Daily "Drop Off Your Anxious Thought"

anxious that a social engagement might become stressful.

I can relate. You are a good person Rose deep inside and very capable as well. You have not gotten the real appreciation you deserved from others that have come into your life path. And you are so incredibly worthy of that. And you are in my prayers constantly because I know that you truely try hard and deserve to be rewarded and those deep feelings of need should be met, and do deserve to be met. And anyone that has true quality can clearly see that about you. And it is very important that YOU yourself continue to see that and recognize your true worth.

I understand how it can be uncomfortable in a social situation because you never got the appreciation you so deserve. But you must keep your chin up and know that you are truely a good person and have every right to be amongst others and stand proud as a human being. And the truth is that other people DO see it and they dont always know how to respect it and often have the incapacity to show you the respect you truely deserve.

One of the important things to understand about other people is that other people have a hard time as well in social situations and deep inside each person is a bit of insecurity and uncertainty none of us really see.
However your time here at PC has given you a way of listening to many different inner voices that carry many of your concerns too. And the truth is, you not as alone as you think.

We all have a tendency to think we are weak somehow or not capable somehow and every single person has a hidden insecurity they often hide. So whenever you are in a social situation it is important to recognize that you are in a gathering of people who all have that sense of deep inadequacy. And there are so many ways people express that inadequacy that sends messages that are often misread or even misunderstood. Some are avoidant, and some look down all the time and some talk too much and some try to move around the room quickly and dont stay too long in one place, and some find a comfort person or even comfort group and stay there and kinda hide and others are in and out with some excuse that gives them and exit stategy. And Rose there are countless ways that different people adapt to that inner insecure feeling that helps them get through that social atmosphere. And some people are even loud and laugh alot and spit out jokes and appear to have it all, in inside that person can be even a bigger insecurity they hide.

So in many ways when you walk into a room of people that are gathering together it is a group of people who are so worried about themselves that most of the time, they don't even know how you feel and they also look to you for some kind approval or a message that says they are ok with you and they are safe.

If you really think about how you excel with other people, it is when you put out efforts so they can feel comfortable, that is actually your specialty. And if you really think about how others respond to you, example, boyfriend and brother and even patients, you are the one doing most of the giving and support and they are the ones in need. And in many ways you are above them in that capacity and they know it and they can not even compare to your strength and ability to provide comfort and security. And you have a strength about you that most people do not have and it confuses you into thinking that your unworthy because others don't give to you the way you can give to them.

So in reality Rose, your so good at what you do and you don't truely give yourself enough credit and you can't seem to understand that the quality you have is rare and that is why you are lonely. And your not lonely because you don't deserve to have attention, your lonely because so few know how to pay attention and give.

And because you cant see that? You have trouble rewarding yourself and allowing yourself to reach out in fear that there is something wrong with you. And it is kind of a conundrum.

Open Your Eyes, See, Recognise, BE

Open Eyes

(((lost in))) Thanks for your suggestions. In fact, I am taking a break next week and having a caregiver come in. But as far as daycare, I wouldn't even suggest it. She's quite mobile and isn't interested in meeting other folks. She's the type that sinks her heels in when she opposed to something. It's been wearing me down lately, I'm not getting any younger myself.

I wish you luck with your situation. I like the way you approach a problem. You analyze and then decide on a plan of action. This way, you feel you have some control over it.

Totally understand. I cared for my Grandma for years. It was the most difficult job i ever had. I loved her dearly , but she was
abrasive, critical of everything i did, demanding and confused. Funny thing, i miss her. We had moments i wouldn' t trade for all the money in the world. We loved each other. If i could do it all again, i would have just relaxed more, been easier on myself, and looked into more resources. Ie i found out i could have been paid
A little by govt for taking care of her. I could have used that money then for more help.

Thanks (((likewater))), only one that has been there can totally understand.

Open Eyes, You observe so much in life. In my own fear, I don't always imagine that others are possibly just as fearful. In fearing rejection, I forget that others may need for me to express more interest in needing them (as opposed to me just being needed.) Long ago, someone told me that I need to learn to give others a "sign" that I would like to be more involved with them. Thank you for your thoughtful reply. It is very encouraging.

Your welcome Rose, and the thing is you do know how to do it, it is your profession. Only you havent yet realized that you don't have to have a patient there to do it.
As long as your not condescending, and I don't see you that way. Your actually really tolerant and perceptive of others. Its a mind set you haven't realized yet, people are just people wether they are patients or not it is really still the same.

Open Eyes

I think someone is mad at me right now and I don't know why. Going to call him in an hour, my stomach is a mess I'm so nervous.

thanks muncie, best wishes to you too.

