My boss SUCKS. My job is OK I suppose, but she just sucks and gives me NO incentive whatsoever to work hard or even to work at all.

I send her proposals to implement new strategies, and she ignores them. I have to chase her down repeating the same message over and over again for literally MONTHS.

I handed in a huge project over a year ago, which is only just now getting implemented, very slowly.

I had to take four and a half months off over a year ago because she bullied me so badly I ended up suicidal and at the ER. Thankfully, she can no longer bully me, but she still can be a ***** sometimes.

I have never seen such poor employee management in my life.

I cannot wait to leave this God awful job and my God awful boss!

Anyone else have an awful boss or feel like ranting about your own job?

[seesaw]

My old boss used to gaslight like a mo-fo. But fortunately I kept documentation of everything and I always followed up in writing, so I had proof that they told or didn't tell me to do something and she couldn't make up lies. It was hard when you had to catch your boss in either a lie or them trying to backtrack and have to point out to them that they can't blame it on you, you were doing as directed. I think that's part of the reason I was "laid off" because I wouldn't take blame for things that weren't my fault.

Good for you for documenting everything though! That was very smart!!! I had a boss who would try and blame for her mistakes too... and another one who did the same. I had a co-worker throw her water bottle because she was mad at me for pointing something out.

[reb569]

Oh boy I could go on forever about a number of former bosses. The most recent bad experience my boss was finally let go. He took credit for what I did, blamed me for his mistakes, left my personnel record in a pile of paperwork in a desk drawer that a co-worker found after he left. Most of my meetings with him triggered panic attacks.

I worked for a small business just prior to this job (I've been at my current job going on 13 years) and he would spy on me, demanded that I support him in his decisions, even when I didn't agree with them. When his decisions cause a near stop in cash in-flow and he couldn't make payroll, he told all the employees that he did what he did because I recommended it (I very strongly discouraged him from making this move). He committed bank fraud several times and was known to rip off customers. I was so glad to leave that place. I took a pay cut to get out of there.

My current job.... well one of our division managers, who manages a majority of our projects just gave notice. Our division chief has an issue with drinking during the work day (I smelled alcohol on his breath the morning before last at 9 am, and a meeting I had with him yesterday he seemed confused at times, had a hard time following our conversation, he's been seen staggering in the parking lot several times. I took all of this with a grain of salt until I witnessed it for myself). The manager that gave notice would be the logical choice to run the division if he gets canned. So basically we are in deep do-do right now. It's a very volatile situation. I don't want him to get fired, the two logical people who could temporarily run our division until they found a permanent replacement are both back stabbers. At least it's Friday.

[Turtle_Rider]

My intern boss was a hypocrite. She thinks that because she is the manager, the rules are not applied on her. At one time, she laid-off a senior co-worker for protesting her. The permanent co-workers are hating her, even now. Since I was just an intern, we didn't interact too much through.

My freelance boss is alright. He made me upset a little in last days, but still alright.

My current boss is a liar. Promised me to pay higher after probation times over, but he does not keep it. Now I'm seeking new one while still working under his nose.

Well, my boss seriously surprised me by getting back to to me on my latest proposal, but she said "I've been on board with this for some time", even though she hasn't been. I am about 99% certain that I've proposed this before, it didn't take hold and she dismissed it. So she's trying to make herself look good in front of HR now. GRRRRRRR.

[rechu]

https://forums.psychcentral.com/work...-job-soon.html

To not retype everything, I will just post the link to a post I made about my now former boss last year. It was awful. I ended up quitting before he pushed me totally over the edge, but I still get these feelings of doubt or thinking my current boss is going to get mad at me about something that go back to that situation. My new job isn't perfect by any means, but at least I don't have to deal with a messed up person like that. People that are still working for him say it's gotten worse since I left.

Hoping you find a better job soon! No one should have to go through that sort of abuse just to keep a roof over their head and food on the table.

That's awful you went through that... I still have some PTSD from when my boss abused me that creeps up now and again. At least you got out!!! Thank God for that.

And thank you..... fingers R crossed!!

[Lolina]

Hi Golden eyes: how are you able to keep your cool and still working with a person who pushed you to suicide (almost). Don't you feel trigger by her or things she can do or say.
I went through bullying, intimidation, verbal and almost physical abuse by former coworkers and even though I work as a temp and changed quite often, I still feel triggered by all of these bad experiences. People feel like because they have a superior position they can treat others poorly which is completely unacceptable. I suffer anxiety, ptsd and pms which arrived shortly after the incident.

