I think I went on a date this week...

it's only been a week, for god's sake. i can take a week deciding what to wear to something.

you grew on me. you'll grow on him.

let it flow, flow, flow............



this about this for awhile................xoxoxo pat

Here's what I think: Cold shrinks things.

nice visual, maven.

Juliana,

Advice from MSN:

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.asp...uid=6&GT1=9278

Hugs,

EJ

A little update. It turns out he isn't just interested in me as a friend. We had a long talk last night. He's terrified of getting hurt in a relationship so hadn't been with a woman in a long time. He was wondering if I was attracted to him; he thought maybe I was just that friendly with all my male friends... and he found it hard to believe that I would find him attractive. He's a little bit damaged in the self-esteem department; I'm glad he opened up to me. I'm sure he's still terrified of a relationship and I am too. We're taking it one day at a time... but we had an amazing night last night... and I sure needed that.

Yay!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe you'll be able to help him see that he needn't be afraid anymore. Whoo hoo!!! Keep us updated!

He made me promise that I won't regret what he happened and he made me promise that I will talk to him tomorrow morning. He said he's going to come and get me for break and we're going to communicate. He said we've started communicating and wants to keep that going and he wants it to go deeper. Hmmmm... Anyway, I expect he's probably freaking out right now. He didn't want to be attracted to me or have any feelings for me. He's terrified of a relationship, so I wouldn't be surprised if he backs away from me. He has some big issues. We'll see what happens. If it turns out he can't get over the fear and can't trust himself (and me), there's nothing I can do about that. I'm not going to push him. If it doesn't turn into a relationship at least I know it's not because there's anything WRONG with me. I know he thinks a lot of me. If he's not ready, he's not ready... I will be very happy if he comes around, though and decides to take a chance... and I'm holding myself back from feeling anything too deep for him at this point.

I hear ya.....its rough when the other person has a lot of issues. I know for me, my fears can rear their ugly heads, and they are doing so today. I'm getting insecure and even asked Brian if he's still happy, to which he answered "of course". My brain tells me crazy things and brings up old fears from the past, so I totally understand where your guy is coming from.

I'm thinking I better voice to Brian that I'm having old fears crop up, since we agreed to be honest about everything. I hope you guy continues to tell you where he's coming from and how he's feeling!

You definitely should tell your guy how you're feeling. Let him know that he hasn't given you a reason to doubt him... you're just dealing with old issues. We all bring baggage with us to relationships and it's best to talk about those things openly.

I have a lot of fears and insecurities about relationships too... so I undertstand where you're coming from. I also understand where the guy I'm interested in is coming from too. I'm glad he's being open with me. I hope I can help him trust me... and trust himself enough to continue being open.

Oh YAY Juliana - keep us updated!

I voiced my insecurities last night to him and it felt much better getting it off my chest.

It helped a ton when he sent me a text saying he was talking to his parents and he told them he planned to marry me some day......WoW!

Having an open and honest relationship is so refreshing as opposed to being afraid to voice my insecurities, lest they freak out and run.....

Just the fact that he trusts you enough to tell you about his insecurities is a good sign. I know for me, its refreshing to know that Brian has insecurities as well, so it makes it easier for me to talk to him about that stuff.

If nothing else, your guy has found someone he can talk to, and what a gift to be able to give!