[ggky59]

I absolutely loathe my supervisor. I get physically ill when I see her face, my stomach starts to hurt and I honestly have anxiety attacks because of her....this hatred I have for her is making my life a nightmare.

I've been with this company for almost 20 years, and this woman since coming to my department has been on a mandate to get me fired. She can't control me and she's extremely controlling.

We both came through the company around the same time, I just happen to work throughout the company vs staying in one department like she has and I know more than she does and it kills her to know end, knowing this about me. So when I challenge her on issues that she's unfamiliar with, it angers the heck out of her, but I'm not going to dumb myself down just to make this woman feel good. I'm never disrespectful, I just bring up the backend of our business that she's not familiar with when challenged about things......Needless to say, she resents the heck out of me for this knowlege, so I've become a target and although I keep moving, last week she finally got me.

I had made a huge mistake on an account we had and although I had time enough to correct the mistake, she wouldn't allow me to do it, so the client got burnt. Now she's running around the office trying to find a way to make this mistake a firing offense. We're going on 2 weeks of her trying to find something about this to get me fired. Meanwhile, I'm stuck trying to work each day, knowing this woman has escalated my mistake to the highest level of authority at the company. I'm sad, I'm confused, I'm worried, I'm at a complete loss on how to deal with this cloud over my head each day.

Meanwhile, she's gloating around the office, on breaks, I mean the lady is on a cloud of sheer happiness. I just wish I had someone to tell me, that a aged 56 year old woman will be okay......despite a future of finding a good job again.

[AnnaRAlfaro]

You will be OK...if not here, somewhere else. Please keep us updated. We all make mistakes

[Little Lulu]

This supervisor sounds like she has some insecurity issues that your good grounding in company functioning has tapped into. And reporting to someone who is less knowledgeable or not as smart as you can be challenging.

That said, for better or worse she is your supervisor and unless you really do want to look for a new job, the best way to get out from under this cloud over your head is to treat this woman with respect and make peace with her. In corporate terms, this is called 'managing your manager'. Doesn't mean you have to like her but if you don't, she doesn't have to know it. she wants to believe that you believe in her.

Call a truce of sorts, soften your attitude, make an amend if you need to for the error you made and maybe the whole thing will blow over. What do you have to lose? After all, you are the one who is suffering.

[winter4me]

It sounds like it might be time to take this up with her supervisor, you will need to be calm, professional, relating the situation re: a mistake was made that could have been corrected, and it negatively impacted a client sounds appropriate. Somehow, you do need to separate your personal feelings from what matters at work. Not easy. (another dept. you want to work in? request a transfer?)---people usually do leave their supervisor rather than their job...but you have been there a long time...

[ggky59]

Originally Posted by AnnaRAlfaro

You will be OK...if not here, somewhere else. Please keep us updated. We all make mistakes

Today, I had a beautiful day, because she wasn't there and all my anxiety went away. I know that once this nightmare with her pass, regardless of the outcome, I'll be okay, I just hate feeling so deflated when she's around. I don't have enough fingers to count on naming all the mistakes she's made, but that's not important what is important is that she clearly resents me and wants me gone. Never experienced anything like this in my entire life, its mind bodling and extremely frustrating.

Thanks for the comment.

[ggky59]

Originally Posted by Little Lulu

This supervisor sounds like she has some insecurity issues that your good grounding in company functioning has tapped into. And reporting to someone who is less knowledgeable or not as smart as you can be challenging.

That said, for better or worse she is your supervisor and unless you really do want to look for a new job, the best way to get out from under this cloud over your head is to treat this woman with respect and make peace with her. In corporate terms, this is called 'managing your manager'. Doesn't mean you have to like her but if you don't, she doesn't have to know it. she wants to believe that you believe in her.

Call a truce of sorts, soften your attitude, make an amend if you need to for the error you made and maybe the whole thing will blow over. What do you have to lose? After all, you are the one who is suffering.