I am nervous about a new job. Each week I get told there is some more paper work to do before they can schedule me. I have no idea how many hours per week they will give me. It will vary weekly because it is agency nursing.

Last Sunday, I forgot to do my weekly certification for my unemployment check. So I could not certify today either. The failure last Sunday created a "lapse" in weekly reporting, which is very bad to let happen. I could lose my benefits. I am scared about a number of things.

Tomorrow, I see my pdoc. She is new and barely knows me. I am very scared of not getting adequate treatment. I do not want to go in-patient. I have to do some training for the job this next Friday. I want to tell my pdoc that I feel very distressed mentally. I hope she will believe me. My appointments have been canceled and I have been seen too seldom, especially given that I take 5 different psych medications.

I am anxious because
1. I have a assignment due soon and I haven't mastered the skills required for the assignment yet.
2. These skills also come handy for the exams, which comes in 6 weeks. They don't give us time to prepare for these exams.
3. I am worried about another car accident that may slip in when, in the future, due to one reason or another (anxiety?) I may be inattentive on the road.
4. I am worried about internalised anxiety affecting my concentration that I may make mistakes--not just on the road but at school .

meddie - The pattern of worry you talk about is one I recognize from my own experience. It is very, very stressful.

What I tell myself is that, someday in the near future, this period of time will be in the past and over with. Meanwhile, if what I do to meet the challenges is inadequate, then that will be that. Because I am human, I will not meet every challenge in life adequately. There will be opportunities to recover from failure, if it happens. I am not in a position to see those opportunities right now. My focus is on trying to succeed.

While driving I remind myself to keep to familiar roads and just know that I have driven successfully on many, many occasions. (I too have a record of accidents.) My accidents made me a better driver.

I have been feeling anxious for about two days. I just feel scared all the time, even when I'm not focused on any worries. I am scared it won't ever go away.

advena, with me I get episodes where I feel fear begin to overcome me, almost like a feeling of dread. Lately I began to think if I changed my attitude and tried not to fear the fear, maybe it would soften the effect. To know, "that it will pass." I once clipped out a magazine article titled, How to cut down on chronic worrying. One of the points was "wait it out." "People who worry think negative emotions will overwhelm them or last a really long time, but any emotion is temporary." This was quoted by Robert L. Leahy, Ph.D., author of The Worry Cure. Hope this helps.

My roommate is about to go in for Total Knee Replacement Sx.... I am so worried that after she has her Sx she is going to have to go to rehab for 2 weeks... I can't bare the thought of being in the house alone for 2 weeks.................

I can not be at the hospital 24/7 where my loved one is in ICU. I must entrust his care to others, and to the Good Lord above. I must not try to control the outcome of his illness, because that is not mine to control. I must sleep now.

Still feel like I'll carry them with me. One, that I would like to stay on this site 24/7, but I've got too much crap to do, as well as take care of my kids once one gets home from school, and when my toddler when she wakes up from her nap.

Mainly, I have to go through these mountains of clothes so we'll all have something to wear tomorrow. LOTS of anxiety when I even close the laptop and look at an article of clothing.

I'm anxious because I just clicked 'post reply,' and everything I typed disappeared. Need to type it first in a word document, I guess.

Im afraid of failing...

Especially in school...

I have anxiety associated with a fear of rejection. I leave this anxiety here. I recognize that I am not going to please everyone, not everyone will like me, not everyone will agree with my opinions or like what I do, but so what? I am ME and that's their problem!!!

OMG!!

Me 2!!!

For the past few months I have been feeling like that...

But then I realize that I dont wanna lose my crush b/c of my anxiety...

So now Im just gonna for it and talk to him, b/c I have nothing 2 lose...well I like 2 think that there isnt anything 2 lose...

Wish me luck!

He's sick and I can't be there for him. He's sick which is causing me so much anxiety. I don't want this. I want to be worried like normal people worry. Not worry like this.

I had a horrible day yesterday, I hope my day is better today. I have been trying to focus on my business and this scheduling and canceling of depositions has been interupting with my need to focus on work. I missed opportunities because of this again and I just cant afford this and it only reminds me that the whole experience has interupted everything I had, did, am, and am trying to recover.

Open Eyes

Dear Rose76, my heart goes out to you. I can relate as I'm experiencing non-stop fear regarding my husband's health issue. All I can say is take care of yourself as best you can for his sake and yours. I wish him the best possible outcome. Feel free to PM me if need to.

1. I worry that my anxiety/depression is returning, because I have been feeling down and worried the last few days. I have been (reasonably) well for the past couple years and the thought of going back to that mental dark place where I was for so long scares me.

2. I worry when I feel like I'm being criticized/judged or that people are talking badly of me. I know it shouldn't matter what other people think of me, but it does...a lot.