disappointed

Well so much for my good streak....... My husband and I just cant ever have a civil conversation or disagreement or discussion about anything...We took our children to the carnival tonight and we had just bought six flag tickets a couple days ago...So im suggesting to my husband that I dont think its a good Idea to take our 2 year old, im trying to explain why I think this and hes just interrupting me saying no the whole time like i wasnt even speaking.... So i just shut up and dropped it. But the rest of the night was ruined I cant talk to him about anything I feel like our whole relationship is on his authority we only do what he wants to when he wants to....If i suggest doing something he shoots it down before I even get the words out..This is so frustrating to me...I feel as though I want to give up I dont want to fight for us anymore cause i feel their is no us only him ruler of the house....I recently disclosed that i have found my real father on here and is it wrong of me to want him as my husband to be with me when I meet them for the first time????!!!! He wont go with me he says im not going to put him in akward position....Is this selfish of me or somehow wrong of me to want my husband their to support me...I feel he dosnt support me at all in anything I do...I just dont know what to do anymore...I feel as though my depression will never get better cause he always brings me down so much.....

Think about counseling before the children suffer anymore than necessary.

You can grab the bull by the horns here.

Take necessary action.

It's not getting better, it only looks that way on a good day.

You have to change some dynamics to really heal this relationship.

I hope for you all the courage and strength to change this situation into a positive one, whatever it takes. You can do it.

peace,
nightbird

Im only 18 so i dont really have any experience on the subject at all, and im pretty new to this site, as you can see, but my question for you, is - does your husband know how you feel?

if you've never told him how his behavior bothers you and makes you feel like your voice goes unheard, then perhaps he doesnt know hes doing anything wrong. It may be possible he has no idea his actions bother you, and no matter how slim the chances are my advise is to try talk to him about it.

I would try to wait until everyone is in a good mood with no tension and try to take a seat with him to talk about it - maybe at the end of a meal with him. let him know how you feel. You don't have to make a whole conversation out of it, but take a minute to tell him. Let what you said sink in and then wait for another good time to ask him if he has thought about what you told him, because you wont want to put him on the spot after a sensitive subject.

Then just look for improvement over the next few days. even lok for little improvements he makes, and if you see any, dont let them go unnoticed - let him know you apreciate his efforts to change and hopefully the positive change will continue.

I may be way off, but i hope my input helps.

Best of luck to you and your family.