Not sure where I fit in

I was on BP support, but that seems unnecessary now. I am alone, without a home or job. My bf (ex) left me 3000 miles from home and I now have nothing left. I looked into the "grief and loss" support,but it appears most of them are dealing with death and I don't want to infringe on their grief. I don't believe depression is the right one either. Where do I fit in and go now for support? I'm desperately alone and scared. Would someone kindly tell me which support group on here might be best for me. Thank you.

Being a female you are in the right place if you are comfotable just talking in here with the rest of the female members..... or since this is also a relationship issue you can post in there if you desire support for the emotional struggle that always seems to come when a relationship ends.

Where ever you decide to post just know that you are wanted and welcomed in here.

Thanks Rhapsody. I never thought I'd end up in this position. I cannot believe one human could do this to another. I'm still stranded 3000 miles away without a home or job to go back to. I'm just feeling really down and scared. I know I have to pick myself up and come up with a plan, but I'm still in shock. He hasn't tried to contact me or anything. He doesn't know if I'm ok or not. I know that says alot about him, but we had a relationship and lived together, I thought building a life together. I keep asking myself this, how can you treat another person this way, especially one you said you loved so much? Please forgive me for rambling, but again I'm in shock over this.

Honestly I don't know why people do the things they do - some times I find people to be so stupid and heartless..... ((( hugs )))

Thanks again, Rhapsody...

(((((che)))))

Thank you deliquesce....a hug from any distance feels pretty good right now.

Che,

Have you succeeded in obtaining a local contact around your other issues yet? Homelessness, joblessness?

I have contacted people I knew regarding a job, a place I worked before, but they do not have any openings nor do they know of anyone hiring, and they are several hundred miles away. As far as a place to live....I don't know where I'll end up for sure. Right now I'm floating from place to place, but none are places I can stay permanently.

I did hear from him (ex) today, he wants me to come back and he says he'll give me time to move my things out. I know I will have to face him at some moment, but it's only been a week and the pain is still fresh. Besides, he still is cold, no concern for the fact we had a life together and a relationship, just come back and get your things. No apology....just keeps telling me the same old thing....that I am the cause for what happened and I am the one in need of mental health help. The thing is I have been in therapy on and off (situationally) for many, many years. We were even in therapy together and I have contact with our therapist. He says my ex. sounds dangerous at the moment and not to go back to him. He hasn't said I'm the crazy one, as a matter of fact, just the opposite. Before we went away, he told my bf (ex) there isn't anything crazy about me and I'm not in need of meds. as by ex. insists on, yet my ex. insists I need help. I'm sure it's his way of dealing with what he has done...to be in denial. Yet, while speaking with my ex. he asked how to use the grill so he could make himself lunch and he went to a play Saturday night....one we were supposed to go to together. Must be nice to have a home, prepare a meal and go out as though you didn't leave a member of your family 3000 miles away. I'm sorry if I sound angry, I'm really not I'm just so down and cannot believe he would go on as though nothing has happened.

(((((((((((((((( che ))))))))))))))))))))

I am sorry that you are going through this, I am sending you some hugs.

Thank you for your hugs.......it means a lot, really it does.

I just read some posts on the abuse site and wonder if this is abuse also. I know he has a BP diagnosis and I have stood by him. He did start counseling with me,changed docs and tried new meds. I knew from talking to the psych. doc that until meds were stabilized it would be difficult. Still, I don't believe BP causes someone to go online to have an affair, makes someone lie to someone elses face so they can meet other women for lunch, puts the blame on another person so they do not have to take responsibility, causes someone to constantly state the other person needs help...is crazy...and should be on meds in spite of the fact I am in therapy and have been for a long time and my therapist says I am NOT crazy and do not need meds. and then I do not believe BP causes someone to leave the person they say they love more than anything 3000 miles from home, no one close by and then that person calls and ask how to use a grill and about the play they saw the other night not knowing where I am or if I'm ok. Sorry, I needed to give some of the background, but maybe this is emotional and psychological abuse. I don't know if that will help me knowing if it is because even if it is abuse, that doesn't take care of my immediate problem now. Maybe I needed to know it's not so much the BP as it is who he really is.