[LiveThroughThis]

A few weeks ago I got a call from my vet's office about an application I'd put in months ago (long story but an animal got put to sleep out of aggression and apparently they saw my sympathy as a good characteristic and asked if I'd like to fill one out).

At the time I don't think I'd even gotten started on my Sleep Apnea machine, etc., so I was really unstable emotionally. But I filled it out to be nice.

So they called me and said they had an opening for a full-time kennel job (closed on weekends), and to call back if I was interested, etc. I was out of town at the time of the call, and I wanted to talk to my T before even considering the job (there's no way at this time I could handle a fulltime job, but a few days sounded perfect to me). I didn't get to see my T for three weeks, until last Wed. I told her about it, and how, since I can't drive very far--and the vet's is about 15-20 min away--my only regular transportation is my bf's mom, and that is inconsistent, at best. We do have one or two cab companies around, but I don't know that I could have one pick me up on a regular basis each week, plus the idea of riding around with a stranger freaks me out some.

My therapist agreed the job was really ideal for me--don't deal with lots of ppl, only small dogs/cats to deal with, daily walks for them = daily walks for me, etc.---but that I would need a Plan A as well as a Plan B regarding transportation. Plan A would be bf's mom, but she's often unreliable. Plan B is a cab, if that's even an option (I don't see any around here, small town). But even if I had a consistent cab ride, and it didn't make me anxious, that's only one Plan. I'd still need a Plan B. And none of my family/friends live anywhere near here.

I want so bad to be able to drive several miles on two-lane roads (what a lot of it is out here) and not freak out when ppl pass me, swerve around, etc. I'm not there yet. And it pisses me off that my bf's mom agrees to take me to therapy, etc., knowing what time the appt is, then makes me 10 minutes late half the time.

I haven't called the vet's office yet; I've been sick, and just wanted to mull over it some. I'm going to tell them my car's dead--cause it is--and I wouldn't have regular transportation.

It's very upsetting to me to turn down this offer. It's so ideal for my current situation, it would get me moving and be active, and be around animals. Plus I've always loved wearing scrubs, when I had a hospital job. This would've gotten me out of the house, out of this pigsty I can't keep up with.

I just wanted to get that out. I don't know what kind of emotion to put on it. I guess defeated.

[finlay]

Hey,

I suppose you should not stress yourself about something like the transportation. Since the vet apparently really wanted you since they even called you back and made the offer I think it would be best if you are upfront with them.

Don't just be defeated and stay down but take the initiative and ask if there is any way they could help you make your way there. Take in any possibilities to get there. I don't think they would drop you just like that. And if it doesn't work out at least you know that you have tried everything.

It's really important though that you are not inactive and resign yourself to the fact that you won't be able to work there. If you really think this would be good for you, you can make it happen the first step is already made.

[LiveThroughThis]

Originally Posted by finlay

Hey,

I suppose you should not stress yourself about something like the transportation. Since the vet apparently really wanted you since they even called you back and made the offer I think it would be best if you are upfront with them.

Don't just be defeated and stay down but take the initiative and ask if there is any way they could help you make your way there. Take in any possibilities to get there. I don't think they would drop you just like that. And if it doesn't work out at least you know that you have tried everything.

It's really important though that you are not inactive and resign yourself to the fact that you won't be able to work there. If you really think this would be good for you, you can make it happen the first step is already made.

Thanks for the post. And the encouragement. But it is a tiny, extremely busy office; I highly doubt they would have the means to offer transportation, especially to someone almost 20 minutes away. I am going to be up front; my car doesn't work. If it did, I would've already been starting to drive more and maybe able to drive there myself now if it wasn't dead. It's none of their business I have such a problem with driving. This is my vet, after all; I do have to continue seeing them in the future.

Something may work out somehow soon, it may be months from now. That's the reality, and I'm working on accepting it.

[LiveThroughThis]

I finally called the vet's today and told the receptionist I'd been offered a job by so-and-so and my car's dead so I cannot accept the job, but emphasized my gratitude that she considered me. The receptionist asked my name, so the woman will know I returned the call.

Thankfully, I didn't have to actually talk to the woman who called me initially. I was nervous about that.

My bf is on vacation this week, so hopefully the only problem w/the car is the battery, and I can start driving again, and maybe soon will turn into a normal thing for me again.

[ECHOES]

Usually positions are filled quickly, so I would assume since they didn't hear from you for so long, they filled the position before you called.

I hope you are getting out there and getting some driving time in, so you can feel more comfortable driving. It's one of those things that gets better with time and experience, but the only way to do it is... well, to do it - practice and practice and see your comfort level rise!

Good luck with the next job offer - I hope it's one you will be able to accept.