Will the bs ever stop?

I just recently did a late spring cleaning on my apartment and got rid of the homeless guy living on my couch. I am also going to individual therapy as part of my treatment since i am still on suiside watch under the va program. The objective is to get more stable. Friday night i come to a county mental health worker asking me if my neighbor can stay with me for 48 hours because her apartment flooded. I like to help people but this whole situation sucks. My apartment is once again a mess with dirty dishes on my coffee table and grape jelly smears on my dining room table and the kitchen is a complete shambles. Her 2 cats cry all night long and have fleas which can spread to my cats. I am tired of fetching stuff for her. It is hard for her to walk. Although she use to be of normal size she told me after her 5th husband was gone she started gaining weight. She is now over 320 lbs and can cook meals she just cannot clean. I am usually more compassionate but i am trying hard to focus on getting better. Help!

I would have said no way. I'm too fragile to deal with another person's problems. I'm sorry. There has to be another place where she can stay.

That's not right that the county mental health person put that on you. IT'S WRONG.

Yeah that is what i thought! I mean does the red cross have something against helping stupid people?! Got really close to calling a hotline but thank fully my best friend called and walked me through the stress.she says the dumbest things. Says jewish is a religion and a race.told her that hitler said that. Woman eats constantly and i am glad she brought her own food. She went through 3 double rolls of tp so far. Get unsolicted advice all the time. It has been more than 48 hours and her apartment is still gutted out...it is dry but no flooring. The apartment mgr is on vacation. The first few hours if i expressed signs of stress she thought it was about her. She just lays there like a female jabba the hutt. I am so pissed because she did this to herself...she made herself a prisoner in her own body. I do not intend to be so mean. But i unplugged my tv before she moved her stuff in...teehee. I know she is more capable of taking care of herself. It almost seems like she does not want to. Thx for lt me rant.

That sucks hard core, if I haven't already mentioned it. She can't stay there until her apartment is finished. You need to remind the person who put her on your doorstep that they promised 48 hours and that anything longer and your mental issues could be triggered. (In fact, they may be started already).

WRONG. I'm so angry on your behalf. People are just plain ****heads sometimes. They make their problems yours without thought of the consequences.

(((((NuckingFutz))))

This BITES!!! I'm with Thinker--call the guy who dropped her on you & get her outta there!
You poor thing! I'd be going ****ing nuts!!

Oh i doubt the county really cares but since i do i will be making calls to the housing authority and the tennants council tomorrow. You know how people sometimes take reading material into the bathroom? But cookbooks? Man some people are strange! Out of tp again. I went to her apt to get some more. She had 15 rolls! Yes i counted! Aside from the floor not being in place the floor has been sanitised and is now dry. Hopefully they will lay her flooring down tomorrow and she will be out of here. But i do plan on causing quite a rucus tomorrow.

Update...okay i did the dishes and made noise and she started balling...so i went and called the red cross who called the cops for a wellness visit?! She went back to her own place to give me some space. Meanwhile the crackhead apparently blamed his recent disappearance on me. I got a call from his crackhead girlfriend. I told her i have no emotional interest in either of them and that i will not answer their calls or see them or have contact with either of them. She said okay. This has been one heck of a weekend! I hate stress! I am going to take a klonopin.

sounds like a good plan. they can say what they like about the benzo class of drugs, but they sure as hell work when it comes to anxiety and insomnia. i wish they weren't addictive and could be used long term, because seroquel has too many side effects for me!

I can only imgaine how you are feeling. But maybe fairly close I got home last night to carpet that squished under my feet as the water heater broke and I had to call maintenance to come really late at night. I'm still not sure what's going to happen and when but its awfull. I started having a panick attack and too some ativan. Thank goodness I had some or I think I would have freaked out more than I allready did. Stress is a major trigger for me. And it does stink. Hope you get her out soon and back to caring for yourself.

The neighbor went back to her house because she cannot handle someone elses anger and just got bedbugs from a used couch that i was going to fog when this disaster happened so now telling everyone i have a bug infestation to anyone who will listen. Plus she left her cats here so i cannot fog until she takes them back.i just want to turn out the lights and not answer the phone or the door, put on some soft music and sleep until dawn.

What a mess! That blows. Bedbugs are all over the country these days. They had them at my apt in Brooklyn! Came in under the door. None of our furniture was used. Didn't even know what the bites were from for weeks! Yucko! There's a vinegar water solution you can use on the wood parts that touch the ground once you've fogged the mattress or upholstery. It keeps them from crawling back up again onto the couch or bed.

Sorry you're going through so much stress. Hope things are better tomorrow.

Foodstamp office tomorrow. Will be a long boring day, but i will be doing something for me that is productive.

Same here. I have work again (boss out of town). At least it will kill the time today so I can have therapy tomorrow. If my hyper mood continues, it'll be weird because therapist has only ever seen me depressed and distant.

Why do I feel like I'm in high school again with out of control adolescent feelings in general? Not that mine were ever in control...I just started to notice them more in 2006.

