giving up

I can never be happy... I have panic attacks all the time... I'm afraid of everything... and I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried talking to people about it, and it doesn't help. *sigh*

(((((((EyesofSadness3)))))))
Although it might feel like these feelings will never pass, they do. When I feel anxious, I try to do something relaxing. Is there something you can do until you feel less panicky? Read a book, take a hot bath, go for a walk? Sometimes the smaller things make the biggest difference.

You CAN be happy, it just takes time...and hard work. I hope you're seeing a professional about your concerns.

no, im not seeing a professional because i cant. My dad won't let me. he doesn't even like me seeing the school councelor. He says they'll just put me on meds and I'll be fine without any of it. I know I won't be fine.

Sorry you're having a hard time. A counselor can't put you on meds so don't worry about that. I think your dad is worried/scared and hoping it wll go away. When I was in grade school I used to have panic attacks because I was very shy. I had no idea what was happening and never told anyone. Luckily they went away as I got older but I wish I asked for help.

One suggestion I can give you, is too accept the feeling when it comes. Naturally when we're panicked our minds race and so do our bodies. Some people even worry they might die, but don't worry it won't happen. Always remember no matter what the panic attack will end and the less you worry about it, the faster it will go away. When the panic comes we try to stop it and feel over whelmed. If you can learn to accept the panic attack - eventually it will go away. The panic relies on your fear - so try to be calm and matter of fact when it comes. Take some slow deep breaths usig your stomach muscles. You can practice these breathing exercises and visualze gettting through the panic attack. You can beat this.

yea, ive tried calming down. i never can, i just end up crying. i cry pretty much everyday. sometimes over and over

eyes of sadness -- I have felt scared of everything too. And I have tried talking to people and it seemed to make me feel worse, depending on who they were. There are people who understand, and just knowing that they understand can help so much I'm thinking of you and hope you feel stronger very soon

Hello, EyesofSadness3. I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time. Please continue to talk to us so we know how you are doing.

I am sorry you are in such pain. You are not alone hon so hopefully you will gain some insights and strength from sharing. I know that feeling that things will never get better but it will. Love yourself and treat yourself with kindness. I often turn to nature to distract me and focus my attention so that I can stop thinking about things that take me down. I may go into my garden and just spend time examining the magic of a single flower. Some people listen to music or do something creative. I find often accomplishing something, even if it is just tidying my desk or getting to a long put of task can help pick my up. If just for a while it is worth the break.

I wonder if there isn't someone else you could talk to. A friend or another family member. If things get really bad don't be afraid to call a local crisis phone line.

Keeping the hope alive for you.

I have talked to my parents, my friends, and my school councelor about all of this. Talking to certain people does help at the moment, but it hasn't solved my problems. Taking on tasks does help distract me, but sometimes I'm so depressed I just feel like lying around. So then, I don't accomplish anything. *sigh*

unfortunately, I now know and realize that no one can help us but ourselves and I know how much that sucks. I hate it but it is true.

That is why when we talk to others, it helps only temporarily.

I used to get actual panic attacks but now I don't because this is what I used to do:

when I felt it coming on I would not resist it and I would let it do whatever it wants to me no matter how uncomfortable it made me. I would even talk to it, like, "ok, so I am dying so what, let it happen, ok, and this is how it feels ok so what, and i'm scared ok, so what, and I let it take me over and fully feel it sort of observe it as if I was seeing it in someone else and then because I did all this it lost all its power because it could not do anything to me and I never died! It is powerless, just feelings, wrong feelings

don't fight it, just go with it.

This is true with any anxiety feeling or thoughts or anything

So tough to do but it is the key

hope it helped some

Yea, I know I should just try to relax when I have panic attacks. I have tried to just breathe, but it is so hard. I get panic attacks all the time, mostly when I am surrounded by people. I think this is because I might have social phobia.

What Feary said is so true - that's what I said earlier. I used to feel like you when I was a young teenager and I was terribly shy. I didn't know what was happening to me. Eventually as I matured it got better thank God.

But if you could speak with a counselor or do something to increase your confidence - this would help you get over it faster. Imagine in your mind that you're going to stand up to the panic - imagine the panic is a bully. This panic bully will control you - so let it come and don't let it upset you. This will weaken the 'panic bully'.

Yes, you MUST tell that panic bully "Go ahead do what you want, whatever happens, I can take it!" and you feel your heart racing, ok what else, you will feel short of breath and weird sensations, ok, you will feel like you are dying, ok, so tell panic, kill me go ahead and try, and let yourself FEEL everything

fully FEEL every sensation without reacting to it or resisting it. Let the sensations overtake you no matter what they do. Let them pass through you. Exaggerate them. Get mad at them.

((((Eyesofsadness3)))). Can your counselor teach you breathing/relaxation techniques?

How are you doing, EyesofSadness3?