Going crazy before menstruating

Hey girls
I haven't yet found a doctor or therapist who could help me with this.
Before I get my period, I'm feeling really low. I am cold with sweaty hands, my back hurts and my head starts to do really weird things. I lose all self-control when in an uncomfortable situation or I'm under pressure. I get really sensitive and emotional, with lots of crying and irrational fears and anger. It's so embarrassing. I don't even see it coming and it doesn't help to know it might be because of that.
My body and I are in a conflict then and I feel disgusting, want noone to get near me, but at the same time I want people to be really nice and gentle around me. I feel like I am really crazy then. I only want to be at home in bed when it starts and usually the despair passes when the bleeding starts. It's the couple days before that that are really challenging.
Any suggestions or experiences would be great so I don't feel like such a loser. I've already tried Bach's Rescue Remedy, lavender tea (as I am really sensitive to caffeine then), staying at home where it's warm, but sometimes a girl has stuff to do and places to be, so that's not always an option.
Any advice would be so helpful

First off you are not crazy. And second of all, I experience something similar.
What has helped me cope is, working out, eating the right balances of food, and watching the amount of sugar I intake prior to that point in my month. And for me, as soon as the bleeding starts, all of those feelings going away. Now, I have a period tracker that helps me note when I am about to have my period, and when it is most likely that I will ovulate, etc etc.

Being aware and noting down how you feel exactly on those days will certainly assist with controlling those feelings.

Every single month I experience similar symptoms as you. Where I differ is it only happens for one day just before my period starts. The way I feel includes disliking my family, disliking my husband and having very strong feelings that lean towards hate.

Just after having my daughter, I had extremely bad bouts of resentment just before my period and I was very very moody. I ended up going to my doctor to ask what was going on. It turned out that I potentially had PMS disphoria. Since I cannot take the pill (due to migraines and a sensitivity to too much estrogen), I was put on an anti depressant (which was to help with the mood swings), but wasn't implemented because of depression (I wasn't depressed), but to help with the chemical imbalances that I was experiencing due to that time of the month.

Let's keep talking about this, because there are months when it's just so hard to control my emotions just before it happens. And like you, my back hurts. I also gain weight and become bloated.

I remember back in the day before i got older. You are not crazy, it is an overload of hormones which affect peoples moods, actions. It raises blood pressure, makes ones moody, not rational and over react to things. You do grow out of this, for each women it is a different age group based on their metabolical makeup. (((hugs))) You sound perfectly fine to me... and men go through the same thing... older men laugh at young men the same way older women chuckle at younger ladies. It is all relavent... tc and blessings

This is so strange! I was just about to create a post about this very same thing. I've been prescribed zoloft and colanzepam and they have really done amazing things for me. BUT, 2 days before I start my period I just completely plummet. Has anyone had any success with adding a supplement to their regimen?

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God that's all good to hear/read. I felt like such a freak.
And yes please let's keep talking about this!

I have found that when I take sugar from my diet, and eat less carbohydrate rich foods (like bread, and candy), I would have less bloating. Also, working out while on my period and just before had a profound impact on my mood, and I don't feel as down and out about life. And like I said before it's like the mood goes away as soon as the flow happens.

So weird.

I am writing to you to let you know that at this moment, these are the thoughts and feelings that I am currently experiencing. It's fairly uncomfortable to share, but I wanted to share so I can get myself out of this state of mind, because like was stated before as soon as the "flow" starts, the mental exhaustion and the second guessing myself ends.

This is how I feel:

Oh boy! It's one of those days, my period is about to start, and, I start to second guess myself. I feel like I am doing nothing right. I feel as though I can't do my job properly. I can't communicate properly, and although no one is out to get me, I feel like everyone is out to get me.

Things bother me beyond nothing else. So what I am trying to do mentally is try and use "mental" boxes. I try and place the things in my mind that bother me and compartmentalize them. I have to strain mentally to keep them in that box so I can deal with them in a rational way.

But sometimes it's a hard thing to do, being to keep them in the box. But so far, I have calmly and rationally handled the things that bother me. It is so exhausting.

I feel like I am not learning my life's lesson when I feel this way. It's uncontrollable. However, I know at the end of the day, everything will be fine. I just know it. But until such time as the "fog" migrates away I will keep putting these off feelings aside (I do acknowledge them, but I try not to let them consume me).

Just wanted you to know how I am feeling today.

Hey Phyllis78,

thank you so much for sharing
I go through the same stuff whenever I have to work during my period! The strain, the focusing, just everything!
I heard of some teas that should help, but haven't tried them: one is called Paphiopedilum (a herb also known as Venus Slipper in English)
I hope you feel better already.

Oh me and my mum have this. We just get super angry-mode and weird before a period. PMT/PMS is what it is, or you could have PMDD, it's a syndrome that comes with it apparently. Basically your hormones are making you feel like you're batshit insane and make you irritable/uncontrollable mood swings. Having to do ANYTHING is such an effort and just ugh horrible.

This link helps : Premenstrual syndrome - NHS Choices

I just went to my doctor about it and they said it's common, the best thing you can do is take some of the frustration out on a punch bag or work out or something/anything to relieve the frustration. It's best to just have alone time I find because I get very short and snappy with people.

I used to get suicidal before my period. I don't know if it is related but my endocrinologist discovered I have poly-cystic ovarian syndrome, which can be treated. If your period is irregular it might be worth going to an endocrinologist.

Not at all, it's like a clockwork. I'm glad it is something that can be treated!

I took Zoloft for years to help with my PMDD (along with my OCD and depression). It helped my PMDD a lot until recently. I start struggling with PMDD roughly ten days before my period begins and symptoms disappear when my period starts. I feel emotionally horrible during those days along with back pain, bloating and general aching all over.

Frankly, I can handle the physical discomfort but I hate the emotional side of PMDD. I know it's coming but I can't control it. My Zoloft isn't helping anymore so I'm taking a leap to Lexapro soon.

Two things that help me are to reduce environmental stimuli as much as possible and to realize it will pass.

It is good to know that one isn't the only crazy bat and to read about all the different sides and implications it can have. I honestly appreciate every single post here
Basically being a woman brings a lot of stuff with it and everything seems connected to everything right?? Having a body, going to work, deseases and struggles, emotional pain, thoughts, all of this is worth sharing I think. I'm loving the good talk and all the input we have here

You're not alone! I struggled and I mean struggled with this for years. Whatever could possibly blow up and explode during that time would and I would be essential helpless. It was as if I didn't know how to operate in this foreign mental state I was in, as if I were Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, that's what I called it.

That was when I would be irritable, argumentative, irresponsible, cry for no reason or any reason, be mean, lash out, misunderstand everything, self harm, blow up, etc., etc. Some 30 years later a combination of things happened that finally gave me some peace, a hysterectomy for other reasons, psychotherapy, menopause and meds.

Wish I had a great solution for you but I don't have one. Just wanted you to know you aren't alone. I thought I was the only one who had that problem for a long time. It was hell.

Yep I have pmdd to and the week before I start is hell. I'm also bipolar and taking a mood stabilizer and Latuda for depression it's not as bad since I started taking those but it still happens as soon as I start I feel the relief

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I'm currently titrating off Zoloft after taking it for PMDD (among OCD, anxiety and depression). It pooped out on me after twenty years and I was on max dose. PMDD was awful last month. Trying Lexapro and keeping my fingers crossed.

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This happens to me every time I'm on my period.