I guess because I have to be and also because HR will no longer allow the abuse. HR watches over ALL our communications and is involved in every communication so my boss has to remain professional with me at all times (mwahhhahahaha!). Hehe. So because I am no longer abused, I can still work with her and everything is pretty much OK now (except for the fact that she still sucks as a boss and a manager).

It is absolutely terrible what you've been through. I can empathize, having been there myself many times. ((((((((Hugs))))))))) It is entirely unacceptable and deplorable treatment.

Are you being treated for the PTSD , etc and are you given methods for coping with it when triggered? That is the key -- is learning coping skills when triggered. I use deep breathing and guided meditation exercises when my PTSD gets triggered, for example, and it helps tremendously. Or, sometimes, I just divert my attention to something else to focus on that will help snap me out of it. Diverting your attention to something else is a good way as well. People can really suck sometimes.... GRRRRRR. :/

[Lolina]

Hi Golden-eve, thank you for your answer and advice.
Your HR is doing a good job and that's great, not like the HR I had to deal with and who made it seemed like it was normal to be assaulted, it was my fault.

After a time that I didn't want to go out of my bed and be close to anybody. I start to slightly open up again, I am seeing a psychologist once a week for half an hour, it's not a lot but it's free and the Psychologist was quite compassionate which made me cry, when I went back home I cried too and this made me stronger as I was able to burst the pain. I went to the police to declare what happened. I have another appointment with a lawyer to examine my case and see if I can sue them.
Even though it's been more than a year since the incident I am finding the courage now to report it and fight back. Even though it doesn't go far, I just want to leave a trace and show them that I took back my dignity.

My GP told me that the fact I was abused as a kid broke me in a certain way and made me vulnerable to other abuse. Toxic people can feel who they can attack.

I do meditate too time to time above all when I work, I definitely need that in the morning. Since almost two months I don't work so I don't meditate that much.
Yoga helps too, the kundalini one but it brought out lots of past hurt, I wanted to do a 40 day challenge and stop, I couldn't handle the memories.
One other technic that I use in public spaces like transport is to imagine myself surrounding with light and separate from others with a kind of huge transparent bubble.

Ps: I love your Bob Marley's quote, it's so true in this life.

Some HR departments absolutely SUCK and side with management. That is very unfortunate yours didn't side with you. (((Hugs))))

I know it helps to feel a sense of dignity to see what could be done legally, if anything. I found in my case, that nothing legally could be done unless it was an outright case of discrimination.

Sounds like you have some good and healthy coping mechanisms -- that's great!!

And thanks re: my quote -- so fitting for life.

ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I want to scream and virtually strangle my boss!!!!!!!!

We are on two different wavelengths...... she claims our top competitors are X, Y, and Z while I say they are A, B, and C -- my perspective coming from those that are in direct competition with us ONLINE. She is thinking of those competitors OFFLINE and in the industry. What she's not getting is that in my line of work, what matters is ONLINE competitors.

She just shot down my grand idea to create a comprehensive guide that will help us beat our top online competitor on a topic that is a hot topic now and one that I thought we would want to write about. I thought it was a great idea. GRRRRR> My boss and I are on two totally different pages!!!!!!

I cannot WAIT to get another job.

[ArchieAus]

It's a bit delusional to not realise a company's HR dept's first priority is protect the management from employees . Yes if you are being victimised by a management individual HR will assist you to some degree to protect the greater good of the company . I've supervised in large company's for more years than I care to remember and have seen it many times where HR sympathise with a disgruntled employee , then in the next breath behind closed doors tell the manager how to protect themselves from that person and give them tools to enable them to dismiss them once enough evidence has been gathered . Every situation is different and that's just a general overview . It's like a safety dept . There first priority is not the safety of the employees ...it's to keep the Manager out of court if someone dies on the job. Trust no one .

[seesaw]

Originally Posted by ArchieAus

It's a bit delusional to not realise a company's HR dept's first priority is protect the management from employees . Yes if you are being victimised by a management individual HR will assist you to some degree to protect the greater good of the company . I've supervised in large company's for more years than I care to remember and have seen it many times where HR sympathise with a disgruntled employee , then in the next breath behind closed doors tell the manager how to protect themselves from that person and give them tools to enable them to dismiss them once enough evidence has been gathered . Every situation is different and that's just a general overview . It's like a safety dept . There first priority is not the safety of the employees ...it's to keep the Manager out of court if someone dies on the job. Trust no one .

Yup. Been on both ends of this. That's why I say document everything. They can't deny real hard difference.

Seesaw

Yes, documentation is KEY. I am sure that the HR person in my company is doing this so that they don't get sued.