[greenpunkergirl]

Hey all, I just figured out that I have anxiety issues. I know my biggest ones are coming from my jealousy. My jealousy isn't just with my bf and other women, although, that one is not so good. I have no reason to be jealous, seeing as he is a faithful man, but if a woman looks at him, I sure as heck would hate to be her. I am jealous if my best friend hangs out with someone else, if my mother gives someone else the praise I always sought from her, or the typical someone has something that I want. If in a bad one of these modes, which seem to come out of nowhere, I start freaking. I get upset to the point of having a panic attack. I don't know if there is any way other than meds I can't afford to control this, but I feel that if there is I am open to trying any method. Does anyone know what to do? Thanks!

[Noncomposmentis8]

Well, people have told me to Breath and meditate and stuff...The breathing does help...Get involved in a CRAZY videogame to get your mind off it....

I deff. know what you mean though, I have the same problem...Tell your bf that it bothers you.

[Fuzzybear]

jealousy = hurt and anger (hard to admit to) so translates to panic?

As you say you're jealous if your mother gives someone else praise which she failed to give to you, it sounds like this is very painful for you...... I can relate, my mother never praised me...

Deep breathing, distraction, meditation, journalling and therapy woud help - and posting here.

Jealousy is a "normal" emotion, just like anger is, and nothing to be ashamed of. But learning to understand yourself and control your reactions will make your life better!

Thinking of you,

Fuzzy

punky i am a very jealous person. i think it stems from not being praised or told i was loved when i was a kid too. i get jealous if my parents spend their attention on others which they always have done. everyone else comes beforeme. i get jealous if my best friendgoes out with someone else and doesnt ask me. i get jealous in here even,and possessive. i find it ugly and unattractive in myselfnut i cant help it no matter how hard i try.it's lack of self esteem and confidence in my case. here for you sweety. pm me whenever. love ya, kerry xoxoxoxoxoxo

[asylumgardens]

I too am very jealous, and I hate it.. I don't really know how to control it, and it doesn't lead to panic for me, but I think if you are really full of panic, the general ways to treat it are best.. calm your breathing, make yourself comfortable, do something you like that will distract and/or calm you.. I don't know how to deal with jealousy, though. Maybe that is something a therapist can help with?

[Tigerlilly]

Bottom line, is you have to do what it takes you make yourself feel better about yourself. I used to be the most jealous ***** out there, but I made some changes, inside and out. I realized, all this 'sexy-sexy' game is just that. We all play it, so there it is. It's not gonna make you feel better to be someone else. It's not.
Don't try to be Angelina Jolie, but hell, girl, recognize your sexy, your pretty, your fun, your worth, and if you are with someone who won't, the best thing you can do is lose the dead weight. I know people will disagree, but I've got more advice (none sound as that, though), but here it is:
Be your own best friend. We women need to stop telling ourselves we are not good enough. I mean, not good enough for whom or for what?
What helps with my anxiety (besides Xanax when it gets really bad) is realizing not everybody has it so much better than me. Seriously, think of your girlfriends/family who call you crying or complaining about their lives, clueless to what real suffering is.
I mean, they are hurting too, not just us. For me, I know I can't do things other people can do and enjoy because I'm freaking out with anxiety, and that sucks. It really does, but the bottom line is, when I'm freaking out with anxiety, I don't want to do those things anyway, so why obsess over the fact that I *should* want to do those things? No, take care of yourself. who else is gonna do it?

I mean, we all feel like we should be "normal". We should do this and that. Well, I should want to eat steamed fish and broccoli every day. I should want to run 5 miles every day. I should want to give every scrap of clothing I haven't worn in the last 6 mos. to GoodWill. I should call my mother more often. I should clean the freakin' dust bunnies under my bed more often. I should plant some freakin' pansies or whatever in my front yard, but you know what? I didn't do any of that. None! And I'm REFUSING to feel bad about it. So what?

I will do what I can do when I can do it. That's my motto when I'm feeling down, and I feel down enough to be a recluse for days on end, BUT, don't ever lose hope. You can always feel better, just realize no one feels great all the time.

[Fuzzybear]

[lavendersteph]

i also know how that feels my mother has always treated me not like her daughter but as her competition for my father's love today she told me to go to the store with my dad like if i were his wife because he did not want to go with her i myself wanted to spend my money at the store i did not care who i went with but she always does that to me and she makes me feel bad when me and my sister fight she always takes her side and defends her from me so i know how it feels to want ur mom's love and feel like you don't have it