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Lately, I’ve realized that the more I begin imagining a worst-case scenario, my anxiety worsens. I’ve tried distracting myself but I’ve become so good at convincing myself that they are true even though I have no evidence. I worry all the time that something bad is going to happen and I start to feel tense. How do I calm my mind so I don’t feel anxious? What have you done that seems effective overall?
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Usually if I imagine a worst case scenario I accept that an assume how I could cope with that. Then I start imagining other alternatives.
Trying to stop the fantasies does not work for me. Finding something that neutralizes it and something I can accept is a good first step. I also use instrumental music to calm down or yoga. Sometimes having a healthy meal or snack does the trick. |
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Is there something specific you are afraid will happen? I used to be terrified if I didnt hear from my bf for a few days, I imagined the worst happened to him!!
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Just for the record it works both ways... underlying anxiety can lead to an unhealthy way of looking at things, e.g. an overactive imagination
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Yeah I make up stuff in my head a lot when I have anxiety. I have a journaling app on my iPad and that helps, then I try stretching or calm breathing, or sometimes I just concentrate on my breath. Nothing I've tried has really taken my anxiety away to 100% but it helps tone down some of the bad feelings and thoughts. Also tensing my muscles and relaxing them helps some to.
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I practice 'Mindfulness Awareness Meditation.' New at it though, but it does work. You have to consistently practice it daily. Google it.
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If sitting still is difficult, yoga can serve a similar function. |
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Some days I really do believe what I tell myself and other days, I know he wouldn’t ever feel that way about me. Does it sound like a bunch of nonsense? Last edited by rukspc; Aug 21, 2014 at 09:48 AM. |
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sometimes we learn more from things that don't turn out well than things that are perfect.
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So true!
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Do the opposite. You know it is imagination (since worry is always about a future event and we cannot know the future) so counter the worst case with a better case or something you can physically do to make yourself better prepared in case of the worst case. I am afraid of getting old/of when my husband dies, etc. so I am reading investment books, books on aging, etc.
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perna, sounds like a sound idea to me.
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There is one more thing I’d like to mention without trying to sound annoying. If you care to read, I wrote a previous post on another thread that explains why I feel this way. http://forums.psychcentral.com/relationships-communication/352923-first-break-up-overcoming-self-blame-guilt-forgiving-myself.html Needless to say - it really is over. This morning I woke up to a text message that made me feel very numb. It summed up what I'd suspected for awhile: he is seeing someone new. Nevermind the fact that he insists on being friends at some point and he still cares for me does not matter - right? Nothing matters anymore. Every time I go back to those moments, I’m reminded of this: "Sometimes our mind knows exactly what the truth is but our heart keeps persuading us that it is not true. We tend to trick ourselves into believing what we want to believe, what we hope to be true. Then until that one person tells the truth directly to your face, your feelings just get hurt so bad...by what you already know. Then you collapse. The truth itself is difficult to handle but the truth from that one person who you wish would tell you otherwise is the worst." |
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To tell you the truth, when you are having difficulty coping, I don't think friends is any help to you. Everytime you see him it is a trigger - better to let the wounds heal. If he still wants physical affection, that too is a trigger when you are forced to break up with someone.
A clean break could be your eventual path to freedom. If you feel differently, I respect your opinion. My friend had fallen hard before and a clean break was the only way they started the healing process. Therapy is good and so are all those activities. Especially ones where you socialize with people if that is comfortable. |
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Mindfulness meditation sounds really good, yep also get this issue far too often to handle it.
It seems the anxiety is the culprut a racing mind which needs some sort of reason and rhyme to justify the incoming string of thoughts? ![]() |
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