Anyways, waiting in line sucks...but like anything of value or necessity, it takes time and patience.

It will be good to see your therapist when you are manic. She will be able to see your symptoms in action. Let me know how that goes. I did block the crackhead and his girlfriends number from my phone...i will not even be able to tell if they contact me. It has been over 24 hours since i put this into effect. Those are two very sick puppies. Hope your day goes well. Let me know how things go.

I've been hyper still all day long. I like not feeling so depressed, but I don't really trust it.

The drug concoction I have to take to knock me out at night, literally I'll be watching TV or talking and then out the next second. That what my SO says anyway. He says I fall asleep with my arm hugging him and that he has to lift it off and it feels like it's a sack of potatoes.

I've been getting about 7 hours lately, but still, almost all day and night to be hyper then wham out! It's kind of weird. Plus my heart races during the day, I bounce around or limbs are all jittery, I find myself holding my breath. Meds are not quite right. Could be worse though.

That's my update.

How're you?

Still sounds like your meds are not right. Sometimes it takes days for for the side effects to wear off. Me, i am a mess right now. This past week has been filled with other peoples crisis and i actually tried to help them. They asked for help and both situations turned out as i see it, badly. My neighbors cats are still with me so i cannot bug bomb the place until her unit is finished which will take days. I tried to help the girlfriend of the crackhead and she ended up walking out the door with him. You know, sometimes i think she is doing the drug too. They said a lot of cruel things about me to eachother about me then just left. He says i am trying to break them up and i am not...they are the ones that come to me every single time. He said i was a psychotic ***** who has to take medicine the rest of my life so he would never touch me. 2 days later we had sex. She said he said he never touched me. It makes me feel crazy. I know they out of my life, but the words break my heart. I just need time to heal and pick my heart up off the floor.

I forget, do you have a therapist? This sounds like codependence...and I'm very familiar with it! That's how I am with my family. They hurt me or completely misunderstand me (and this is unintentionally, which doesn't seem to be the case with these people who are using you) and I keep on going back to see them or take their phone calls. I always feel terrible afterward, but I feel guilty if I don't try to help them. But guess what, your only responsibility is for you right now! You have to get well first. Easier said than done, but don't let anyone else take advantage of you. Why do the cats even have to stay with you while her house is being finished? If there are workers coming and going, why can't they hide under her bed or something. They need to go back to her apartment. They are not your responsibility and they never were.

I hope I don't sound harsh, but you need to get rid of those bedbugs fast! They're nasty critters and can carry bad diseases.

It's time to take better care of you. Why? You deserve a better life. Users can burn their bridges and sleep on the streets or live in a shelter or go to prison until they learn to stop abusing people and themselves (by getting help of their own). You're on that road. Leave the people, trying to grab your ankles and suck you down into their misery, behind.

Thanks for the feedback. Think i am at the end of the chaos. I have a therapist and will see her on tuesday. Mrs. Crackhead decided she might be gay and she joined the lesbian coffee club i belong too. Okay she has a boyfriend whn lives with her and she thinks she is going to date lesbians!? These people are really sick! There is a lot more to it, but i think i will save it for therapy. The cats i am stuck with the cats because she took off for a hotel until her unit is finished. Thank you all for being here for me. Keep your warm thoughts comming. Love, nuckingfutz

She sounds like an attention w****. Pretty much anywhere she thinks she'll find sympathy or plain old negative attention, she goes there, even if she doesn't care about the other people or have anything in common with them.

That's too bad she's messed even that up. I'd try to find new social activities she doesn't know about.

Don't know what else to say. You're handling all that chaos better than I would. I'd take the cats to a "no kill" shelter, give them the owner's name and address, explain the situation, and have them call her. Then bug bomb your place and leave so you don't have to face any drama that day. You can always pick up the cats the next day if the house isn't going to be done anytime soon.

But that's just me. I have really bad reactions to flea, mosquito, and any kind of bug bites. I get welts. Cannot deal! I have work today, but I'll check up on you and everyone when I get home.

Well, her family and friends all said no to the cats. The home restoration people said 3 weeks to restore the place. I am bug bombing the place now. The cats are in a separate laundry room with fans and their food, water, and litter box and fans to keep them cool. The neighbor is in a hotel. When i get finished i am going to clean the house, take a shower and get dressed and go dancing with my lesbian friends. The sick part of all this is i want to go see him while she is out of town.

If I was a girl and decided to marry someone with the last name "Crackhead," I would definitely choose to keep my last name rather than change it to Mrs. Crackhead. Unless of course my last name was "Sh*tbag" or something comparable. Hmmm. Cheers.

All i know is that i hope i do not see either one of them again. I went by and left a note on his car to tell his girlfriend to leave me alone. I do not have much money, so if there is a cover charge i cannot go. I have to get over this guy, i cannot deal with either of them anymore. I appreciate your sense of humor. I wish i could be drunk right now but i do not drink!