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Jul 25, 2011, 05:19 PM
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I have not been feeling that great for about three weeks. I feels so stressed out.I feel like my head will explode. I have had issues with my oldest daughter, son has moved and I have surgery scheduled for Sept. 7th. I just wish I could cry but nothing comes out. Need some help from all of you!!!
 addendun:my living situation is also not the best. I live in a senior community. It looks just beautiful on the outside but its a nsg. facility on the inside. Not everyone mind you but enough to cause me to be very depressed. The people constantly knock on my door for things or etc. I feel I have to leave everyday to get away. The apt. is 450 sq. feet so it is very small. I moved here for cheaper rent...went here three times to check it out and never saw the old people. Mind you I am not young. I am 67 but some of the people are old enough to be my parents. I kid you not. It is impossible to have a conversation with a lot of them. I try to go a lot to get away but I have that stupid walker and it can be a headache to go. Also my car has no a/c so its been too hot to go really... I am really so tired of this. I know I am prone to depression so I never know if its me talking or the depression talking. I just know some of the people here are too much to stand!! I have been here two years and four people were found dead on my floor and one woman was on the floor a month in her apt. two doors down before they found her body and the only reason they found it was that the hall was stinking!!!
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Jul 25, 2011, 05:23 PM
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i no that feeling keeping all your stress in your head and exploding. What are the issues your having with your daughter. it might help you to post more about it and your op. it might make it seem less stressful. ill be ere ne ways if u want to tlk to some1. hope things get bettr soon
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Jul 25, 2011, 05:26 PM
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((((((((((((((Dee)))))))))))))))))) I so know that feeling of screaming on the inside......I'm really sorry you're feeling that way. And I'm so sorry about all the stress you're going through. I'm sending you many hugs and some calming vibes
 
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Jul 25, 2011, 05:34 PM
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Since the boyfriend came in to the picture the daughter and I are not close. She used to be my support system.Someone I could talk too, hang with etc....She is in therapy with boyfriend and now has discovered I was a lot of her problems. She moved me here six years ago to live with her but she was so abusive I moved out three months later and live alone with two kitties. I always went there, hung out at her request etc but the boyfriend consumes her and she does not talk to her brother or sister(alcohol issues but both are sober) and has given up all her friends so its not just me she is mad at. We tried to have a talk some time ago but it turned rather horrible.I left crying and we have not discussed any issues since. I feel I have lost her completely and I will not ask for anything now because of the relationship. I am suppose to have surgery soon and stay with her a few days but last year I had surgery and stayed with her she told me I was a baby, grumpy etc and told me when I had to leave and go home...six days. I had a hip replacement...In September I will have a second hip replacement on other hip. I don't know if I should stay there. I don't want to get kicked out...this is part of the story...I feel I have now have no support system. Son has moved to Fl. and other daughter is three hours away.
daughter is 42 and she has two kids who stay p.t. with her three days..then four with the father....daughter works for the feds, has an excellent position, boyfriend lives there
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Jul 25, 2011, 05:56 PM
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that certainly does sound stressful belle. any chance of staying with your other daughter after the surgery? if not, perhaps setting up the parameters before the surgery would be your best option. talk to your daughter about how long yu wil get to stay at her house before you have to leave so that yu do not feel like you are being thrown out when it is time to go. let her know how you felt the last time you were there. it is a shame that you moved there for support and now feel out of place. is there any way that you could go to counseling with your daughter so that you can work on your relationship? i hope everything goes ok with your surgery. remember to breathe. it will help with the stress.
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Jul 25, 2011, 06:06 PM
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no wonder your going throu a depressive bout again. is there a condelsent hospital you can stay in after your op. i dnt no what america is like with medical care (sounds messd up) but in ireland you can go 2 a convelesant home after ops 4 awhile so u'll be supported. R u in therapy at the mo. im sorry to hear things are so glum 4 u.
Your daughter sounds to be so filled of haterd aimed at u. i hate to hear people abuse their parents in such away. the way i see it parents nurtured us when we need it. your intittled to be cared for. Have you ne friends to stay with ? |
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Jul 25, 2011, 06:38 PM
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Hi, im so sorry to hear of all your stresses, wish we could take them awaySeems a convalescing rehab place post op would be best, hope one is available to you!! Also hope after you recover enough that you can find another more friendly and communicative place to reside~see that as so very important!! I will say prayers if ok, that both these come through for you in healthiest and friendliest ways. Perhaps someone from senior community center could assist you? Hope answers come quickly and you are feeling more hopeful and peaceful!! listening  Laurie...
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Jul 25, 2011, 07:44 PM
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I sympathize with you on that inside part
I don't have any advice on your situation with your daughter. Do you have the option of staying in a physical rehabilitation/therapy facility until you can take care of yourself? About your living quarters...might there be an opportunity there to help some of those older folks out? I'm sure some of them must be dying of boredom and loneliness. I'm talking about after you've recovered from your surgery of course. |
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Jul 26, 2011, 07:50 AM
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Oh Mike...I would rather shoot some of them..LOL
I work at the sr. ctr's front desk which is also on the grounds here. I am on the advisory council for the sr. ctr. and am secretary and I run a book club at the ctr. I also spend six nites a week with my neighbor who is 102 watching t.v. for an hour. I was an activity therapist when I worked and then I got a job working for the State of florida as a welfare caseworker working with seniors and the disabled.... Mike I am burned out........I need some fun!!!
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Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich The road to hell is paved with good intentions. "And psychology has once again proved itself the doofus of the sciences" Sheldon Cooper
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Jul 26, 2011, 04:09 PM
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I see now
You've done some very good things there and I admire that. I'm sure some of those people are a PITA lol. Much as I'd love to help older people I don't think I could watch tv for an hour for anyone  You deserve some fun and I hope you have it after you recover from your surgery. I wish I had some good advice for you. The idea of staying w/ your daughter doesn't sound promising, does it? A few weeks in a post-op convalescent facility would be great if your insurance will cover it. |
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Jul 26, 2011, 06:10 PM
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Dee)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
 xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
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Jul 26, 2011, 06:35 PM
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Hello, missbelle. Life is so hard for people who are emotionally alone. I will remember you in my prayers.
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Jul 27, 2011, 05:48 AM
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Hi missbelle
Sending you loving thoughts and hope you get the support and help you richly deserve.
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