through it as well. I suppose therapists are like any other service provider- there are good ones, bad ones and mediocre ones. Sort of like your car mechanic I guess.
One thing you might try is to talk to some friends or co workers who have seen a therapist they felt good about. I might suggest you interview the next therapist with a page of questions about what sort of therapy they believe in- the last ones I went to don't believe that depression is treated with meds- only talk therapy... ! so, look into the different types of therapy styles. Remember you are the customer! And they are being paid to help you- . I wish that I could just do some on-line therapy so I didn't have to go out... but... Try to not let these negative experiences keep you from getting the help you want- it may take a plethora ( sorry, I like that word)- of therapist before you find the one you fit with. Sort of like it takes several different meds to have the right effect... good luck and I hope I helped a little. I appreciate being able to vent here too! |
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PS it is important to have someone you are comfortable with too. Even the best therapist isn't the right one for everyone.
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I have seen my fair share of therapists, mostly just because I've been struggling for so long and have moved around. The last time I needed to seek out a new therapist, I looked at it like it was a job interview, which in a way is sort of what it is. I talked to many different therapists over the phone, narrowed my list to three choices and then set up appointments with each to get an in person impression and face to face dialogue going. After seeing all three, I tuned into my thoughts, feelings, and gut reactions and chose from there. It really helped me feel like I made an informed choice. Just a thought. I urge you not to give up on using therapy in your treatment. For me, some of the relationships I have had with treatment providers have been life-saving. I hope you are able to make steps forward that feel best for you.
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