[larakeziah]

I've put my best friend through so much over the last few years and now I think I've gone too far. We had a party for her brother at the house I live in with her and her parents and I got so drunk I don't remember most of it. The last thing I remember was being on the extension roof and her mum telling me to get down. The next thing I was walking to the hospital. They couldn't do anything because I was drunk and so they paid for me a taxi to my brothers. My sister in law then drove me to my mums. I stayed their the night and went home the following evening. I spoke with her parents and they told me that I'd sworn at my friends Dad and my friend found out and she confronted me and I kept telling her I was gonna die and then laughing so she threw a drink on me. I don't remember any of this and she hasn't spoken to me since. It's been nearly a week and she just ignores me. I know there is no point saying sorry because it doesn't mean anything to her anymore cos i've said it so many times. I don't know what I can do! She is the only friend I have really and she's helped me through so much despite what I've put her through. Her and her family know about my Bipolar and I've already agreed with her parents that I don't drink anymore. How can I talk to my friend??!! I have noone without her! What do I do? Please help!!!

[vjdragonfly]

She may just need some time to let it all blow over. Ask her if there is anything you can do to make it up to her. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I wish you the best and that your friend lets it go.

[wing]

I think I would send an email describing what her friendship means to me and how sorry I am. I would also apologize to her dad.
Then I would leave it alone, and hope for an answer.

[eskielover]

Actions speak louder than words......if she sees that your actions have changed & that you are controlling your bipolar with the meds you probably need to make sure you are on & you REALLY DO QUIT DRINKING......then she will see that you are serious.

If she just accepts what you are doing then all she is doing is continuing to enable your WRONG behavior.....& that would be wrong on her part.

Sometimes there comes a time in a friendship that all you can do is show the person that you have made the changed necessary for the friendship to continue because there is nothing you can SAY to prove that you have changed. It may take years since it probably took years to get her to this point in the first place.

If you are serious about what you have to say, then your actions will reflect that & she will see that you have made the changes you talk about.....but it also may take time for her to believe that the changes are permanent & not just temporary to get her friendship back also.

You are in a tough place.....but only you can make the changes necessary to help yourself & to restore your friendship.

[larakeziah]

Thank you all! I wrote my friend a letter the other day and left it in her room. I was at my Mums that night so I could give her time to read it and think about what I put in the letter. When I returned home yesterday evening she thanked me for the letter and things were a little better, the atmosphere was better but its still not right yet so I think I'll give her time and see what happens. Thanks again guys!!