Friend, I can't tell you how many times I have attempted to "kiss her *** just to get along". I've listened to her grandkid stories, I felt bad for her when her mom died a few years ago, I mean we have a history......but with this one, things like that; doesn't work with her. After 20 years, I've seen people caught in her cross hairs, they don't have a chance..... You can be nice and friendly with this woman one minute and later find out she was over at another office talking about you negatively. I mean, when she doesn't like you, its on (smile). Oh and a bit of a side note here....when the company downsized a few years ago and the layoff was massive, they kept me because I'm a hard worker, good person, I get along with everyone and I know my job inside and out. If my attitude got any softer, I'd need angel wings (smile)....Have a great weekend!!

[ggky59]

Originally Posted by winter4me

It sounds like it might be time to take this up with her supervisor, you will need to be calm, professional, relating the situation re: a mistake was made that could have been corrected, and it negatively impacted a client sounds appropriate. Somehow, you do need to separate your personal feelings from what matters at work. Not easy. (another dept. you want to work in? request a transfer?)---people usually do leave their supervisor rather than their job...but you have been there a long time...

There in lies yet another problem with her and I....you see a few months ago, I did have a meeting with her boss, my supervisor and me. She has this habit of being extremely loud and aggressive on the work floor when addressing you about a problem. And this one day, she reduced me to tears in front of the entire staff and I was humiliated and embarrassed. I immediately after work ask could she and I along with her boss have a meeting the following morning, and we did. She was all apologetic, cried a bit and I thought things would get to a level of mutual respect between us...that lasted about a week, then it was back to the same ol cruel human being. I also found out her boss, resented me for complaining about her, because she thinks she's the best thing since sliced bread. It was a mess for a long time, the confusion I had over this. All of my team fears her, most are immigrants, very quiet and laid back, so I have no real allies at work. And the way she treats the Asians is just appalling. My supervisor is not a nice person at all. She treat these people like their 2 years old, its disgusting watching her do this and talk to them that way.

I tried posting out several times, but was always beat by someone with more seniority. I'm just stuck in a nightmare that I can't get out of, that's all....but thanks for the comment and do have a wonderful weekend

[Little Lulu]

(((((ggky59))))) Peace to you and a nice weekend, also.

[winter4me]

Originally Posted by ggky59

There in lies yet another problem with her and I....you see a few months ago, I did have a meeting with her boss, my supervisor and me. She has this habit of being extremely loud and aggressive on the work floor when addressing you about a problem. And this one day, she reduced me to tears in front of the entire staff and I was humiliated and embarrassed. I immediately after work ask could she and I along with her boss have a meeting the following morning, and we did. She was all apologetic, cried a bit and I thought things would get to a level of mutual respect between us...that lasted about a week, then it was back to the same ol cruel human being. I also found out her boss, resented me for complaining about her, because she thinks she's the best thing since sliced bread. It was a mess for a long time, the confusion I had over this. All of my team fears her, most are immigrants, very quiet and laid back, so I have no real allies at work. And the way she treats the Asians is just appalling. My supervisor is not a nice person at all. She treat these people like their 2 years old, its disgusting watching her do this and talk to them that way.

I tried posting out several times, but was always beat by someone with more seniority. I'm just stuck in a nightmare that I can't get out of, that's all....but thanks for the comment and do have a wonderful weekend

You are in a tough place. I am sorry. I am too familiar (not currently thank goodness) with the work environment you describe---"...one way or another, this darkness has got to end..."---you have persevered, you are a strong person---(here's hoping she goes...)

[tigersassy]

I feel for you. I'm dealing with a similar situation. Except she is working on getting me fired. Apparently I've spread vicious lies about her to the point of slander (I always thought slander was lying maliciously). She has told several people what I said so I don't think that's slander but I digress. Good luck and here's hoping for a good outcome for the both of us.

There are worse things than being a 55 year old woman looking for a new job!

Continuing to work in a toxic work environment at the expense of our physical and emotional well-being is one of them.

I'd start looking for another job while making myself as small a target as possible at this one.

I wish you the best!

[dwfieldjr]

I really hope everything works out for u.

[maddnessreturns]

I'm in the same situation right now. It's awful so I feel for you. I dread going to work everyday. I've ended up to where I'm quiting at the end of the year because I can't take it.

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