how do you know...

if a guy is not just using you. I have a bf...this one guy was really lonely and we became fast friend...i had no attraction to him what so ever...he had attraciton to me...I told him I don't love him that I love my bf...he wouldn't take no for an answer...after thinking he was my best friend...I realised he was just using me to keep his lonliness in check...I live with a philipino family and they take in homestays..i was their first homestay...I am no in a house full of boys....this guy, who was supposedly my friend took oranges from the oranges i bought and would not pay me back, or if he did pay me back he did it and was upset...I told him our friendship is over many times because he would try to kiss me...I told him to back off...he said but I like your presence and your company...I would feel bad because he has no fmaily or close friends and I truly thought he was a good friend...he called me a bi*** once because I got upset with him so many times. I told him to stop hugging me but he wouldn't listen...then finally one day i got fed up and just blocked him and told him I couldn't trust him and that we are not friends. He got upset and said that he wold miss me...he left me emails. I went upstairs to eat by myself...he came upstairs as well and stared at me while I avoided eye contact...I smiled and didn't say anything..he just stared and gave me a pissed off look and walked away...I'm relieved...I feel like I can just live my life carefree now...I feel like he was trying ot control me and make me comfort him while he wasn't much of a friend to me...I'm afraid of the reprucussions though...I'm afraid he'll me nasty to me from now on...I told my bf about him...he said that this guy has issues and that I should just stay away from him and not care about his feelings

While I cant say IF he is just using you or not.... I can say that he has an unhealthy attachment to you and for your own safety I would stay away from him and quickly cut all ties.... Please Stay SAFE.

I've been so confused since he started interacting with me...my feelings are all messed up now because I don't know if I love him or my bf and I think he has messed me up...he tried to make me think that he loves me more than my bf...he makes me feel guilty when I go see my bf when I never even wanted to have a relationship with him...he says I'm the best thing that's happened to him...I think this guy is just being a jerk to me...I don't totally understand the mind of a guy...but I wish he would just leave me alone...he leaves in May...he kept saying...well I'm leaving in May, and you won't even care...then he said...I would hate myself if I didn't say this...but I love you...I'm so confused...what is this guy's motives...from the very beginning I wanted him to take a hike...then I had an attraction to him...and now I feel numb...I don't know what to feel or who I am or what I want...I don't even know if I can trust guys anymore...I trust my bf he's always been truthful and upfront with me...but tthis guy...omg..I can't even believe I had emotions for him...I feel like he raped me emotionally and I had no say in the matter

You have all the say in the world... please stand up for yourself - you are worth it.

He doesn't get what he wants, he puts you down. That didn't work, so he crosses boundaries. By touching you in an inappropriate manner. I am wondering if he too is Phillipine or was it Korean? and what his cultural background is? Like is he a new immigrant?

Just me, but living with men that are roommates is never a good idea, just for these reasons. But since you are living there, does your door lock by chance? He seems like he has become more and more forceful. Standing outside your door to stare at you...speaks danger.

I had a man that I worked around do this with me. Just stare at me while I worked. I quit my job because of it. I reported it, they wanted to wait till something "more drastic" happened. :S

Could you not move out? Somewhere safer?

Take Care