Is it normal

I am marrying the love of my life in 5 months and I am completely nerves. We had a rocky relationship for a while and things are better now but I am still worried that we may hit another rocky patch and I am 100% dead set against divorce. I know I love him more than life itself. He has been there in some really hard times in my life just as I have been there for him in some really hard times in his life. I am also worried that he may not enjoy the day as much as I will since his dad won't be there because he died almost 3 years ago. How can I bring his dad to the wedding without his dad actually being there since of course I can't go to heaven and pick his dad up. I want him to enjoy it just as much I am going to and I think it worries me more than anything that not having his dad there will hurt him to the point that he can't enjoy it. Is it normal to worry about these things 5 months before your wedding? My fiance is the best guy in the world he is hard working, caring, and very romantic and I couldn't see my life without him I think it may just be the stress from all the planning or is it cold feet? I have never been married before so I have never had these feelings.

I think it is normal to have some worries. If you are really concerned about something, could you consider counselling with your fiance?
As for having his Dad at your wedding - please mention him. It is important. When one of my nieces got married, it was a beautiful and happy day and it was made even more special when her sister (who had passed away several years before) was mentioned. We all cried, of course, because it is sad that she wasn't there and we all miss her so much. But it was good to go through it together.
Just thought of this - if there is a poem or something that your fiance's Dad liked that would fit into the ceremony, why not have someone recite it? Or something like that, to make him more present.
I wish you both the very best on your special day.

His dad was in to old country music like Hank Williams Sr and guys like that I think I could work his favorite song in there somewhere. I just want his dad to be present so my fiance can enjoy the day better.

Why are you "dead set against divorce"? I mean, if you're not sure about getting married, and dead set against divorce, then it's probably best to cool your heels and not get married right away.

I am sure I want to get married. I have been with my fiance for almost 4 years. I am just worried about how we would handle another rocky patch once we are married. I am dead set against divorce because I know we will have children one day and I know how divorce can affect children. It's been almost 3 years since we hit a rocky patch in our relationship and I think it was caused by the stress of his dad being sick for 2 weeks before he died and of us going back and forth between KY and IN for those 2 weeks plus I didn't have a very good job then so we were having to put all the expense from that trip on his credit card and I think it was stressing him out. I think me and him may just need to talk about how we would handle another rocky patch if one came our way. I like what one person said about maybe having some counsling.

You knew your fiance's dad. I read somewhere a long time ago that the bride had something significant to her (from a family member who had passed) sewn into her wedding dress.
I thought it was a lovely understated way to acknowledge the person.

I am not married but I have seen how my friends got anxious before the wedding. It's okay to feel like that.
Life is difficult in itself and marriage is difficult. You should be happy that the love of your life has committed to you and is marrying you.
About the absence of your dad in law, make sure you let him know how it makes you feel bad that your dad in law won't be there for the wedding, the fact that you are feeling bad too will let him be strong. If you tell him that you want him to enjoy just as much as you would then that wouldn't help how he feels. (Just my opinion but don't worry, dream about the future you will have together. By the way Congratulations!)

In regards to remembering your FIL at the wedding... Are you doing a mother-son dance? If so, you could always use music your FIL liked for the dance. Then it's sort of a family moment for them.

When it comes to getting married, anxiety is pretty par for the course. I was a terrible wreck two nights before my wedding. I just cried and cried to my mother, and this was after I had been dating the guy for 7 years, so it wasn't like I didn't want to marry him. It just boils down to the fact that change is scary, even good change.

I do want to point out that I think it's interesting that you define your relationship with your fiance as being rocky, when the last rocky patch was over three years ago and was clearly based on circumstances. Why do you think of your relationship as being rocky when you've been pretty solid the last three years?

Amazing!!!